As far as I’m concerned, there is only one dessert that singularly captures the carefree, sun-kissed essence of summer at the beach: the Balboa bar. This perfect treat—a rectangle of creamy vanilla ice cream dipped in melted chocolate and rolled in your choice of toppings—was invented on California’s Balboa Island in the 1950s and is made for eating while you stroll the boardwalk or sit your bathing-suited butt right in the sand. (Fun fact: the iconic shop that created Balboa bars is still serving them up today and was the inspiration for the Bluths’ frozen banana stand on Arrested Development.) You don’t have to ferry over to Balboa Island to get one though; you can easily make your own right at home. This version is based on the big, classic Balboa bars us SoCal kids grew up with.

DIY Balboa Bars

Makes 8 bars

INSTRUCTIONS

1. Let the ice cream soften on the counter for about 10 or so minutes. Line an 8″ x 12″ cake pan with plastic wrap so that you have a bit of an overhang. Spoon the softened ice cream onto the plastic wrap, pressing it evenly into the entire pan. Cover with plastic wrap and freeze for at least a couple hours, or overnight.

2. Once the ice cream’s hardened, line a large baking sheet (or two small ones) with plastic wrap (this is where you’ll transfer the bars). Then use a sharp knife to cut the ice cream evenly into rectangles. Start by making one cut lengthwise down the middle of the pan, and another widthwise across the middle. Make two more cuts widthwise evenly on either side of the first cut so you have 8 equally sized bars, about 3″ x 4″ each.

3. Using the plastic wrap overhang, lift the whole cut slab of ice cream out of the cake pan (this will make it easier to separate the bars without smooshing their shape). Use a metal spatula to separate the cut bars and move each one to the baking sheet. Insert a popsicle stick into the

middle of one of the short sides of each bar, pushing it a little more than halfway in. Once you’ve prepped each bar, cover the baking sheet with plastic wrap and return to the freezer for at least 2 hours but up to overnight. The more frozen your bars are, the better they’ll dip.

4. When you’re ready to start dipping, bring an inch or two of water to a simmer in a small saucepan. Place the chocolate chips and coconut oil in a heatproof bowl and set it over the saucepan—make sure the bowl fits snugly over the top without touching the water. Stir the mixture until it’s completely melted and smooth. Remove from heat and let cool for about 15 minutes.

5. While the chocolate mixture is cooling, prep your toppings by pouring each one onto a large plate or into a wide, shallow bowl.

6. Now it’s time to dip! Work with one ice cream bar at a time, pulling it out of the freezer and holding it by the popsicle stick. Dip one side and then the other into the bowl full of chocolate, holding it upside down to let the excess chocolate drip off. While the chocolate is still melty,

quickly press each side of the bar into your desired toppings (my favorite method), or hold it over the toppings plate and use a spoon to sprinkle your toppings onto each side. Eat immediately (the first bite when the chocolate is still hardening is heaven), or return to the freezer until all your bars are dipped and topped. Pairs well with the coconutty smell of sunscreen and the shrieks of summer fun in the background.

INGREDIENTS

1½ qt. classic vanilla ice cream (I like Tillamook’s Old-Fashioned Vanilla)

8 food-grade popsicle sticks

20 oz. high-quality bittersweet or semisweet chocolate chips

(like Ghirardelli)

4 Tbsp. coconut oil

Toppings (rainbow sprinkles, chocolate sprinkles, and chopped peanuts are classic choices, but feel free to get creative. Crushed Oreos and toasted coconut are tasty too.)

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“Because I was shot, I’ve been turned into some kind of villain, and he’s the victim. This has messed up my whole life. This whole situation in the industry is like a big boys’ club.”

–Megan Thee Stallion’s testimony in the assault trial of Tory Lanez

“This is what happens when you don’t recycle your pizza boxes.” –Greta Thunberg on Twitter trolling Andrew Tate after his arrest in Romania.

“The whole point of being creative is that you’re tapping into a time of reflecting society back to itself that it might not even be aware that it needs yet. That’s what the artist’s gift is.” –Danai Gurira in The Cut

“It’s been really healing for me to hear how many people have been affected by [my film Everything Everywhere All At Once]. So many daughters and mothers have been coming to me crying, saying, ‘I saw myself in the movie,’ or, ‘My relationship with my mother is just like that.’” -Stephanie Hsu In The New York Times

“I’m not a victim, and I’m not the damsel in distress. I’ve made my choices in my life. Some obviously were made for me, but I’ve always been able to find myself again.” –Pamela Anderson in Variety

Good News: 96 percent of women working in tech say their friends and families supported their choice to pursue careers in IT fields.

Bad News: 90 percent of women in tech have experienced microaggressions at work, and nearly 66 percent say they have been treated differently than their male colleagues.

STATS:

27: The percentage of 50-year-old women in Japan who never had children—the highest number in the developed world.

7000: The number of New York City nurses who walked off their jobs and went on strike in January 2023, advocating for safer working conditions, shorter hours, and more reasonable patient loads.

24: The percentage of U.S. employers’ bereavement leave policies that allow workers to take time off after having a miscarriage or a failed in vitro fertilization.

75: The percentage of surveyed Americans who say they are concerned that people who have abortions could be charged with a felony or go to jail.

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I Got You, Babe

Bodycare brand Megababe (megababebeauty.com) saved my life and thighs. I never have to deal with painful chafing ever again thanks to Thigh Rescue ($14), a lightweight, easy to apply, ant-friction stick. It’s a year-round essential, but true savior during the sweaty summer months. –Marie Lodi

Conversation Starter

Seen on the hands of Gloria Steinem and Erykah Badu, the Clitoring (penelopijones.com) is a not-so-subtle way to show some love to arguably the best part of the snatch. Handmade in Brooklyn, the rings come in sterling silver ($157) and brass ($95). Get your finger on the pulse and become a member of the clitorati yourself. –Callie Watts

Vacation, All I Ever Wanted

I’m in love with the ‘80s-inspired sunscreen brand Vacation (vacation.inc). Every product is a delight, from the Classic Whip SPF 30 ($22), which looks like canned whipped cream, to the SPF 30 Baby Oil ($22), which is inspired by the questionable suntanning technique from our youth, but so much safer! –M.L.

It’s A Vibe

Shopping for a bathing suit can feel like visiting the fifth circle of hell because of frustratingly inconsistent sizing, but Kitty and Vibe (kittyandvibe.com, $58-$110) are changing the game. They’re the first brand to make bikini bottoms based on booty size, go up to a size 5X, and have small band options. Plus, the prints are gorg! –M.L.

All Clogged Up

I’m all about a comfy clog, but Hunter’s Unisex In/Out Bloom Clogs ($60, hunterboots.com) go beyond a good fit. They’re made from recycled materials and algae that’s harvested from cleaning up natural waterways. Not only do they work great in the garden, but they also come in a variety of fun colors. –Laurie Henzel

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More than anything, it’s about celebrating togetherness and showing gratitude for earth’s bounty. So bring some Midsummer magic into your own life by breaking out the drinks, lighting up a bonfire, and gathering friends for a game-filled dinner party.

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Origin Story

Midsummer originates from Scandinavian pagan traditions that welcomed warm weather and fertile fields. Celebrated with the summer solstice, it always falls on the Saturday between June 20 and 26 (though epic festivities stretch across the whole week). Pagan Swedes believed early summer to be inherently magical and used the time to gather healing plants, decorate their homes with greenery, and even deck themselves out in ferns to become “green men.”

Smaklig Måltid!

Eats and drinks are central to the fun. Pair pickled herring and cured salmon with crackers or mustard and mayonnaise for dipping. The libation of choice is aquavit—a distilled herbal spirit Swedes call “snaps” that’s been produced in Scandinavia since the 15th century. Serve it chilled in small tulip glasses. No Midsummer feast is complete without jordgubbstårta. Whip up this strawberry cake by mixing cut strawberries into vanilla cake batter, then top your creation with ricotta cheese (really!) and strawberry slices.

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Game On

The maypole is a Midsummer staple. The huge wooden pole decorated with flowers and leaves serves as the centerpiece for traditional folk dances, including the Små grodorna, which has participants hop around while singing about tiny frogs. Outdoor games are a given (especially after a few rounds of snaps) and range from sack races to fiskdamm, where kids use sticks to “fish” for prizes behind a raised fabric. (Just whip out an old bed sheet, buy some candy, and boom: fiskdamm complete.) Another popular activity is a good old-fashioned taste test. Fill Mason jars with unlabeled herbs, beers, or even aquavits to see who can guess the most correctly.

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Nature, Naturally

The Midsummer “look” isn’t complete without a crown of freshly picked flowers. Shape a piece of flower wire into a circle and use green floral tape to secure leaves and foliage as your base. Then beautify your crown with flowers (those with stems at least three inches long are easier to tape). After the festivities, dry and store the flowers, then display them during winter to ward off bad spirits. Oh, and if you fancy an energizing start to your day, another tradition is to wash one’s face with morning dew just as the summer sun rises. Early risers rejoice!

Gemini:

Five of Wands

MAY 21 TO JUNE 20

Stand up for yourself, Gemini. Even when it might be slightly uncomfortable, conflict is an unavoidable part of life, and just pretending like everything is fine is not actually working anymore. Considering your current circumstances, it’s time to get more confident about discerning when it really is for the best to let something go versus addressing it head-on. There is nothing wrong with pushing back from time to time.

Cancer:

Queen of Wands

JUNE 21 TO JULY 22

It’s your time to shine, Cancer. Go ahead, take your space in the spot- light because you have every reason to feel confident and radiant. This

is an excellent time to take major creative leaps and express yourself in novel ways. Dress how you want to dress, be who you want to be, live boldly and courageously because it is so wonderful to be wholly and unapologetically you. All eyes are on you, so dazzle them with a show!

Leo:

Justice Reversed

JULY 23 TO AUG. 22

Show some accountability, Leo. We all make mistakes, but how we handle them shows our true character. It looks like something went

sideways here, so stop trying to justify your actions and just own what you did! There’s still time to clean up this mess and make things right before it gets any worse or leads to something far more problematic than necessary. An apology is a lovely place to begin.

Virgo:

Two of Swords Reversed

AUG. 23 TO SEPT. 22

Choose wisely, Virgo. Should you do this or should you do that? You really cannot go wrong here, and the decision is up to you, but please make a choice and stick to it! If you get too caught up in overthinking the possibilities, a fantastic opportunity could slip through your fingertips. Let your intuition guide you before time runs out.

Libra:

Four of Pentacles Reversed

SEPT. 23 TO OCT. 22

Loosen your grip, Libra. It’s wonderful to hold high standards, but it’s something else entirely to hold yourself to unrealistic expectations

that are impossible to meet! You know that there is no such thing as total perfection, right? You can- not control every little detail because it will only make your head spin, so allow yourself to get a little messy and have some more fun, because life is for truly living!

Scorpio:

The Star Reversed

OCT. 23 TO NOV. 21

Face the facts, Scorpio. It’s wonderful to remain hopeful and to see the best in a situation, but it’s a whole other notion to live in a complete

fantasy world! Expect to have a major reality check that supports you in seeing your current circum- stances with radical clarity. When something truly isn’t working, the best move you can make is to just let it go and move on. Something far better awaits.

The Magician

NOV. 22 TO DEC. 21

Have faith in your abilities, Sagittarius. When a dream opportunity presents itself to you this season, you should absolutely take it without hesitation! Try not to let the self-doubts creep in to psych you out and knock your confidence. You never know what will happen unless you try, and it would be a shame to let this moment pass you by when you have so much talent to offer.

Capricorn:

The Chariot

DEC. 22 TO JAN. 19

Stay determined, Capricorn. You are embarking upon a major endeavor right now that will require your full attention, so do yourself a favor and give this moment your all. Don’t let any distractions or silly time wasters cause you to lose sight of your goals, because the sacrifices you make in the name of this opportunity will ultimately be worth it as you travel the road to success.

Aquarius:

The Moon Reversed

JAN. 20 TO FEB. 18

Listen to your intuition, Aquarius. Your inner wisdom is a powerful tool that is always available to you—have you forgotten about that? The lack of clarity is not the issue here; rather, it’s the part of you that’s not believing your instincts that’s causing you problems. You know exactly what your gut has been telling you, yet you seem to be talking yourself out of what you already know to be true. Let’s just stop that right now!

Pisces:

Six of Swords Reversed

FEB. 19 TO MARCH 20

What are you waiting for, Pisces? The winds of change are rustling, but it feels like you have been trying to resist what you already know is true:

everything has gotten a little too comfortable lately, and it’s beyond time to expand and grow to seek out your next challenge! Don’t be afraid to explore your options and just try something (anything!) new. Every adventure requires taking a first step.

Aries:

Death Reversed

MARCH 21 TO APRIL 19

Embrace what’s next, Aries. It feels like you have outgrown your current situation, and it’s time to make some necessary changes

right now. It’s totally understandable to be a little leery or full-on frightened, but I assure you that this

is for the best! Why avoid the inevitable? What awaits could be far better than you had ever previously imagined! You owe it to yourself to go for it.

Taurus:

Page of Pentacles Reversed

APRIL 20 TO MAY 20

Learn from your mistakes, Taurus. Not everything goes according to our plans, but it doesn’t mean that a miscalculation or a lapse in judgment equals an epic failure! What’s done is done and cannot be undone, so what is the point of beating yourself up here? Everything is a learning experience, so focus your energy on the future and what you can do differently next time to ensure your success.

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For those new to outdoor activities and wanting to spend more time outside— whether trying new hiking locations, venturing into climbing, or learning how to safely camp— most necessary information is not readily available, and quite frankly, the outdoor community can be quite exclusive and elitist. Although it may seem easy to “get outdoors,” the reality is that gear is expensive, knowledge of your surroundings is necessary, and the great outdoors are not always safe to explore alone. This makes the outdoor community typically white, affluent, ableist, and exclusive. It also makes it difficult for people to try new outdoor activities. But Unlikely Hikers is here to change that.

According to their website, “Unlikely Hikers is a diverse, anti-racist, body-liberating outdoor community featuring the underrepresented outdoorsperson… Unlikely Hikers is for adventurers who are plus-size & fat, Black, Indigenous, People of Color, queer, trans and non-binary, disabled, neurodivergent and beyond.” They were founded by Jenny Bruso and exist as an online community, with a podcast, and even meeting up IRL for group events.

On their Instagram, they connect their community, and pass along essential outdoor information. They uplift stories of incredible adventures from Unlikely Hikers, sharing what is possible for all folks. From humor to how-tos, they share posts such as how a backpack should fit, and their incredible journeys as a group.

Unlikely Hikers gather throughout the United States to do group hikes with the motto, “no hiker left behind.” They recently met up in southeastern New York at the Minnewaska State Park Preserve and have hikes scheduled throughout the summer with different focuses. On June 17, Unlikely Hikers hosted a Queer Pride hike with the Venture Out Project, exclusively for 2SLGBTQIA+ hikers, and an Accessible group hike on June 24 in Portland, specifically for those with disabilities.

As Unlikely Hikers states on their website, “If you see yourself as an Unlikely Hiker, then you are.” So if you’re excited to get outdoors, there is a community waiting for you wherever you might be starting.

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BUST has been a home for many incredible stories over the years, and has held a special place in the hearts of many over the decades. (If you’re feeling sentimental, check out this retrospective we did for our 25th anniversary, where readers share their favorite moments about the magazine.) As time passes and the social landscape changes, BUST has continued to publish fresh and innovative features on the coolest feminists of today.

BUST, like boygenius, was formed independently by a trio of badass women. BUST started out as a homemade zine in 1993. The first few issues were photocopied, stapled together, and distributed by its three founders, Laurie Henzel, Debbie Stoller, and Marcela Karp.

In those 30 years, we’ve created a bi-annual craft fair, published several books, and have had over 10,000 subscribers as of 2018. For our 30th anniversary issue, we decided to celebrate with boygenuis, the indie-rock supergroup that’s taking the world by storm.

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boygenius is composed of indie-rock singer Julien Baker, viral folk sensation Phoebe Bridgers, and singer-songwriter Lucy Dacus. In our summer issue, released on June 1st, the trio discussed their rise to being one of the most influential feminist supergroups of the modern age. The members of the band talk with BUST about their blooming friendship, their (sometimes rabid) fanbase, and Kristen Stewart, who directed the band’s short film. They also discuss their debut studio album, The Record, which was released earlier this year on March 31st.

Dacus and Baker had previously been acquainted since they both performed together in Washington DC back in 2016, but after performing on the same bill in 2018, all three women got together to record a promotional single for the tour. They decided that they were having too much fun to stop, and later that year, they released their first official EP as boygenius. How did they land on their unique and discordant name? How did the COVID-19 epidemic affect their success? How do they feel about their adoring fans? And who the hell is Maxine? You’ll just have to pick up our newest issue to find out!

But boygenius isn’t the only thing we’re highlighting this summer. Here are some other cool things to look out for in the 2023 Summer issue.

Check out our feature on Malaysian film producer and screenwriter, Adele Lim. Lim talks with us about her new R-rated comedy, Joy Ride, which came out June 7th. Joy Ride is the first major studio film with an all Asian-American (and predominantly female) cast. The film is raunchy, delightful, and diverse. Lim was open with BUST about the real-life inspiration behind Joy Ride, Asian-American representation in media, and her lengthy list of credits (including Disney’s Raja and The Last Dragon, and Crazy Rich Asians). “We’re finding joy and reveling in our own messiness, just like any other white guy’s R-rated comedy.” Succinct, substantial, and chock-full of intersectional feminism, Adele Lim’s feature is a must-read.

But that’s not all the intersectionality we have to offer; check out the other pieces on writer and activist Rachel Cargle, and our feature on comedian and “cat daddy” Marc Maron.

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This issue is also full of fun treats for those long hot summer days, like our recipe for grilled peaches, and DIY Balboa Bars. The only thing better than enjoying a cool homemade treat on a hot summer day is looking cool while you do it. Take a look through our ‘Looksee’ feature, where we list all the things we’re into this season, like this cutely packaged sunscreen, these size inclusive swimsuits, and unique sunnies to shield your eyes from the sun’s rays. There’s more cool attire featured throughout; our Get The Look section highlights several Malibu Barbie-themed accessories, like these Moxi roller skates, and this vintage polaroid film camera. But we’re just as comprehensive about our fashion coverage as we are with our anthropology.

This summer’s issue is also full of cool cultural pieces and historical topics, like the extensive feature on the lives of women in the rural mountains of Tibet. The story, written by Eleanor Moseman, details Moseman’s time spent with Tibetan villager Jamyang Tsomo and her family. It covers Tsomos daily chores, which include tending to yaks, harvesting barley, and looking after her family. Jamyang Tsomo’s story is a phenomenal glance into the lesser covered fierce women of the modern world. And she’s not the only cool cultural feature we have. This Summer’s issue also has an inside scoop on “one of the Middle Ages most fascinating figures,” visionary St. Hildegard of Bingen, written by noted historian Dr. Eleanor Janega.

So if you haven’t subscribed already, you’re definitely missing out. There’s something so special about receiving a physical print publication in the mail. It’s nostalgic, and reminiscent of the simpler bittersweet days of adolescence. Relieve the days of reading horoscopes aloud to your bestie and skimming the pages of a magazine for cute summer accessories. Alternatively, indulge your curiosity for knowledge by checking out our features on the historic town of Dublin, or the origins of Midsummer (the Scandinavian Pagan tradition, not the Ari Aster film!) And of course, as always, there’s way more!

We here at BUST are proud to provide a platform for everything; and our digital articles are no different. From updates on the new Barbie Movie, to abortion rights, and from Taylor Swift & Ice Spice collaborations, to coverage on an all girls robotics team in Afghanistan, there’s always an exciting online feature for you. Sounds enticing? Keep an eye out for us on your news feed, as well as on your local newsstands. Here’s to another 30 years. And 30 more after that!

Subscribe now to get your hands on this 30th Anniversary issue!

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1.) Join a Queer Book Club (Or start your own!)

Literature has been a powerful part of queer history since its inception. Sapphic authors, like Eva Kotchever and Radclyffe Hall, were both persecuted for their literary works, which contained overt lesbian themes. For a wonderfully chill and bookish Pride celebration, host a book club to honor one of these infamous queer writers. We suggest Hall’s most controversial novel, The Well of Loneliness, which was the subject of obscenity trials in both the US and UK. You can also join a queer book club, like Sapphic Lit, which is a literary pop-up held in over 55 countries. Sapphic Lit is hosting events all over the globe for Pride month this year, including pop-up bookstores and book swaps. Check out their full list of events here.

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2.) Have A Queer Movie Night

Whether you’re looking for a quiet night in with your favorite queer rom-com, or a fun interactive night out with your peers, LGBTQIA+ cinema is a unique way to celebrate Pride this year. Organizations like The Bush Cinema Club, New York City’s Dyke Cinema Club, and Toronto’s Queer Cinema Club host monthly intimate screenings of queer films. The screenings are small, seating only around 50-100 people. They’re sometimes even held in private West Village lofts, or barely known dive bars. The events are usually accompanied by themed refreshments, and the occasional aphrodisiac popcorn. Annual film festivals like the Queer Vision Festival in the UK are also holding screenings of independent queer films all throughout Pride month. Can’t make it to Toronto, New York, or Great Britain? Audience participation isn’t the only way to get involved: you can also donate your time to any local queer-owned cinema organization. You can even hold your own private cinema screenings with your friends, and include some fun treats of your own. Check out volunteer opportunities for The Bush Films here, and check out our list of sapphic movies written by women here!

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3.) Go To A Silent Disco

When you’re queer, dancing is a revolutionary act of defiance. Throwing on some Jessie Ware tunes and letting loose is a great way to get down this Pride season. It’s no secret that Disco served as a safe haven for queer individuals, both out and closeted. Disco also provided a platform for queer people of color, something that remains few and far between to this day. But long gone are the days of sweat-stained velour and Studio 54. And because roughly 60% of all LGBTQIA+ individuals experience anxiety, a packed room full of blaring music might be the last place you want to be this Pride. Luckily, there’s a loophole. Silent discos have been cropping up, and they’re a great way to experience a fun night out ​​— without all the overwhelm. For a small fee, attendees rent a pair of headphones with several “music channels” that can be switched over the duration of the party. Most silent disco events are operated by Silent Events. The rental company crafted the multisensory experience as an alternative to the loud, anxiety-inducing environment that clubs and concerts foster. It’s a low pressure way to enjoy cool, queer tunes with friends. You can check out their nation-wide list of upcoming events here.

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4.) Start a Riot

Pride wouldn’t exist without riots. The first Pride parade was a riot. If it weren’t for Marsha P. Johnson throwing the first brick at the Stonewall Inn (and the infamous riots that ensued afterwards,) it’s hard to believe that we’d have the agency that we do today. Maybe don’t put yourself in danger of being arrested, but see what local protests or grassroots movements are going on in your area. New York City’s Queer Liberation March would be a great start, as they initially organized to reclaim Pride from corporations by honoring the initial intent of the Stonewall Riots. And if you can’t make it out to the East Coast, QLM offers livestreams of all their events. Additionally, the website pridefinder.com is a marvelous multipurpose resource for finding a myriad of queer events, parties and protests alike. It’s global, and even includes a list of welcoming queer cities across the world. Check out their list of upcoming event pride events for 2023 here.

5.) Support Your Local LGBTQIA+ Historical Site

Museums with queer exhibits, going on LGBTQIA+ historical walks, and speaking with elder queers in your community are all great ways to immerse yourself in the more historical aspects of Pride this summer. There are plenty of amazing museums across the world that are full of rich archival history, like the Leslie-Lohman Museum, nestled in the streets of NYC’s SoHo. The museum houses a small gift shop, a private event space, and a collection that spans over 300 years. But you don’t have to be in the city of the Stonewall Riots to explore the historical significance of the event; There’s a whole museum dedicated to the Stonewall Riots in Fort Lauderdale, of all places. The Stonewall National Museum & Archive was initially a small queer library that has since grown into a museum that hosts movie nights, tours, and fundraisers for the local LGBTQIA+ community. They even have a digital collection if you can’t make it in person. There’s also the ONE Archives in Los Angeles, California, which is known to be “the oldest active LGBTQ organization in the United States,” and hosts the Circa Queer History Festival every pride month. To find a comprehensive list of LGBTQIA+ historical museums across the world, check out this travel list.

Whether it’s supporting queer-owned artists, flipping through a book, or watching a campy queer flick with your friends, we hope you find some informative, eccentric, and innovative ways to honor your LGBTQIA+ community this summer. Don’t be afraid to break tradition!

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The report was written by the White House Gender Policy Council, which was created by President Biden after he signed an executive order in 2021.

Ending gender-based violence has been a key issue of President Biden’s platform for years now. Specifically since he authored the Violence Against Women Act in 1994. This particular plan includes what the administration refers to as the seven main pillars: prevention; support, healing, safety and well-being; economic security and housing stability; online safety; legal and justice systems; emergency preparedness and crisis response; and research and data. This may result in “providing more support for survivors of gender-based violence, addressing online harassment and abuse, and conducting more robust research as well as collecting additional data on gender-based violence.”

While it seems like politicians are always more talk than action, one promising aspect of this plan is that survivors of domestic violence were actively involved in its creation. According to the White House, “the plan is guided by the lessons learned and progress made from the “leadership” of survivors, advocates, researchers, policymakers and community members who lead efforts to prevent and respond to the violence.”

The White House Gender Policy Council also seems to have an active plan on implementing the above-mentioned seven pillars. The plan will require the involvement of several federal government agencies, who will meet regularly in a Federal Interagency Working Group to discuss the steps of the plan. The four methods of which these agencies will roll out the plan include strategic planning and budgeting, policy and program development, measurement and data and management, and training.

While the national action plan to end gender-based violence is still in its infancy, The concrete steps the council have laid out as well as the knowledge that the plan has been guided by those most affected by this issue gives us hope that its implementation will be effective.

Of course, gender-based violence is not an issue that will be solved overnight, advocates to end DV and gender-based violence have been working hard to dismantle this form of systemic violence one step at a time, and we’re very thankful for that. Action plans such as these are becoming increasingly more important as violence against women remains a huge problem, and violence against trans people is on the rise.

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I began to do a lot of research, but I also decided to have fun with my alopecia and got the bald spots tattooed. One of the tattoos was inspired by The Omen. I’m a huge horror movie nerd, and since Damien had the 666-shaped mark of the beast birthmark on his head, I thought it would be a fun tribute.

Homemade Hair Oil Serum for Hair Growth

My research led me to a recipe for a homemade hair oil serum to help stimulate the hair follicles for regrowth. I mixed a bunch of plant oils—½ cup jojoba, ½ cup grapeseed, 20 drops rosemary, 30 drops lavender,16 drops thyme. and 30 drops cedarwood—and funneled the result into an old tincture bottle. Before I went to sleep, I’d put the oil on the bald spots, rub it in, put on a cap, and leave it on for eight hours. I also took a double dose of biotin daily. Biotin is a vitamin that helps your hair, skin, and nails grow healthy and strong. Doubling up on it boosted the thing my body wasn’t producing.

I learned that rosemary in particular helps stimulate the hair follicles, which in turn helps them to grow. And there’s science to back it up. According to Dr. Rae Lynne Kinler, a hair transplant surgeon in Greenwich, CT, rosemary essential oil extract works as a protectant against hair loss with pattern alopecia. “There is a study comparing it to Minoxidil for stimulating hair growth that has shown promising results,” she says. “Incorporating it topically is a good support player in this process.” So I started using a rosemary shampoo and conditioner and making my own hair spray with 80 drops of rosemary essential oil and 8 ounces of distilled water, which I still use daily. I spray it on my hair and gently rub it into my scalp; this way I can stimulate those follicles.

How to Reduce Your Stress Levels To Regrow Hair

But one of the most important things I had to do, and definitely the hardest, was to lower my stress levels. Dr. Kinler says that the elevated stressors to our cells, both from short-term hyper-stress spikes and long-term chronic stress, trigger increased cortisol secretion, which promotes hair loss. I know lowering stress sounds impossible, especially when you are stressed about the stress. I tried many different things: yoga, meditation, walks in the woods, but the thing that really worked for me was exercising every day. I started with 15-minute workouts every morning, and then I would make a healthy breakfast and jump into my studio and make art. I developed a routine of going to bed at a certain time and making sure I was out of bed at 9 a.m. I also turned off notifications on my phone during bedtime. Just being able to sleep through the night with no distractions was a big deal.

One of the most important things I had to do, and definitely the hardest, was to lower my stress levels.

After three years, my hair finally grew back completely, but with many more gray hairs. I’m assuming the stress turned my hair gray, but I don’t know that for sure. Whatever the reason is, I’m not mad about it.

Overall, I found that what really worked best for me was managing my stress. Working in my art studio, screen printing, and making jewelry for my company, Feral Hag—that was my zen. I also did everything in baby steps so I didn’t overwhelm myself. For instance, when I started working out, I started with very simple stretches. I’d also do something for myself once a day, whether it was looking for bones in the woods for my jewelry, taking a bath, or baking cookies. I made sure I always did something that made me happy.

When you think of cake, what comes to mind? Maybe it’s that Fudgie the Whale ice-cream cake you got for your 10th birthday, or the mind-bending Louis Vuitton handbag cake you just saw on TikTok. For professional baker Tanya Bush and writer Aliza Abarbanel, cake is the perfect device for examining society at large. The duo launched their indie print mag Cake Zine in spring 2022 to do just that, with surprising essays, provocative photography, recipes, comics, and even poems, after the Instagram-to-IRL friends identified a mutual appreciation for the dessert dominating their feeds.

Tanya Bush and writer Aliza Abarbanel

“Cake is this very nonessential but also very essential food item, in that no one can exist off cake by itself,” Abarbanel says, “and yet, there are also so many occasions in our lives—like weddings, birthdays, and even funerals—where cake is such an essential part.” That cultural and personal significance, as well as cake’s boom in popularity online, make it ripe as a conduit for contemplating deeper subjects, and their ‘zine is the proverbial cake stand it deserves. “Contemporary food media is trying to do everything everywhere all at once, and dessert feels like something that has been bypassed and sidelined,” says Bush, who is also behind the existentially minded baked goods IG account @will.this.make.me.happy. “This is a way of reclaiming its significance and using it to think about unexpected themes.”

The first issue, “Sexy Cake,” explored the erotic side of cake (see: Abarbanel’s interview with artist, sex worker, and cake sitter Lindsay Dye); “Wicked Cake,” the second installment, grappled with cake’s perceived evils in essays like KC Hysmith’s “On Being Bad and Snacking Well.” For its next act, Cake Zine will turn its lens on another classic dessert in an issue they’re calling “Humble Pie,” out this spring.

The success of Cake Zine, which has prompted well-attended events and cake-related merch, is indicative of an interest in art that explores the ordinary in unusual ways, says Abarbanel: “People are hungry to be doing creative collaborative work right now, and I’m inspired by that.”

I NEVER WANTED to meet Mary. Sure, I had heard about her. We had all heard about her. My teenage friends called her “Bloody Mary,” “Mary Worth,” or “the Witch Mary.” She passed through mirrors on mischievous nights when girlish giggles and flickering red candles tempted her out of the darkness. But during one childhood slumber party, my 11-year-old girlfriends and I took turns gazing into the bathroom mirror while chanting, “Mary Worth. Mary Worth. Mary Worth. I believe in you, Mary Worth.”

I really did not believe in Mary Worth, so I volunteered to go first. I was the most incredulous of our clan and the least likely to cower in a dimly lit bathroom with only a candle illuminating my craven reflection. Perhaps Mary sensed my fearlessness, too. Because after 10 minutes of chanting, spinning, sweating, and trying to sound badass, a murky image appeared in the mirror. When I narrowed my eyes, I saw her face, pale and turgid, with long dark hair and eyes blackened by malevolence. I screamed loud enough to shatter every mirror in the house. Hindsight bias might have distorted some of these memories, but I know what I saw. Something appeared in the mirror. But what I remember most about that terrifying moment was my girlfriends gathering around me and holding my shaking body. We laughed about it later. And we never played that damn devil’s game again.

Of course, young girls love to freak each other out. And chances are, you played Bloody Mary at your girlhood sleepover, too. Other popular and creepy games involved levitation (aka Light as a Feather, Stiff as a Board), séances (or Ouija board), or MASH (“mansion, apartment, shack, house”). What may surprise you, however, is that your mother, grandmother, and possibly your great-grandmother likely played the same games at their sleepovers, passing them down from generation to generation like a distorted “telephone” game. But while slumber party music, etiquette, food, and sleepwear may change over the decades, the emotions do not.

Confronting fear—especially fear of the supernatural—is an adolescent rite of passage. Psychologists refer to these ages between 9 and 12 as the “Robinson ages”—the awkward liminal stage when children crave and fear danger. This testing period ripens our imagination with creative storytelling and risky dares that heighten a child’s sense of identity. And let’s face it, it’s far easier to stare at mirror ghosts while we have the support of our friends.

Unfortunately, at times, this sort of supernatural experimentation has had terrible consequences. In 1692, in Salem, MA, several young girls held nightly séances before laying their heads to rest. Those nightly séances led to over 200 people being accused of witchcraft, of which 20 were executed and 5 died in prison in what is known today as the Salem Witch Trials. Many scholars have posited that the girls’ claims of demonic possession were a way for disenfranchised teens to rebel. It makes sense. If you were a woman growing up in Salem, you wouldn’t have had any more rights than a milk cow. Sowing discord in a sleepy New England farm town would allow a young girl to plant roots in the patriarchy that starved her of light.

FOX SISTERS, PUBLIC DOMAIN VIA LIBRARY OF CONGRESS

A few centuries later, in 1848, 11- and 14-year-old sisters Kate and Maggie Fox convinced their family they could speak with spirits by rapping a Morse code with the great beyond. Their sleepless high jinks spawned a cult follow- ing of knockers communicating with the dead and also helped give rise to the Spiritualist movement. (After be- coming national celebrities, the sisters admitted that the entire spectacle was a hoax.) But while the Fox sisters may have brought the occult to the masses, kids have toyed with the supernatural for thousands of years. For example, folklorist Bill Ellis writes: “Traditions surrounding Stone Age monuments… repeatedly allude to customs involving trips by courageous youths to challenge the power of the supernatural. Thus, we can trace a lengthy history of occult play activities like Ouija boards and séance rituals.” 

The History of Slumber Parties

While sleeping in the same room might seem innocuous today, it has fallen in and out of fashion throughout history. In medieval times, necessity required people to huddle together on the floors of drafty castle halls, with only straw-stuffed sacks and neighboring bodies for warmth. By the 18th century, beds became more luxurious. It might seem improper today, but in the 18th century, a woman’s bedroom was the place to greet visitors and have long intellectual discussions while sipping tea. Then the Victorians made bedrooms private and killed all the sleepover fun (at least with aristocratic children).

As cholera and tuberculosis ran rampant through nurseries, doctors recommended children have separate bedrooms to contain diseases. To the Victorians, sleeping was serious business, and only the undead stayed awake. For this reason, young women infected with tuberculosis were believed to be victims of vampires who fed on their blood while they slept. But the real reason why you won’t find many accounts of sleepovers before the 19th century is that sleepovers led to the scariest Victorian bugaboo—masturbation. Nineteenth-century American physician William Whitty Hall warned parents that boys and girls learned how to masturbate by co-sleeping. As a result, Hall condemned sleepovers because they caused children to “waste away the vigor and flesh and strength of the body.”

We can partly thank Sigmund Freud for girls getting their sleepovers back. Freud taught that masturbation was a part of childhood development and only problematic if a child did not outgrow it. One of the earliest references to slumber—or “bunking”— parties the way we know them today can be found in 1896. “A slumber party was given Monday night by Misses Taylor and Hawkins and was highly enjoyed by a party of seven,” the Marietta Daily Leader noted in a “Personal and Local” news item. Another reference appears the following year. “One of the novelties of the social season was a slumber party by the Kappa Gamma girls to their friends Thursday evening,” the Indianapolis Journal reported in a column dedicated to goings on at DePauw University.

COURTESY OF THE CHRIS HAIN COLLECTION

But these reports were rare—before 1900, only a very few mentions of “slumber parties” appeared in U.S. newspapers. By 1905, however, slumber parties had been mentioned in society columns 74 times. At first, folks found the phenomenon baffling. “A friend of ours who is not in society very deep wants to know what a slumber party is,” read an article in Mississippi’s Okolona Messenger of 1905. “He seems to have gotten the idea that the guests sit up all night with the hostess, and they talk and yawn and nod and gab and stretch their arms, and so on.” The paper attempted to set the record straight. “Our understanding of it is that people conduct themselves pretty much like people always do at a party, until late bedtime, when they go to bed in beds or on lounges or on palettes on the floor…and the next morning, a little before noon, they get up and eat breakfast, and then go home.” 

In the ensuing years, slumber parties stopped being a trend and became a tradition. Between 1911 and 1920, over 2,000 of them made it into newspapers. What actually took place at these early events is difficult to ascertain, although a big part of the action seems to have been the “midnight feast”—at which delicious treats were served during the witching hour. But here and there, a hint of darker goings-on can be found. 

For example, Wyoming’s Rawlins Republican of 1908 mentions a slumber party given by Miss Irene Daley at which fortune telling was one of the attendees’ activities. And Colorado’s Salida Mail newspaper recounted a 1909 sleepover where attendees told “awful ghost stories stored away in the memory of each girl, and which it is said they carried out in pantomine [sic] with the effect of frightening even themselves.” By 1920, other mystical activities begin to slip into these accounts. “Miss Olive Kay Waggener entertained with a slumber party in Warrington last Friday,” re- ported Florida’s Pensacola Journal. “The earliest part of the evening was spent in playing [card games], and as the midnight hour began to approach, the Ouija board was brought forth.” Sipping tea was out. Reading tea leaves was in.

COURTESY OF THE MISSOURI HISTORICAL SOCIETY

Slumber Parties and the Supernatural

While there is little hard evidence about what exactly happened at these earliest slumber parties (no TikTok or Insta!), folklorists have documented the fact that creepy games have been played at girls’ sleepovers for at least the past 50 years, and the phenomenon has been subject to a vast amount of research. For folklorists such as Elizabeth Tucker, these occult activities are more than mere games—they rise to the level of “ritual.” In discussing the levitation game Light as a Feather, Stiff as a Board, Tucker writes: “As in many rituals, the order of events must be faithfully maintained, the tone must be solemn, and the outcome is expected to be something al- most miraculous.” But rather than simply recording these rituals, folklorists have tried to answer the most puzzling question: Why do young girls so commonly engage in occult activities at slumber parties?

Life Magazine Cover, 1945

Folklore scholar Alina Mansfield believes that slumber parties are not just rites of passage— they serve as particularly feminine rites of passage, marking the transition from girlhood to womanhood. Slumber parties, Mansfield writes, are “reminiscent of certain cross-cultural and historic initiation ceremonies or rituals, which, often in the case of females…[consist] of some form of enforced seclusion.” She finds parallels in traditions of the Indigenous American Hupa tribe, where young girls approaching puberty are sent to live in a special “moon lodge” where they ask their spiritual helpers for guidance and gaze into a “shell filled with water.” Could this be similar to a slumber party, complete with a version of Bloody Mary?

Another important connection for Mansfield between slumber party games and traditional puberty rituals is their dependence on “rhythmic and collaborative actions that may transport a cohort of friends into a state of trance.” For example, both Bloody Mary and Light as a Feather, Stiff as a Board require those words to be chanted repeatedly. Even “the rhythmic spiral drawing used to divine in MASH” may have a transformative effect on the players, writes Mansfield.

SKYLARS CLUB, COURTESY OF MINNESOTA HISTORICAL SOCIETY

And above all, of course, there is the element of fear. Fear of the future. Fear of adulthood. And most importantly, fear of their changing bodies. One such bodily fear surrounds menstruation. Taking a more literal approach, researcher Alan Dundes posits that the Bloody Mary game serves the same purpose among American girls as puberty traditions in other cultures. Dundes notes the obvious connections: These rituals occur around the age when a girl first menstruates. They happen in a bathroom. And, of course, there is blood. 

These days, however, Bloody Mary is not just an American ghost. Ethnologist Petr Janecek notes that, through globalization, the same scary lady has made her way into Czech children’s folklore and appears as Krvavá Máří. In Sweden, she is known as Bloody Black Madame, White Ma- dame, Dirty Madame, and Creepy Madame. In Spain, girls must beckon Verónica. In Germany, she answers to Heilige Blutige Maria (Holy Bloody Mary). And in Russia, she is “the Queen of Spades.”

The End of an Era?

A few years ago, my teenage daughter returned from a sleepover, claiming she would “never sleep again.” Her friends had shared hyperbolic urban legends until the morning hours. For days she was afraid someone would steal her kidney while she slept. I was wary of ever allowing her to attend a slumber party again. I am not alone. The sleepover monsters under the bed today are much hairier than a hundred years ago. Before agreeing to a sleepover, parents must question the host about firearm security, vaccination status, access to online pornography, etc. There’s so much worry that the hashtag #nosleepovers has gone viral.

@sharon.a.life Replying to @marley._.spam1 #momlife #motherhood #sleepover #nosleepovers #childhoodtrauma ♬ original sound – Sharon.a.life

But keeping children home doesn’t necessarily keep them safe in the era of social media. And while confronting fear has always been a part of growing up, social media seems to have upped the ante, with users egging each other on to eat “chicken Nyquil” or swallow gobs of cinnamon.

Plus, the difference between facing the unknown alone or with a group is vast. When ghosts appear at sleepovers, friends wipe our sweaty brows and hold us close. Now, mirror ghosts have been replaced with social media mirrors. And the latter is always watching. Personally, I would rather take my chances with Bloody Mary, and my girlfriends.

Top photo by Sue Allen. 

Inclusivity within the beauty industry has come a long way in the last 20 years. While diverse models have been added and shade ranges have been widened, we still have a long way to go. Recently, the notorious makeup brand Tarte has proven as such.

Tarte has faced numerous discrimination allegations through the years. Notably, the racial transgression in 2018 regarding their lack of diverse shades; out of 15 of the shades released for their Shape Tape Foundation, only 3 were suitable for darker skin tones. The brand was completely eviscerated on social media following the release, and many called for more shade inclusivity within the brand. 

The tarte shape tape foundation shade range is LAUGHABLE pic.twitter.com/l2LSUFdoSG

— MAKEUP (@glowkit) January 13, 2018

Now the brand is in hot water once again after a video exposing the brand’s mistreatment of black creators went viral. Last week, social media influencer Bria Jones posted a now-deleted video on her TikTok detailing a negative encounter she had with Tarte. The result? Deactivated accounts, apology videos, viral tweets, and numerous hot takes.  

In the video, Bria explains how she was one of the many influencers invited to attend a Tarte-sponsored work trip held this past weekend. So what’s the issue? She notes that her itinerary was different from other creators, as she was being excluded from several events held during the brand-influencer trip. She ends the video with a powerful line: “I have worked too hard to get to where I am today and I will be damned as a black creator, if I accept anything other than equal treatment on these trips.” Initially, she appears to be one of the only black creators to be a part of this trip.

Tarte you will be dealt with! pic.twitter.com/gaajawW4H1

— TheeMarketingMamí (@WizMonifaaa) May 3, 2023

Shortly after the video was posted, Bria deactivated her account, likely due to the overwhelming influx of varying commentary regarding the post, some positive, and some in defense of the makeup brand. Tarte has since responded in a video that barely addresses Bria’s concerns. Tarte’s CEO, Marueen Kelly posted a TikTok on Friday that was half apology, half makeup tutorial, which many have since called  “imperceptive” and “disingenuous.” 

With statements like “Miscommunications happen” and “…The things that are important to me are maybe not important to everyone else”, it’s clear that both Tarte and Kelly’s attempt to rectify the issue was not only extremely inappropriate, but tone-deaf as well. The video has since been deleted, and another apology video (for the apology video) remains in it’s place.  

@itsmaureenkelly

My message to creators

♬ original sound – Maureen Kelly

Instead of an official press statement denouncing claims of racism, we’re instead given a thinly veiled makeup video disguised as an apology. There’s also a complete lack of acknowledgement of Bria herself; her name isn’t mentioned once during the ”get ready with me” video. 

There’s an uncanny disconnect in the way brands respond in the face of backlash. Brands like Tarte know that diversity and inclusivity is important to being well-received. By taking a look at this response, it’s clear that their attempts at diversity—and saving face—are rarely executed well. 

As a result of both Bria’s initial video, and Tarte’s “apology” video, social media has erupted in a frenzy. Other popular Black influencers who have spoken out in support of Tarte, like creators Fannita and Nike, have received an overwhelming amount of backlash for siding with a brand that has proven to be discriminatory on several occasions. Luckily, this scandal has opened up larger conversations about facing racism as a brand influencer.

We live in a post-modern, vaguely Orwellian society where social media is deeply intertwined with consumerism. But this Tarte controversy exemplifies that virality isn’t always the best thing for a brand. Being proactive, getting vocal, and being mindful about the brands you chose to support is an extremely efficient way to boycott brands that don’t prioritize inclusivity. Don’t engage with any of Tarte’s online posts, because in the age of beauty gurus and brand hauls, commentary is currency. 

Top Photo Credit: Mynocturnality via Unsplash

MATERIALS

• Large-lidded glass jar
• Small saucepan
• Strainer
• Small bowl
• Small spray bottle
• Fresh petals from 3 to 4 organic roses
• 1.5 cups distilled water
• 2 tablespoons of vegetable glycerin
• A few drops of lavender oil or your favorite essential oil (optional)
• A few small raw rose quartz crystals (optional)

INSTRUCTIONS

1. Carefully peel the organic rose petals and place them inside the jar. (Any type of rose will work, but red roses produce the brightest color.)

2. Pour distilled water into the saucepan and heat until lightly boiling. Then add boiling water to the jar and close the lid.

3. Once the contents have fully cooled, gently shake the jar to mix the petals. Use a wooden stirring stick to further mix the contents, if needed.

4. Open the jar and pour the mixture into a strainer over a small bowl. Gently push down on the petals to squeeze out any remaining liquid into the bowl.

5. Add the vegetable glycerin to the bowl, gently mix, and then transfer the rosewater mixture from the bowl into a spray bottle. A funnel may make this step easier if your bowl doesn’t have a pouring spout.

6. You can add a few drops of your favorite essential oil (we suggest jojoba oil for extra nourishment or lavender oil for an added calming effect).

7. As an optional last step, drop a few small pieces of rose quartz crystals into the bottle for an extra dose of self-love magic.

IF YOU’VE GOT appliance questions, Renae DuHaime’s got answers. And the appliance repair tech–turned–social-media superstar will be your new best friend/home guru. DuHaime has been fixing washing machines, dryers, dishwashers, and other appliances in Southington, CT, where she lives, for the past six years. In 2020, she brought her wealth of wisdom—and hilarious delivery—to Tiktok (@renduh) where her response video explaining why another TikTok user’s freshly washed towels were still smelly (see “Use Less ‘Laundry Sauce,’” below) went viral. Since then, DuHaime has used her platform to dispel viral disinformation (do not wash potatoes in your dishwasher!), drop obscure appliance knowledge (did you know the Samsung washing machine song is actually a Franz Schubert composition?), and inspire women to pursue careers in repair (right now, they make up just 4.8 percent of the workforce).

Here are some of this sage’s top tips and tricks.

1. RTFM, or Read the Frickin’ Manual: When it comes to appliance repairs, the magic really is in the fine print. “Literally every single day, I have at least one person who
waited around for me to come out to their appointment, only for me to say, ‘Hey, you could’ve learned this from the manual,’’’ DuHaime says. If you don’t have a physical
manual handy, they’re almost always available online. Just make sure to specify the correct year and model in your search, as these factors can make a big difference.

2. Clean Your Dang Microwave: The plastic in microwaves is fire-resistant (thank goodness), but this also means it’s especially susceptible to wear and tear from oils and greasy foods. If you’re not treating your microwave to some regular TLC, you may have an imminent breakdown on your hands.

3. Use Less “Laundry Sauce”: Two tablespoons is DuHaime’s magic rule for detergent. “People are very, very used to how their parents taught them to do laundry grow-
ing up, and those were completely different machines,” DuHaime explains. Almost all washing machines made in the last 15 years are HE (high efficiency), and most detergents are now more concentrated to match. Using too much can
create problem-causing buildup.

@renduh #stitch with @kraftykayjaye I might be able to help with your towels! #Laundry #LaundryTok #clean #CleanTok #detergent #2tablespoons #2TbspDetergent ♬ original sound – Renae

4. Fabric Softener Is Not Your Friend: In fact, DuHaime says, fabric softener makes clothes a legit fire hazard. “It doesn’t actually make your clothes softer, it just coats
them,” DuHaime says. “It can also reduce the absorbency of a lot of different fabrics, and that buildup in your clothing can also irritate—or create—skin conditions.”

5. There Is, in Fact, a “Right” Way to Load Your Dish-washer: As DuHaime explains, almost every dishwasher has a motor at the bottom that pumps water up through spinning spray arms. For shiny, clean dishes, face your plates toward the center of the washer, make sure cups are face-down, and always remember to scrape large food pieces off your dishes before loading. – Holyn Thigpen

@renduh How to Load a Dishwasher 101, featuring my clear dishwasher service door! ? #LearnOnTikTok #dishwasher #HowStuffWorks #ApplianceRepair #WomenInTrades #Tradeswoman #CleanTok #cleaning #CleaningHack #CleaningHacks #machine #DishwasherHack #DishwasherPods #cleaning101 ♬ Vulf’s Back Pocket Regroove – Moods

Top photo by Renae DuHaime

This article originally appeared in BUST’s Winter 2023 Print Edition. Subscribe today!

The elder tree, Sambucus nigra, is associated with folklore, superstition, and medicinal powers. Thought of as a protective tree, the elder was believed to keep evil spirits from entering the house. The elder is also associated with fortitude and strength, yet under its protective canopy of light and airy flowers, one might find a sense of inner peace. Elderflower liqueur, an alcoholic infusion of the tree’s honey-scented blossoms, may possibly be one of the most delightful flavors that I’ve ever come across. It’s floral, of course, but also lightly citrusy and tart. This homemade version is satisfyingly delicious.

Ingredients

1½ cups vodka
10 cups of fresh elderflower blossoms

½ cup sugar
½ cup water
1-inch piece of lemon peel 

Instructions

Remove the elderflower blossoms from stems completely and allow them to wilt slightly. Add 4 cups of blossoms to the vodka, making sure that they’re fully submerged in the liquid. Cover and refrigerate overnight. 

Using a fine mesh strainer, strain the flowers from the vodka. Add 4 more cups of flowers to the vodka, and return to the fridge and allow to infuse again overnight. Pour the elderflower-infused vodka through a coffee filter to strain out any leftover debris. 

Over medium-low heat, cook the sugar, water, and remaining 2 cups of blossoms with the lemon peel until combined, about 5 minutes. Remove from heat and cool. Once the syrup has cooled, strain the solids. Then combine the elderflower syrup and elderflower-infused vodka in a sealable glass bottle and shake. For best flavor, allow the liqueur to rest for a minimum of 12 hours. Store at room temperature or in the refrigerator for up to 6 months. 

Important note: Elderberries in their raw state, as well as the leaves, bark, and stems from the elder tree, are toxic and should never be eaten. 

Under My Umbrella 

makes 1 drink 

It’s said that one can get lost in their thoughts under the umbrella of the elderflower tree. One sip of Under My Umbrella and suddenly it’s spring, with all its charm and delight. 

2 oz. reposado tequila
½ oz. elderflower liqueur (recipe, above)
½ oz. elderflower simple syrup (recipe, below)

¾ oz. lime juice
2 cups of ice
Coarse sea salt
Lime wheel 

Prepare your glass by rubbing the rim with a lime and coating it with salt. Place in the freezer until ready to use. In a blender, combine tequila, elderflower liqueur, simple syrup, lime juice, and ice. Blend well. Pour into your prepared glass and garnish with a lime wheel. 

Elderflower Simple Syrup

Combine ½ cup sugar and ½ cup water in a small pot and bring to a gentle simmer over medium heat. Once the sugar has dissolved completely and the syrup has thickened, remove from the heat. Add 1 cup fresh elderflower blossoms and a 1-inch piece of  lemon peel, cover, and steep for 30 minutes. Strain, and cool completely before using. Store in the refrigerator and use within 1 week.   

Adapted and reprinted with permission from The Flower-Infused Cocktail: Flowers, with a Twist by Alyson Brown. Published by Globe Pequot.

Top image: Courtesy of Alyson Brown

The “Am I a Lesbian” Masterdoc, often referred to as just “The Masterdoc” is a document of questions and statements to consider if you think you might be a lesbian. The document covers topics like being attracted to fictional men, intimacy with men, conflicting feelings and preconceived notions about straightness. It was initially posted on the once-popular social media platform Tumblr in 2018 by the now-deleted account @cyberlesbian. The post blew up, and has since inspired numerous responses, think pieces, and YouTube videos, with many hailing the document for helping them discover and validate who they really are. And it’s important to remember how many people have benefited from using it to determine their sexuality. But as with many things that were initially progressive for their time, we need to question if they reflect our current cultural landscape. If not, it’s important to take the proper steps to avoid the spread of misinformation and erasure. Unfortunately the “Am I Lesbian” Masterdoc is no different. 

The document’s main focus is the topic of compulsory heterosexuality, or “comp het”, which is the theory that sexuality is influenced by societal factors. The document argues that “being straight is something our culture tries to force on us [which] causes women’s sexualities and identities to be defined by our relationships with men.” In a lot of ways, the document is correct. And it’s clear by looking at any sitcom, romantic comedy, or dating podcast, that we live in a society that thrives off of the internalization of very straight, very white, and very unhealthy relationship standards. 

From birth, women have been bombarded with the idea that our relationship status directly correlates to our worth. From crazy cat ladies to trophy wives, women are inundated with the relentless pressure to pursue relationships, marriage, and children with men, even if it isn’t in alignment with who they truly are. But this is an issue all women are subjected to, regardless of sexual orientation. To argue that it’s only exclusive to questioning lesbians is extremely misleading, as well as utterly perplexing. And it invalidates the gender roles that all women have felt pressured to adhere to. Furthermore, it entangles bisexuality with societal implications. TikTok user @feralfairy_ even has an entire playlist of videos dedicated to highlighting everything the Masterdoc misses. The document argues that if a queer woman experiences attraction to a man it isn’t valid; merely a result of being taught by society that it’s the correct thing to do. “Compulsory heterosexuality is what forces lesbians to struggle through learning the difference between what you’ve been taught you want (being with men) and what you​ do​ want (being with women), which is why so many lesbians have dated men at some point”  Following this logic, women who have previously dated men, and are likely to date them in the future, are all lesbians because they’ve been taught to possess a false sense of attraction to men. There’s actually a word for what the document is doing here: it’s called biphobia. And all 30 pages of the masterdoc are festering with it.

I understand that it’s for lesbians. pls understand that this tweet was for bi+ ppl who are questioning.

— jesse meadows (@slug_town) September 22, 2020

Although it’s unclear how many times this will need to be reiterated in order to be taken seriously, bisexuality is a valid and legitimate sexual identity. Bisexuals have been subject to erasure since the beginning of time. The master doc is no different. This statement, which calls for questioning women to examine the sexual fantasies they have about men, is an excellent example of how the document perpetuates biphobia whilst being extremely vague and contradictory about what it means to be a lesbian. “Your fantasies about men still somehow turn out to be a little gay. Maybe you’re penetrating him… you want a threesome with another woman, he’s very feminine, etc. It might be a ‘straight fantasy’ but you’ve altered it in a way straight people might not be totally interested in.” So by this logic, any woman who is interested in non-traditional sex must be doing so because she only enjoys having sex with women (???). We understand to some extent or another, that men who engage in “pegging” with women aren’t gay, because they’re still attracted to and having sex with a woman. Why isn’t that applicable to women who enjoy the same? It’s confusing to say the least; how could a woman who enjoys sexually fantasizing about men be a lesbian? Isn’t it more likely that she’s bisexual, or straight? Or is it more likely that the document is either intentionally or otherwise, exclusionary? TikTok user @pinkocean.mp3 highlights this, stating how problematic it is for being “incredibly self defeating [in the way that it attempts to] use compulsive heterosexuality as a framework for analysis.”

@pinkocean.mp3 i realize it was made by some random person on the internet but this bothers me bc it’s unfortunately been ingrained into the online culture #lesbian #lesbianmasterdoc #compulsoryhetereosexuality #comphet ♬ original sound – firoza ?

It’s important to acknowledge that the document has helped queer women determine their sexuality for years. Even Kehlani has cited the document as elemental in her coming out journey. 

Kehlani reveals that the ‘Am I a Lesbian Masterdoc’ helped them come into terms with their sexuality. pic.twitter.com/4LHXs1iKjH

— kehlani archive (@kehlanifiles) April 29, 2022

Although numerous women have found it helpful, that  does not nullify the numerous issues residing within the document and the way it’s being used. A lot queer women have attributed undue value to the document on the basis that it was imperative to their identity. Others feel as if it’s a gross oversimplification that excludes various factors, regardless of which end of the spectrum you’re on. Relation to the document requires a hyper-specific set of circumstances that may or may not be attributed to lesbianism, and overlap with behaviors associated with asexuality (feeling zero sexual attraction to either gender), transsexuality (wishing you were a different gender), sex aversion (being uncomfortable with sex in general), and C-PTSD (Being anxious around men). At its core, the “Am I a Lesbian” Masterdoc is little more than a 5 year old post made on a deactivated Tumblr account; it’s essentially a glorified and reductive “Am I Gay” quiz that’s being peddled as if it’s established academia. If that’s the approach we’re going to take, then we should at least look at it critically. 

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“Whitewashing” is a term we’ve all heard before; it’s usually applied to POC characters in media that have been recast or re-designed to appear either more Caucasian or less ethnic. (I mean, look at how they massacred my girl, Orange Blossom.) 

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— Momo ? Illustrator (@MomoSweetPeach) November 17, 2019

The term has found new meaning on Tiktok, and people are reveling in the discourse. “Whitewashing” is now being applied to black women who don’t ascribe to traditionally harmful stereotypes or preconceived notions about how black women should behave. “Whitewashed”, in this context, is a pejorative term used to describe people of color–namely black women–that appear to have assimilated to white culture. The term is also applied to black women who have a proximity to whiteness due to their friends, academic backgrounds, romantic partners, residential environments, or regional dialects. Black women who love coquette and cottagecore vibes, fantasy novels, alternative clothing, and preppy aesthetics are now being ostracized by other members of the black community; simply for being themselves by engaging in activities, aesthetics, and behaviors that are not traditionally associated with black women, mainly due to prejudice.  

Earlier this week, Tiktok user sexyrichlibra posted a rant on the platform stating her frustrations with being labeled a “whitewashed black girl,” namely by other black people. Black women who don’t adhere to stereotypes about themselves are somehow considered to be “less black” than those that do. And not only is that unnecessarily divisive, but it’s incredibly harmful on both a societal and personal level. For starters, terms like these reinforce preconceived notions about how black women should conduct themselves. The term also invalidates the experiences of blackness, racism, and discrimination that black women constantly go through, simply on the basis that they aren’t “black enough” to receive it. It’s also used to further villainize, isolate, and ostracize black women who don’t conform to prototypical racial characterizations. She states “Literally my whole life I’ve been told I ‘talk like a white girl.’ I dress like a white girl. My taste in music is ‘so white’, [purely] as a method of insulting me.” The video went viral, with over 4 million views, and 700,000 likes. 

@sexyrichlibra Here’s to being unapologetically ourselves all 2023 #chitchatgrwm #grwmmakeup #storytimemakeup #makeuproutine ♬ original sound – Bey ?

While the definition and usage of the term is fairly new, the idea behind it is not. Words like “coconut,” or “oreo” (foods that are “black on the outside, and white on the inside”) have also been used to demean black women who do not adhere to societal conceptualizations of blackness. The use of these terms are problematic in more ways than one. Many people who use this terminology either derogatorily or in jest, are other black people. And they don’t realize that they’re contributing to the same harmful stereotypes and systemic racism that they’re aiming to criticize. Just last year, social activism writer FeminismGoddess published a personal essay about the concept, stating the following: “I was STILL considered ‘whitewashed’ at the predominantly black school. That left me confused and very much lost. I didn’t know where I would fit in, and it’s no secret that society loves to put us in these little boxes. That leaves me with the question, Where do I fit in all of this? I just wanted to exist in a space where I was allowed to be me and not get judged for it… Do I go to a HBCU (Historically Black College/University) and get “in touch” with my blackness, or do I go to a PWI (Predominantly White Institution) where I would most likely fit it for the way I act but stand out due to my skin color?” 

The “whitewashed black girl” hashtag has taken Tiktok by storm, with many people pointing out how offensive and harmful it is. After a video of a black girl and her friends (who happened to be white) went viral, the internet was ablaze with criticism. One response from user swagmonkeypinkietoe highlighted an important point: Why do black women need to ascribe to a stereotype in order to be received positively, or even just accepted by the black community? 

@swagmoneypinkietoe #stitch with @thehannahleeyoder I HAVE SO MUCH TO SAY ON THIS TOPIC… #christian #racism #stereotypes #whitewashed #blackgirl #liberals #conservative #fyp #hottake ♬ original sound – aaliyah

As exemplified in commentary analyst Danisha Carter’s TikTok videos, Danisha is often called “whitewashed” in the comments primarily because of her elegant and verbose diction. But let’s examine this further: to call someone “whitewashed” for being educated is a show of internalized anti-blackness. If someone is “whitewashed” or “less black” simply for possessing eloquence, then by that logic, academia and eloquence can only be associated with white people. It draws the conclusion that it’s “unblack” to be educated, which is a racial stereotype that is a result of a larger systemic issue. Furthermore, adhering to alternative aesthetics, having white friends, or being well-educated doesn’t nullify experiences of racism these women are constantly subjected to. Danisha has also faced criticism for her appearance for wearing blue contacts, with people accusing her of “wanting to be white.” She addressed these comments with an admirable amount of poise and dauntlessness, posing the question: Must black women be criticized for everything we do?

@danisha.carter shop now bestiessss @desioeyes ? #makeup #beauty #fashion ♬ original sound – DANISHA CARTER

The term “whitewashed” sows the seeds of division within an already divisive community. Black people are villainizing other black people for not ascribing to their own preconceived notions on how their culture should behave. These preconceived notions about blackness are being used as a litmus test for who deserves to be considered an “accepted” member of the black community, yet those preconceptions are a result of both institutionalized and internalized racism. Institutionalized racism is why black women get made fun of for engaging in hobbies, dressing feminine, or being educated, and the black community only contributes to the system of internalized anti-blackness, division, and systemic racism by calling other members of their own community “whitewashed”. Earlier this year, TikTok user tiktoksbyalexa posted a video stating similar concerns, while highlighting the larger implications of what it means to be called  “whitewashed.” “We must broaden our horizons of what we expect and think black people should be.” And she’s right. Black people are not a monolith, and in an effort to thwart internalized blackness within the community, we’re just perpetuating more of it by pigeonholing ourselves into stereotypes.

Black women are constantly being criticized, whether or not they’re adhering to traditional ideas of what blackness should look like. As a society, there is little to no benefit from putting people in boxes based on how well they ascribe to preconceived notions about the communities they come from. These terms make it harder for us to make progress; we’re dividing the community and further isolating those who already feel alienated from their culture as it is. Blackness is not monocultural. Maybe the issue isn’t with black punks or lolitas, or with well-spoken content creators. Maybe the issue is just you and your own prejudice. 

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LOCATION, LOCATION, LOCATION

First, you need a location for your flower garden. It’s best to choose a spot that gets at least six hours of sun—shady flower beds will limit what you can grow. You can begin by growing a border along the edge of your house or backyard, but I prefer a rogue approach. An oval flower bed smack in the middle of the yard can give an area a new sense of space. Square or rectangular beds can add modern elegance. Flower bedswith curvy lines give a looser, warmer sense to the garden. You also need to know your climate zone, which you can find at planthardiness.ars.usda.gov. Plan your garden with flowers that will thrive in your particular zone. When purchasing at a garden center, labels on plants will denote what zone they’ll survive in.

THE DIRT ON DIRT

Once you’ve chosen your site, it’s time to learn about your soil and help its symbiotic microorganisms thrive. Every plant has different needs, and knowing your soil is the first step to successful gardening. I’d hate to count the number of times I’ve brought a beautiful plant home and plonked the poor thing in a hole only for it to die soon after. Though having your soil tested is a great idea, also walk around your neighborhood to see what’s thriving. Amending your soil is also extremely important before planting. Sandy, silty, or rocky soil is very free draining and can often require additional organic material like leaf mold (decomposed leaves saved from the previous year), compost, or well-rotted manure to prepare it for planting. Clay soil is nutrient-rich but extremely dense, so it also needs to be loosened and can be amended with the above organic materials to give your plants’ roots more breathing room. If you have what is called loamy soil, you are very lucky! It tends to hold the right amount of moisture and nutrients for planting and will require less prep work. Dig your flower bed 8 to 12 inches deep and prepare your soil to its specific needs. In subsequent years, you can just add the amendments of compost/well-rotted manure to the top of the soil to protect your hard-earned microbial life.

STYLE AND SUBSTANCE

Choosing a garden style can give your flower-growing some parameters. A classic cottage garden will have pastel flowers billowing over a fence or creeping up a wall; a mismatch of herbs, blooms, and even attractive vegetables randomly plopped into the ground—a cacophony of smells and color. I love this experimental style, especially for beginners. Mediterranean-style gardens, which feature plants such as lavender, rosemary, alliums, globe thistle, agapanthus, and salvias—are great for climates that receive little rainfall. Xeriscaping, which requires little to no irrigation, is a good option for those experiencing drought. If you live in the southern U.S., you can consider tropical plants. Middle Eastern and Moorish paradise gardens can be great inspiration if you want a calming space and straighter lines in your garden. I recommend going online or getting a beautiful book and seeing which images speak to you, then reverse research. What are the plants? Will they grow in my soil? Where is the best place to plant them? Though thorough planning is imperative to success, remember, overthinking can hold you back!

The author in her flower garden (Photo by Rose Callahan)

FLOWER PICKING

Now the fun part: Choose your flowers! Though I don’t fully agree with the age-old wisdom that flowers look better when planted in masses, it can be very beneficial for beginners. Having three to five examples of each species of plant is advised (more for a larger bed), and they can be planted together or dotted throughout the bed for a looser feel. A general rule of thumb is tall plants in the back, medium-height plants in the  middle, and lower-growing plants in the front of the bed, allowing them all to receive ample amounts of light. Color and texture are also important. If you like pastels but also are inspired by hot, bright colors, consider having a flower bed of each to prevent clashing, and accent the beds with a color that connects them. Different shades of purple can be beautiful together with a contrasting accent color. “Prairie planting” incorporates beautiful tall flowering grasses, often at the back of the border. Think creatively in terms of texture and also flower shape, mixing, for instance, spikes of salvia with umbels of yarrow and the daisy-shape of a coreopsis or rudbeckia. Try not to plant invasive species, which can destroy local habitats—visit invasivespeciesinfo.gov for info. Garden plants come in three different classifications: annuals, biennials, and perennials.

Annuals

Annuals bloom and die in one season, which may sound sad, but the benefit is that most of them will bloom all summer long. You can pick up some inexpensive trays of annuals at your local garden center, and a number of annuals do quite well from seeds planted directly into the ground, such as cosmos, calendulas, zinnias, Ammi majus, larkspur (note: all parts of this plant are toxic), bachelor’s button, nasturtiums, nigella, and California poppy. If you’re just starting out, beginning with annuals will add instant color to your space.

Biennials

Biennials bloom only in the second year—but they are so beautiful that it’s worth the wait. A few of my favorites are hollyhocks, forget-me-nots (Myosotis), foxgloves (note: all parts of this plant are toxic), and sweet williams. Plant them this year for blooms next year, or pick up second-year plants at your garden center.

Perennials

The backbone of any flower garden, perennials come back every year if they’re in the correct zone. They take longer to grow from seed, so you’ll want to pick a few up from a garden center to get your blooms going right away. Echinacea, catmint, anise hyssop, salvia, coreopsis, Johnny-jump-ups, true geraniums (not to be confused with pelargoniums), and black-eyed Susans are all easy to grow. Unlike annuals, most perennials don’t bloom for the entire season. Depending on your zone, some might blossom in spring, others in June/July, or only in August/September, so they take a bit more planning to ensure your garden has a succession of flowers during the garden season. They may look a bit sparse when you first plant them, but since they fill in over time, they’re a great way to not have to buy or grow new plants every year. Use annuals the first year to fill in any unsightly gaps.

GROWING PAINS

Just like humans, plants need their space. If you’ve sprinkled too much of a wildflower seed mix in one spot and now hundreds of seedlings are growing all packed in together, you must thin your seedlings and remove overcrowded little plants. This will ensure stronger, healthier plants that aren’t fighting for resources. If you are planting grown plants, don’t overcrowd them. They need space to grow as well! The Cottage garden style of planting close together limits the amount of weeding that needs to be done, but be careful of overzealous garden bullies that shade out other plants. Don’t be afraid to cut perennials back. They’ll regrow and often reflower! Deadheading is the act of snipping or pinching off a spent bloom from a plant, be it a cosmos or a rose. Doing it encourages your plant to continue to produce blooms for a longer time. I love to do this as I wander through the garden admiring the flowers. It doesn’t feel like a chore but rather helps me forge a more intimate relationship with the plants. At the end of the season, if you want some plants to self-seed (plant themselves), or to collect seeds for next year, leave several blooms and let them go to seed.

WATER WISE

Drip irrigation is the most efficient for watering, and though some systems can be high-tech and expensive, you can do it cost effectively. Simply purchase soaker hoses, or perforate a regular hose to make one. If watering overhead with a hose nozzle or watering can, aim for the base of the plants, taking care not to water the leaves. This achieves two things: you use less water by directing the flow to the roots instead of leaving it to evaporate, and it also helps prevent fungal leaf disorders. How much water varies, but a good rule of thumb is to stick your finger an inch or two into the soil—if it’s dry, it’s time to water. When first planted, flower gardens require substantially more water the first year to get your plants’ roots established. After your plants have grown to a sturdy size, consider mulching your bed with an organic mulch or compost, as this increases the soil’s water retention and provides extra nutrients for the soil. Bare soil should be mulched to prevent weeds as well. A Japanese gardening knife called a hori hori is excellent for removing the entirety of any pesky roots of a perennial weed. Please avoid weed killers as they can damage the local ecosystem and harm beneficial insects.

BUGGING OUT

You’ve done it! Your blooms are blooming. But, oh no! What is that bug? Before frantically spraying a pesticide or collapsing in depression at the fate of your precious plants, a quick search online using clear keywords can instantaneously give you solutions to almost all garden pests. Consider organic neem oil mixed with water and dish soap or baking soda instead of pesticides. Always spray your plants after the sun has set and the beneficial insects in your garden have gone to sleep. Lastly, don’t forget to enjoy your flower garden! It is so easy for us to criticize ourselves and only see flaws or further work to be done. The most important part of gardening is learning to sit back, get yourself a cup of tea, and enjoy your hard-earned blooms.

Illustration, Top Victoria Maxfield

Growing up, I didn’t know asparagus didn’t grow out of a can. It was a revelation to discover them fresh, and there’s nothing as glorious as eating them in season. Off-season, asparagus can be woody-tasting, limp, or tough. But in the spring—wowza! It’s tender and perky and alive! And spring spinach is like a superfood party in your mouth. Don’t even get me started on firm, sweet, delicious fresh peas. You can eat them raw, right out of the pod. What follows is my edible love affair with spring. Quiche is making a comeback, as it should, and it’s the perfect vehicle for showcasing spring’s bounty. Amp it up with a simply dressed side of arugula.  Ain’t love grand?

MAIN CRUSH QUICHE

• 9-inch pie crust
• 2 handfuls of fresh spinach
• a handful of fresh peas
• Minced garlic
• olive oil
• 5 eggs
• half-and-half or heavy cream
• Salt, pepper, and thyme
• dry ground mustard
• Shredded cheese of your choice

Preheat the oven to 375 degrees F (400, for a crustier quiche). Prebake a 9-inch pie crust for 10 minutes. Chop 2 handfuls of fresh spinach. Trim a heaping handful of asparagus and slice into quarter-inch-thick pieces. Shell a handful of fresh peas. Sauté a plop of minced garlic in olive oil for a moment, then add spinach until it wilts. Sauté or steam asparagus until tender.

Mix 5 eggs with a coffee cup of half-and-half or heavy cream. Season with salt, pepper, and thyme, plus a smidgen of dry ground mustard if you’re feeling fancy. 

Lay a bed of shredded cheese on the bottom of your pie crust. I love Gruyère, or crumbled goat cheese or feta, but cheddar, smoked Gouda, Swiss, and mozzarella are all fabulous. Sprinkle your veggies over the cheese, top with egg mixture, and sprinkle a handful of cheese on top too. Bake for 40 to 50 minutes until eggs are firm and quiche has a golden color. 

Other yummy items you could add to your egg mixture: chopped and sautéed leeks, onion, or shallots; cooked and crumbled bacon; chopped parsley, or sliced chives or scallions.

SIDE PIECE SALAD

To make dressing, mix 1 shot of virgin olive oil, 2 drizzles of fresh lemon juice, and 1 plop Dijon mustard, and season with salt and pepper. (Optional: Sweeten with a plop of honey or maple syrup.) Toss with baby arugula and top with Parmesan or Manchego shavings and sunflower seeds or toasted pine nuts.

PHOTOGRAPHED BY ANGELA DECENZO

Beelzebubs Bazaar is a new market for the witchy and macabre. The dark arts and crafts market is coming to TV Eye in Queens, NY on April 30 for an afternoon of oddities, curiosities and a little bit of trouble. The market features over 30 artists and vendors selling their eccentric wares including hand-made taxidermy, jewelry, apparel, home decor, apparel and more. 

 

 

 

 

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BUST Magazine is proud to sponsor this enchanting event, come early to score a free copy of the mag! Here are a few vendors we can’t wait to hit up:

Feral Hag

Feral Hag’s Heather Loop, who is producing the market, is a jewelry artist who crafts her creations from discarded animal bones that she harvests in the woods. Combined with different ores, leathers, metal chains, and jewelry fixtures, her creations come back to life in the form of earrings, necklaces and other forms of wearable art.

 

 

 

 

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The Beetle’s Dilemma 

The Beetle’s Dilemma “serves entomological realness” through tiny nature dioramas that include beetles or other insects in different scenarios including reading a Witchy Cookbook, sewing some buggy garments, reading tarot and other charming situations. The small dioramas are intricate and sometimes super tiny, even down to the size of a lighter. 

 

 

 

 

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The Ceramic Skull 

Angela, the owner of The Ceramic Skull, handcrafts gorgeous clay pieces for your home including plates, bowls, incense holders and candle holders with occult, tarot and astrology inspired carvings and images. The result is one-of-a-kind earthenware that will become an instant future family heirloom. 

 

 

 

 

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Mixed Mamas Creations

Mixed Mamas Creations creates unique and ethically sourced taxidermy, wet specimens, bone jewelry and other art oddities. These animals (who were not killed for the artwork) are preserved in liquid and can be displayed on your shelves, desk, or witchy shrine. Stop by her booth for your next statement home decor peice. 

 

 

 

 

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Chaos and Hell

Chaos and Hell makes “handmade metal for maniacs” including lots of jewelry options, wall hangings and other creations. Many of these metal creations pay homage to some horror classics including Suspiria, Halloween and other cult faves. Others feature band logos, weapons, burning churches and other evocative imagery– all hand forged by ore and fire. 

 

 

 

 

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Make sure to save the date, because Beelzebubs Bazaar is coming your way fast! 

• April 30
• Noon – 5pm
• Free Entry
• 21 +
• TV Eye (1647 Weirfield St, Ridgewood, Queens, NY)

Top photo: from @beelzebubsbazaar on Instagram

Spring weather is here to stay, and our BUST team is sharing our recommendations on five products that can improve your home and social life. 

Sleep Tight

As a large person who sleeps beside another large person, I can’t rely on just any mattress to get my beauty rest. I need structure, stability, and support that goes above and beyond, and Big Fig (from $1099, bigfigmattress.com) definitely fits the bill. This heavenly chunk of heavy-duty foam supports up to 1,100 pounds, keeps me cool, and it’s firm and stable all the way to the edge. Now I finally have a bed fit for a queen-size queen! –Emily Rems

Friend Finder

Friendship is hard—making friends, keeping friends, breaking up with friends—yet we hardly ever talk about it. Musician/comedian/writer LaneMoore’s new tome,You Will Find Your People: How to Make Meaningful Friendships as an Adult (Abrams), is like a handbook for shaping your chosen family, with enough personal anecdotes to feel intimate, and enough advice to make it real-world applicable. –Lisa Butterworth

Fill Me Up, Butter Cup

Ever since the Middle Ages, the French butter crock, or butter bell, has been the ultimate kitchen hack. Pack the simple ceramic top with butter and place it on the water basin, sealing off any pesky oxygen that will make your butter go bad. Leave it on the counter and voilà, spreadable butter whenever you need it for up to 30 days! I know it sounds weird, but it works, whether you get an inexpensive version (Mrs. Anderson’s Baking Butter Keeper, $12.99, thebakerspin.com) or a fancy one (Le Creuset Butter Crock, $44, surlatable.com).–Laurie Henzel 

Decked Out

If you’re into tarot, you know the deep symbolism the cards contain. Color Your Own Tarot ($21.99, Laurence King Publishing) lets you put your own spin on their sorcery with some color magic. The kit contains a customizable black-and-white version of the classic Rider-Waite deck, along with a tarot guide (by BUST editor Lisa Butterworth!) to get you going. –Laurie Henzel

Transcendent Treats

As a cookie connoisseur, I don’t know how Brown Butter Cookie Company’s divine morsels escaped my consciousness for so long, but now thatI know their sweet and salty goodness, I’m a devotee. Thankfully, the California-based, sister-owned brand ships all their flavors (including cocoa, espresso, and spice variations on the original brown butter sea salt) nationwide ($20 for a dozen, brownbuttercookies.com) –Lisa Butterworth

As of Wednesday night, the US Court of Appeals for the Fifth Circuit has reached a temporary decision regarding the legality of the abortion pill, mifepristone. 

Last week, Trump-appointed District Judge, Matthew Kacsmaryk, called to ban the drug nationwide by reversing the FDA’s approval of the abortion pill, allowing the government 7 days to block the notion. Although the US Government did decide to temporarily block parts of the ban, they chose to honor the parts of it that reimpose prior restrictions. These restrictions prevent mifepristone from being mailed directly to patients. That’s not all. This also includes shortening the window of time the drug can be used, revoking the previously approved 10-week usage period back down to its initial 7 weeks. 

This is a major setback for the fight for reproductive rights, seeing as mifepristone is the most common method of terminating a pregnancy. The ruling prevents mifepristone from being mailed out —which is how many women in the states where abortion is now severely limited were obtaining it. Impacting the ability to access the drug via mail limits safe abortion options for those who are unable to travel to a pharmacy. This was already overruled by the FDA in 2023, when the Biden Administration called to overturn a US Code that states that it’s illegal to mail “Every article or thing designed, adapted, or intended for producing abortion.” 

Now, less than a year later, a major win for abortion accessibility is being revoked. The approval for the duration period during which mifepristone can be used is being revoked as well. The drug was initially approved for a 7 week gestation period, but was increased to 10 week gestation period due to a FDA-sanctioned update in 2016. What’s awful about this is that 1 in 3 people don’t find out that they’re pregnant until around 6 weeks, so if you happen to live in a state that imposes abortion restrictions, you might be legally compelled to continue an unwanted or non-viable pregnancy.

Many are worried about both the legality and the ethics of this decision.Vox states, “It imposes restrictions on mifepristone use that no court has the authority to impose. And it wrongly claims that the judiciary has the power to override the FDA’s scientific judgments.” To restrict access is a direct infringement on abortion rights.  Considering that the legality of mifepristone has been up in the air for months, many are worried about their ability to obtain the drug in the future. The government continues to make decisions that seem to rescind years of progress and science. Unfortunately, the temporary move to stop the ban still imposes major restrictions on people seeking abortions nationwide. And that has us all worried about the future of reproductive health rights 

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Despite our long-running relationship with the plant, women in cannabis have been severely underrepresented. As of 2023, only 22% of women hold executive positions in the field, which is down from the 32% reported in 2017. Nonetheless, women are finally starting to make their way in the cannabis industry, and with a little digging, you can find a women-owned brand that’s tailored to your hyper-specific stoner needs. Whether you use marijuana to medicate, meditate, or relax, here are five sustainable and women-owned cannabis brands to check out this 4/20.

Foria Wellness

Foria Wellness highlights the intersection between cannabis and sexual wellness with their products like their Arousal oil and intimacy suppositories. They’re also focused on general wellness and relaxation. Their luxurious CBD bath salts are full of sensual aphrodisiacs like rose petals and cocoa, and their Relief Salve offers reprieve from menstrual cramps, muscle aches, and bad vibes. We just hope they bring back their beloved CBD aphrodisiac vape, which was unfortunately discontinued with the PACT ACT in 2022.

 

 

 

 

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Pure Beauty

Pure Beauty is a cannabis brand that is not only women and minority owned, but it’s also extremely ethical. Pure Beauty is doing their part to be both sustainable and charitable; their cannabis is grown with California tap water, and their organic, nutrient-rich soil (which they also donate to local parks) uses natural insects, fungi, and bacteria for optimal cultivation. They even use plant-based biodegradable packaging! Pure Beauty’s ethics extend beyond that; they donate a portion of their proceeds to fund incarcerated populations. They offer high quality cannabis, (including a pink “cigarette” pack of pre-rolls) for all your stoner girl needs. Act quickly though, their most popular products sell out insanely fast. 

That Badu

With song lyrics like “I am feeling kinda hungry ’cause my high is coming down,” it’s no surprise that Grammy Award-winning musician Erykah Badu gets high. So much so that she created her own cannabis strain. Earlier this year, Badu collaborated with Cookies Cannabis to concoct the hybrid strain, That Badu, which was released on March 8th for International Women’s Day. The strain was specifically designed by Badu herself to cater to the needs of women and other stoners with uteruses.“The herb is for everybody, but we had women in mind [because we want] to further the conversation on women’s studies in cannabinoids,” Badu has explained.  The strain is a combo of the hard hitting strains  “Jet Fuel Gelato” and “Limoncello,” but it won’t leave you couch locked; Badu designed the strain to uplift your mood and incite creativity, leaving you in a hazy spell of happiness and motivation. Check to see if That Badu is available near you, and maybe you’ll be inspired to write your own sultry, smoke-induced ballads. 

 

 

 

 

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 Josephine and Billies

Josephine and Billies, often shortened to “J&B’s,” considers themselves to be the first dispensary both for and by Women of Color. Their name serves to honor musicians Josephene Baker and Billie Holiday, two incredible black women who were wrongly targeted and persecuted by The U.S. Government for their cannabis usage. J&B’s is making an effort to diversify the cannabis industry by widening accessibility to plant medicine as well as cannabis education. Their Los Angeles shop has been described as “Black Girl Magic meets Jazz Age Speakeasy,” and with products like Pamos’ THC Peach & Guava Bellini Cocktail, and Rose Petal Infused Pre-rolls, Josephine & Billie’s might just be the classiest cannabis collective on the list. 

 

 

 

 

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Kiva 

Kiva is a high quality edibles brand that was founded in 2010, and they’ve been making a name for themselves in the cannabis industry ever since. The brand filled a much needed gap in the industry at the time, as the ability to obtain reliable and consistent edibles was few and far between. Their decadent, expertly crafted chocolates (which come in flavors like Espresso Dark Chocolate, or High Dose Churro Milk Chocolate) are made using sustainably sourced cacao. That’s not all, they even offer an infused Turkey Gravy mix, which they say will “have the household back in harmony in no time.” Their minis are personally recommended; at 5 mg per serving, these Kiva mini bars are a fantastic addition to your stoner kit. Keep one in your purse for “emergencies,” or eat it for a bright and mellow haze.

 

 

 

 

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4/20 is definitely a time for some deep self-care. Whether you want to enhance your relationship with spirituality, heighten your sexual wellness, or just indulge in a good old fashioned bubble bath, these brands have got you covered. So chill out, grab your THC bath salts, and order yourself some cannabis champagne. It’s time to smoke a (lavender infused) girl blunt!

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In the heart of Brooklyn, surrounded by streets filled with brick apartment buildings and fast-food joints, sits a strangely untouched neighborhood of stately Victorian homes. One of these belongs to artist/director Syrie Moskowitz (@westminstershabbey) and her music-producer husband, Stuart Matthewman. The couple purchased the home in 2019 and spent the pandemic years fixing it up.

Renovating an old house was nothing new for Moskowitz. “My mom’s obsessed with old Victorian houses, so we’d buy broken-down pieces of trash and renovate them. I grew up stripping floors, tiling, sheet rocking—I can do lots of that kind of stuff.” As a result, she did much of the work herself. “I was up a lot of ladders in 2020,” she says. The final result is as idiosyncratic as its neighborhood. The walls are covered in old-fashioned wallpaper, chandeliers hang from the ceilings, and the entire house feels like a cabinet of curiosities, with each of its 12 rooms decorated in a different style.

Every corner is filled with Moskowitz’s eclectic collections of endearing bric-a-brac: a miniature set of iron cats playing instruments (with one, inexplicably, tightening a corset) sits on a shelf; an assortment of thread on vintage wooden spools adorns the sewing corner; and a gallery of old botanical prints hangs in the stairwell. “I’m literally the anti-minimalist,” Moskowitz says, laughing. “I’m like, Marie Kondo, take that! It all gives me joy.”

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On the small plot of land surrounding the home, a rambling garden that includes over 65 different types of roses adds a romantic feel.  “I really wanted the garden—which is very loose and English in style—to connect with the interior. So all the wallpaper in the house, for the most part, is botanical in theme,” Moskowitz explains

The dining room is the only area where the previous owner’s wallpaper remains. Moskowitz added blue butterflies and additional crystals to the chandelier above the table, and both the Victorian dining room table and sideboard were rescued from a neighbor’s attic, covered in coal dust. The room, as well as the home itself, is filled with Moskowitz’s varied vintage finds. “My mom is an antiques dealer and a lot of this stuff either came from her or she told me how to acquire it. She taught me how to hunt and find deals,” she explains.

The wooden kitchen cabinets were already in the house, but Moskowitz painted them and added new appliances and fixtures. The contrast in styles between the bright kitchen and the darker, neighboring reading nook is intentional. “The idea for the kitchen was that there was an original Victorian element, with the William Morris paper and the Eastlake-style furniture,” says Moskowitz. “And then in the ’20s [I like to imagine] this girl came and was like, No, I want a modern kitchen. So she paints the kitchen that iconic ’20s green color and hangs her Art Deco light fixtures around, and then she kind of gives up.”

Charming still lifes can be found at every turn; Moskowitz changes them with the seasons.

The sewing corner boasts two antique sewing machines—one (shown) that belonged to Moskowitz’s mom, and another that Moskowitz still uses to sew her exquisite dress designs.

Moskowitz says she wanted the house to “feel like you’re kind of in a tree house. All the rooms and hallways are different shades of green.” The wallpaper in the bedroom is modern and made to simulate silk tapestry; the gold headboard was a thrift store find.

Affectionately known as “the little girl’s room,” the once-dark attic bedroom/workroom combo was brightened with lots of lace curtains. Moskowitz created the three-dimensional painted plaster tree to memorialize the 100-year-old Norway maple that stood in her backyard until it fell on a neighbor’s house and was cut down.

All interior photos by: Winnie Au 

This article originally appeared in the Spring 2023 print edition of BUST Magazine. Subscribe today!

There’s nothing like a drunk night out with friends, a glass of wine after a long day, or a happy hour with coworkers, right? Or is there? 

The sober curious movement, a purposefully ambiguous title for people who are cutting back on drinking alcohol, has been gaining traction for over five years. And while it may have seemed like a fleeting fad when the movement got started, with the amount of new non-alcoholic companies, bars and lifestyle brands that have developed in the last several years, we now have so much more infrastructure to support the movement.

While studies have shown that drinking rates have been going down for years, the popularization of the movement is believed to have kicked off in 2018 when Ruby Warrington’s book Sober Curious was published. The book features tips on curbing your drinking habit and insight from research, interviews and personal experience, without the traditional guilt associated with over drinking, or a drinking addiction. 

From there, a movement blossomed, especially for younger generations. A 2018 Berenberg Research report found that Millennials and Gen Z populations are drinking less than Gen X and Boomer populations did at their age. Additionally, 64% of Gen Z respondents believe they will drink less frequently as they age, due in part to health concerns, hangovers, mental health struggles, and other negative results of drinking alcohol.  

This movement has exploded in part because of social media. The hashtag #sobercurious has been used nearly 500 million times on TikTok and over 500 thousand times on Instagram. There are hundreds of sober curious influencers who share their journey through total sobriety or as a “damp” drinker, someone who is reducing their alcohol consumption without going completely sober. This includes talking about health concerns, showing off their mocktail recipes and more. 

@eatlizabeth Lessons from my 60 days of sobriety ? #soberlife #sobriety #healingjourney #selflove #sobercurious #recovery ♬ Weather – Novo Amor

Companies like Seedlip, Recess, Curious Elixirs and Kin are cashing in on the movement, offering non-alcoholic spirit, wine and beer alternatives that sober or sober curious people can drink at home. The sale of non-alcoholic spirits nearly doubled in 2022, according to Nielsen IQ data, giving people an alternative to water or soda that is complex in flavor and satisfying. Many people make mocktails that they can put in a cocktail glass with a garnish and feel like they are participating in the festivities without any of the consequences. 

@carolinecitelli Replying to @kitty.spence Don’t let anyone tell you @Kin Euphorics ? is anything short of incredible #sobercurious #kineuphorics #sobercycling #alcoholfree ♬ original sound – Caroline | Pilates

New York’s first sober bar or “elixir lounge,” Hekate Cafe, opened in the East Village not even a year ago. Sober bars across the country have been finding success, including Wildcrafters in Jacksonville, Coast Dry Bar in Chicago, Alt Bar in Rochester, there’s even a sober dive bar, Inmoxicated, in the beer-laden state of Wisconsin. 

@morgiemartini Got cut off but this SOBER DIVE BAR is called Inmoxicated and is located in Racine, WI and is everything you’ve ever loved out of a dive bar!!!! They have karaoke nights, trivia, pool… you name it. It also pairs as a NA bottle shop and is so welcoming ?? I’ve never been to anything quite like this #sobertiktok #sobertok #sobercurious #nonalcoholicdrinks #nonalcoholic #soberlife ♬ Evergreen – Richy Mitch & the Coal Miners

Having an alternative place to gather with friends and socialize in the evenings is giving this movement a stronghold, helping to ensure it’s not a passing fad. Even traditional bars have been expanding their non-alcoholic options in order to hold on to some of the demographics who are leaving to find their N/A drinks elsewhere.

Are you ready to explore the world of the sober curious? Maeve O’Neill, EVP of Addiction and Recovery for All Sober shared in an interview with PureWow that reducing your alcohol intake starts with introspection. 

“The first step of this journey is examining your personal relationship with alcohol,” O’Neill said to PureWow. “Think about the times, places and people you usually drink around and examine why you were drinking and how it benefited you. Think about what is important to you and what you value in life and how alcohol influences them.”

Other steps include finding a supportive group of friends or peers, controlling your environment and finding hobbies to explore that are not in a bar setting. 

“As conversations became more open about sobriety for those involved in recovery,” said O’Neill “[The sober curious movement] allowed for open dialogue and examination of why we may drink and the choices we make.”

Ready to give N/A drinks a go? Grab your prettiest glassware, find a fun mocktail recipe, purchase some non-alcoholic spirits and shake yourself a gorgeous mocktail that looks like it cost you $15. If you have trouble finding non-alcoholic spirits in your shops, you can purchase over 200 varieties on Drizly.com 

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I joined multiple cults to cope with poor mental health. Here’s how I got hooked in, how I eventually got out, and what I learned along the way.

I’ve been in five cults. It was three too many. My first cult was in Spain, and it left me itching for more. I helped start the second cult while I was in college. Next was an abusive relationship cult-of-two, a dangerously restrictive vegan cult, and finally—a culty meditation retreat.

The late UC Berkeley psychology professor Dr. Margaret Singer offers my favorite cult definition in her groundbreaking 1995 book, Cults in Our Midst. Her criteria includes: controlling a person’s social and physical environment; creating a sense of powerlessness; establishing a closed system that permits no feedback except by leadership; and manipulation, rewards, punishments, and experiences that promote ideology and inhibit individual social identity. All five of the groups I joined not only had a culty je ne sais quoi, they also instituted most of these conditions.

I spent the summer of 2015, after I graduated high school, at a clinic for eating disorders, where I became more anxious and depressed than ever. When I got out, I craved a quick mental health fix, adventure, and independence. My plan was to explore farms and communes in Europe, but my parents worried about my safety. We compromised on a nannying gig in Spain, but within months, the kids’ dad hit on me, so I quit.

Shaken up and furious, I pivoted to my original plan, Googled “communes in Spain,” and found Amito (not its real name), an anarcho-inspired community nestled between two mountains. Located on public land, most of Amito’s 200 residents were illegal occupants who camped in tents or in mud and straw, wood, or leather huts. Most were poor Europeans who valued independence from government scrutiny. Instead of central leadership, the Amito community gathered around a centralized drum circle and kitchen and worked collectively on community projects.

On my first day at Amito, I attended a group walk with Nihi, a Romani man with smiling eyes and an upside-down cross tattooed on his skinny chest. When we arrived at an overlook, he tugged an orange out of his sack, peeled it, and passed it around. Everyone grabbed slices and Nihi munched on the last bit contentedly. Sharing food was deeply uncomfortable for me. Money was tight and I was used to hoarding food. But sharing eventually became one of the best aspects of this cult for me. Potlucks were common and no one went hungry. With time and consistent generosity from the group, I learned to give without feeling panicked because the community looked out for everyone.

Amito opened my mind to different, perhaps better, ways that the world could exist, but there were also some major drawbacks, like “Red Hawk,” a man who wore brown flowy clothes, had two teeth, and claimed he could transform water to heal any wound. The women in Amito revered him, like he was a god or a senator or that cool upperclassman who hung around my sophomore class. Once, a young French woman approached Red Hawk to heal her sore hips. He placed his palms above her knees and they breathed deeply together. When his fingers crawled up her thighs, she told him, “Don’t!” But Red Hawk left his hands there for a few more minutes.

Finally, exhausted from the strenuous healing work, he rested his face between
her boobs. She patted his head like he was a toddler and said she felt much better. Overall, though, Amito was a positive cult experience. It didn’t make me grow dependent on anyone; instead, it taught me how to turn inward, notice my feelings, and form a new friendship with myself. I literally meditated on mountaintops and felt more connected to the world.

I experienced self-love and healing, but there was a catch. That feeling was only sustainable at Amito. During my second month, I left the group because I got so sick that I nearly fainted on a goat trail. The small-town Spanish doctor, who wasn’t fond of “the hippies,” told me to go home. That’s when my mental health tanked again and I started searching for my next big thing.

Helloooo cult number two.

In 2017, I was a sophomore at a small Southern California college where I joined a student-run meditation group. At one meeting, the club leader brought his guru. Dressed in an orange head wrap and robes, hoop earrings and gauges, and carrying a wooden staff, he introduced himself as “Satsang Guru Jnanda the Healer, but I don’t like labels, so just call me Satsang Guru Jnanda.”

He explained that the Buddha was 100% love-light energy, and that he was nowhere near that level. His love-light energy was “only 98%.” Jnanda was a white guy from Florida and I thought he was ridiculous, but I also hoped he could save me from depression and loneliness.

One evening, I was invited to attend Jnanda’s private initiation ceremony along with three other students, including my partner, Nicholas (not his real name). To become his disciple, Jnanda had to plant his seed in you; spiritual seeds, not literal seeds, though the rumor was that blatant sexual advances would probably start later. Nicholas sat in a chair facing Jnanda. The guru waved his arms over Nicholas’s head while the rest of us kneeled around them, chanting in a language I didn’t recognize– perhaps Sanskrit. I was instructed to stroke Jnanda’s wooden staff and I rubbed that thing raw. Then it was my turn in the chair, and when Jnanda waved his arms over me, it felt like three seeds were actually sprouting and growing from my sternum.

“To become his disciple, Jnanda had to plant his seed in
you; spiritual seeds, not literal seeds, though the rumor was that blatant sexual advances would probably start later.”

Despite the metaphysical experience, I knew early on that his cult wasn’t for me. Even though his followers formed a tight-knit community, which was a plus, Jnanda wanted to be treated like a god and he wouldn’t tolerate being questioned or challenged, even though plenty of his beliefs were harmful. For instance, even though many of his followers were queer, he said that “the Divine One” had told him homosexuality was unnatural. So, instead of Jnanda, I ended up following a different domineering white guy—my partner. In retrospect, I should’ve stuck with Jnanda’s group, because a two-person cult is much lonelier.

When I first met Nicholas in 2016, I thought he was mysterious and smart, so sure of his knowledge (red flag), and it seemed like he knew something I didn’t (big-time red flag). The following year we started dating, bonding over the fact that we were both goofy and made each other laugh. But anytime a miscommunication hurt his feelings, criticisms started flying and things escalated quickly.

I struggled with depression, and Nicholas told me that without him, my mental health would get worse. I believed him, and our relationship grew increasingly isolated and controlling. He disapproved of my sexuality and gender. He said that since I was assigned female at birth (AFAB), “choosing” to be nonbinary was a betrayal to women. I switched from they/she pronouns to she/her pronouns and told myself I was a cis woman.

I had been vegan-ish when I met Nicholas, but he was vegan with a capital “V.” His parents ran a raw vegan health clinic down South and he’d grown up that way. In college, he also limited cane sugar, gluten, and high-sugar fruits. When we got together, I adopted his strict diet, and it made me feel safer and in control. We struggled with health issues, though, so in the summer of 2018, we stayed at his parents’ health clinic—aka cult number four.

Nicholas’ dad called the shots at his clinic. He was charming and confident, but much of his clinical advice was blatantly wrong. He said that humans barely needed to eat and that it was fine if I stopped having periods because “ancient people” didn’t menstruate monthly. His logic couldn’t be questioned because, as he said, “the medical industrial complex hides facts from the public.” Our raw food diet exacerbated my eating disorders, and I became focused on controlling my food.

My calorie restriction caused dizzy spells and weakness and my stomach problems grew painful. Daily activities were hard to complete, and my mental health plummeted. I cried a lot and spent much of my time numb and dissociated. Nicholas’s dad said that mental health struggles, stomach problems, and self-esteem issues could all be fixed with sprouts and wheatgrass juice, and I wanted to believe him.

As I grew increasingly dependent on him and his family, Nicholas became more resentful. The less I ate, the weaker I got. He would walk ahead of me so quickly that I wheezed when I tried to catch up. I felt like a nuisance and was deeply insecure, and I was hungry and hurting but desperately afraid to veer from our restrictive diet because, I was told, other foods were the source of depression, fatigue, and diseases.

After nearly a year together, Nicholas decided to transfer to a school in Northern Europe while I returned to college in California, so we tried a long-distance relationship. I isolated myself and Skyped with him for hours every day and if I tried to cancel to spend time with friends, he said I wasn’t dedicated enough to our relationship and threatened to end things. My sense of self was entirely lost, so I decided to follow Nicholas to a drafty cabin in the Swedish woods.

That’s where I attended a 10-day meditation retreat to practice a style known as “Vipassana” for the same reasons I’d joined the other groups: to stop feeling depressed and to gain a sense of control. Practicing Vipassana isn’t a cult for most people, but for me, it was cult number five.

Not to brag, but I was the star student at that retreat. I was great at the part where we didn’t eat very much. I kept my crisscrossed body extremely still during hours-long meditations because I wanted to be perfect. When mosquitoes trailed tacky legs across my skin, I didn’t move, even when I felt their sharp bites.

By the end of that retreat, I sensed a quiet feeling just below my bellybutton that told me my relationship with Nicholas was detrimental. The feeling gave me the strength to question things, but I was still unsure—I couldn’t imagine my life without him.

Finally, in the summer of 2019, we flew to my hometown and Nicholas stayed with his sister while I gathered my courage at my parents’ place. We spent a day together walking and shopping for expensive vegan food, and then I told him that I needed to end things.

I said it was hard for me to explain why, but it bothered me that when I had an opinion that didn’t suit him, he questioned me until I felt confused and broken-down. He said that maybe his perspective was just more nuanced than mine, but then offered to see a therapist—even though in the past, he’d said people shouldn’t need therapists. Then he looked at me and said, “It’s too late, isn’t it?” We cried, he said he would always love me, and he left.

It’s now been three years since I left cults for good. I’d joined them all in attempts to ease my loneliness and poor mental health, but left knowing I had to do that by taking care of myself. After my breakup with Nicholas, I found queer-friendly specialists who treated eating disorders, believed in health-at-every-size, and could address my attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder and post-traumatic stress disorder. To re-engage with my body and sense of self, I created art every day for a year. I drew out my feelings and my body, and slowly, I grew to understand myself more.

Jnanda’s spiritual seeds are still inside me— gross, yes, but important to who I am. In fact, the lessons I learned from all five cults were integral to my development. I learned to set boundaries, disengage from unhealthy relationships, and to develop connections that help me understand, accept, and express myself. Community still matters to me. But ultimately, I’ve learned to trust myself more than anyone else—especially more than anyone who claims to have all the answers.

Illustrations by Long Yan

This article originally appeared in the Spring 2023 print edition of BUST Magazine. Subscribe today!

The new “De-Influencing” Trend on TikTok calls for more honesty in social media advertisements, but is it just influencing rebranded?

When you’re drowning in a sea of massive fashion hauls and “must-have” lists, it’s clear that the push to buy things you don’t really need is stronger than ever. In the last several years, social media influencers have told us what’s in, what’s out, what to buy, and what to splurge on. But people aren’t feeling it anymore.

Influencers that reigned supreme, like The Kardishan-Jenner Clan, and even newer beauty gurus like Mikayla Nogueira, are being criticized for a lack of relatability and dishonest advertising. The aforementioned internet personality, @mikaylanogueira disclosing that she was wearing false lashes in a sponsored mascara advertisement. 

People are calling for more honesty in influencer culture, especially with advertisements and product reviews.This new trend, which consists of denouncing popular products, calling out dishonesty, and discouraging excessive spending, is called “de-influencing.” But does this new trend prove that the age of influencing is nearly over? Or is influencer culture just expanding and evolving?

Valeria Frede, a popular Tiktoker posted a video earlier this year highlighting which beauty products were overhyped, while offering cheaper and more effective alternatives. It’s currently one of the most-liked videos in the “de-influencing” hashtag on Tiktok, but it reads like an advertisement in disguise. For example she discusses the popular Dior Backstage Rosy Blush. Retailing at 40 USD, it’s not cheap. However the more accessible alternative that Frede offers is Kylie Jenner’s KYLIE Cosmetic’s Powder Blush  which is still 20 bucks. Kylie Jenner’s brand isn’t exactly the best one to be promoting. Among numerous other controversies, Kylie Jenner has consistently been accused of cultural appropriation, unsanitary cosmetic displays, and “sweat-shop” like conditions in the factories where her products are made.  Frede ends her video by saying, “Don’t buy everything you see on TikTok. Most of it’s not worth it.” This is a slightly contradictory way to end a “de-influencing” video that primarily consists of the creator denouncing an expensive product by peddling similar yet slightly less expensive products.

@valeriafride Don’t buy everything you see on here ? #deinfluencing #beautytips #sephorahaul ♬ Her Way (Sped Up) – PARTYNEXTDOOR

TikTok users are now dubious about the products they see advertised to them. As a result, there’s a call to “de-influence” popular cosmetics and other viral products by being 100% honest in their reviews, which includes giving a ‘thumbs-down’ to products they found unnecessary and/or wouldn’t buy again. 

There’s also a big focus on wanting things versus needing them; with content creators like Michelle Skidelsky posting “Things You Don’t Need” videos, the most popular one having over 2.5 million views.

@michelleskidelsky Replying to @3333333…00 you ask i deliver ? might be some controversial takes here but it needed to be said #deinfluencing ♬ original sound – michelle

The first time a de-influencing video came up on my Tiktok main feed, I was floored. It was jarring to see an influencer discussing products they felt didn’t deserve much praise, either because they felt it was overpriced or overhyped. At first glance, it was refreshing. Could this be the start of an anti-consumerist revolution, one that starts with Wet N’ Wild 1$ lipsticks in favor of 40$ Dior lip oils? Influencers have started aiming towards honesty, with everything from their genuine opinions to disclosing sponsorship deals. Is this a far cry from the types of cosmetic reviews that we’ve seen in the past? Or is it just a user-friendly rebranding of social media commercialism?

As reported by The Business of Fashion, “…It’s an atypical behavior for creators, who are usually wary of giving negative reviews of products for fear of alienating potential brand partners.”

But while the de-influencing trend appears to be a deviation from our hyper-consumerist culture, it could be at risk for perpetuating the very same thing it aims to criticize.

Perfume analyst and micro-influencer, @nicoleperfumes highlights how although the intention behind de-influencing is strong, its execution comes off as flawed. “The reason why I hate [this] trend is because you guys are doing it wrong. You’re contradicting yourselves by de-influencing one product and then hyping up another. “

@nicole_perfumes either do it right or don’t do it at all #deinfluencing #trending #deinfluencer ♬ Monkeys Spinning Monkeys – Kevin MacLeod & Kevin The Monkey

Eden Young and Ione Gamble are behind the feminist media collective, Polyester Zine. The insightful duo also host the podcast, The Sleepover Club, where they deconstruct and analyze what’s trending in popular culture. On the episode “Is De-influencing Culture Going to Save Us All, or is it Just Consumerism in Disguise?, they detail their qualms with the new trend. “Even de-influencing contributes to overconsumption… This de-influencing trend, in theory, is a good thing, but I think it’s just more influencer tactics re-branded.” 

There’s definitely some misguided focus when it comes to the de-influencing trend. 

Topics like sustainability and ethical business practices are often left out of de-influencing conversations, which gives us the implication that this new “movement” might be less groundbreaking than we initially thought. The trend aims to shift the narrative around influencer culture by inundating it with honesty and affordability, but even the de-influencing hashtag on Tiktok is riddled with covert advertisements. 

@katiehub.org Replying to @.sam_ross THIS MIGHT BE A HOT TAKE HAHA #fyp #deinfluencing #dior ♬ original sound – katie

If the hallmark of de-influencing culture is, “you don’t need this,” then why in the same breath are influencers still encouraging overconsumption by marketing the same products that are just as good but cheaper? There would be no other alternative offered if the trend was truly about discouraging consumer culture. De-influencing has morphed into a “buy this, not that” mentality, which is starting to mirror the same thing it sought to campaign against. 

Nevertheless, it’s opening up some important conversations about marketing. Is this trend going to be the catalyst for a much-needed overhaul of consumerist culture? Or is it just another Tiktok hashtag that will lose relevancy as quickly as it  was gained? We’re not sure, but one thing is for certain: you’ll definitely be rethinking what you add to your cart next time you go shopping. 

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The Lesbian Bar Project, which is a documentary and LGBTQIA+ collective created by Elina Street and Erica Rose, reported the following in 2020: compared to approximately 1,000 US bars centered around cisgendered homosexual men, there were less than 20 exclusively-lesbian spaces in the country.

Lesbian bars had a large resurgence during the 80s and 90s, but since then, many queer-owned businesses have succumbed to the lack of patronage. There are several reasons for this; The increased popularity of online dating has affected the need for in-person dating spaces, and the rise of gentrification has had many bar owners struggling to stay afloat.

This issue is global; the Office of The London Mayor, Sadiq Khan reported in 2019: “Figures from the office of the London Mayor show that between 2006 and 2017, the number of LGBTQ+ venues in the city of London fell by 62%, from 124 to just 47. The data also shows there has been a disproportionate effect on women’s specific LGBTQ+ spaces, which were already under-represented.” Other socio-economic factors have contributed to this as well. From the 2008 recession to the COVID-19 pandemic, some lesbian dives struggled to make ends meet for years.

The popular West Village spot Cubbyhole, is one of NYC’s three remaining sapphic-centered spaces. The founder of Cubbyhole, Lisa Menichino gives a bit of insight as to why so many bars have closed in recent years. ”…As technology advanced, you were able to meet people online… And then with the sort of assimilation of gay people, we were accepted by the broader society. So I think the need for the bar kind of diminished.” Even well-populated cities like Houston and Seattle, only have one lesbian-specific bar. New England just opened their only lesbian bar, in mid-March of 2023, while major cities like Los Angeles, Portland, and Massachusetts, don’t have any. (This is detailed excellently in the article, How Did L.A. Become a City Without Lesbian Bars?)

Rachel and Sheila Smallman, who are founders of the Alabama lesbian bar Herz, were pushed to create their own space after an unpleasant and exclusionary encounter at a gay bar. As reported by PBS, “They were there for about three minutes before some of the patrons & employees started yelling at them to leave because they were women.” Lua O’Reilly, a queer New Jersey musician goes on to exemplify how important it is to have spaces that cater to women and non-binary individuals : “I don’t like gay bars. People do not want me to be there.” That being said, O’Reilly also states that “ [a lesbian bar is just] a cis lesbian space where other femmes, trans mascs, and gay men can also exist.”

Everything isn’t all bleak though. Although the spaces themselves may be dwindling, the community (and the determination to create more spaces of our own) has prevailed. Several queer-oriented bars in NYC have specific sapphic nights. The Woods, which is a relatively new bar that opened in 2021, (and does not explicitly identify as an LGBTQIA+ bar), is the place for queer women to go on Wednesday nights. Just get there early, it gets incredibly packed according to content creator Angela Alexis.

@angelalexis1292 The wood 48 S 4 street Williamsburg. #lesbiansoftiktok #lesbiannight #thewoods #williamsburg #wburgseries #nyc #BigInkEnergy #brooklyn #foryoupage #gaybar #lesbianbar #CVSPaperlessChallenge #gaysofttiktok ♬ DEEP HOUSE – Sergey Wednesday

The iconic Stonewall Inn, which was the birthplace of the Stonewall Riots, has teamed up with lesbian dance collective Honey Burlesque to hold queer-themed burlesque shows for non-men on Sundays. Hot Rabbit is another collaborator of Honey Burlesque, which holds monthly themed sapphic dance parties at different locations all throughout New York City. The venue changes often, so be sure to check their calendar for upcoming events near you!

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Organizations like Dave’s Lesbian Bar, based in Queens, NY, are working hard to fill the gap left by the closure of so many sapphic bars. Dave’s does not currently have a physical location open, but they do hold community-based events that generate funding for more lesbian-centered spaces in the future.  As reported on their website, “Since July 2021, Dave’s has been hosting monthly block party-style pop-ups that focus on a seasonally appropriate mutual aid fundraising theme. Funds gathered from these pop-ups and our ongoing GoFundMe Campaign are also going towards opening our permanent space in Astoria.” You can donate to their cause here. 

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Although it isn’t permanent, NYC’s newest sapphic pop-up, Grotto, is making waves for its luxurious atmosphere, captivating events, whimsical decor (like chocolate pearls served in clam shells, or the mini-statue of Sappho they serve with their signature cocktail). They also hold cocktail parties, and teamed up earlier this year with the queer-ran pop-up organization, Sapphic Lit to hold a book swapping event. The pop-up, which is located in LES’ Ludlow House, was slated to come to an end on February 26th, but was so popular that founders Austa Somvichian-Clausen and Victoria Geddes were given the “OK” to extend the dates until April 19th. The news broke on Grotto’s official Instagram page.

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Can’t make it out to New York City? There’s still hope for those in other parts of the country. The events production company, Pandora Events, hosts various lesbian-focused festivals, LGBTQIA+ bar takeovers, and other weekly events all throughout Miami, Florida. According to their website, they’ve been known to throw “some of the hottest women’s soiree’s in the country including Girls In Wonderland in Orlando, Women’s White Party and the official women’s events of South Beach Pride, as well as local weekly and monthly themed parties from Miami to Central Florida.” And it’s all for a good cause, donating over $30,000 a year to foundations including the National Center for Lesbian Rights, the Aqua Foundation for Women, and the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force” Check out their most recent events (and get tickets to the next one), here.

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The Massachusetts based Arts & Entertainment collective, Provincetown For Women, holds several annual festivals, including the summertime bash, Girlsplash. The festival is about as close to a modern day Lilith Fair as we’ll ever get, with past attendees including The Indigo Girls and Anne Steele, They also host other events through the year, including the Women Of Color Weekend, Single Women’s Weekend, and Women’s Week, all located in Provincetown, Massachusetts. You can sign up for updates and check out all their events on their website, here. 

Although L.A. doesn’t have any lesbian bars, that doesn’t mean the party stops.  Anna Goodman is an LA events/nightlife coordinator that holds monthly lesbian queer events under the moniker, Damn Good Dyke Nights. According to the ‘About’ section on her website;  “ Currently, she produces and hosts Open Dyke Night, Hidden Hearts, Hot Flash, and Girls, Gays & Theys, all monthly or  bi-monthly lesbian queer events taking place at different bars across Los Angeles.” You can have your own Damn Good Dyke Night by heading to the events calendar, here.

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Compared to the hundreds of bars for gay men, the spaces for women are severely lacking. It’s appalling at best and exclusionary at worst that there are less than 20 sapphic-specific bars in the entire nation. Hopefully, through activism, donation, and patronage, we can make an effort to preserve these spaces. Preferably before there aren’t any left.

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Hexahydrocannabinol, also known as HHC, is a lesser-known cannabinoid that is found in the cannabis plant. Unlike THC, the psychoactive component of marijuana, a few smaller studies found much milder intoxicating effects in HHC. It is also believed to have potential therapeutic benefits, such as anti-inflammatory and pain-relieving properties. While research on HHC is still in its early stages, it is gaining attention within the medical community for its potential to treat a variety of conditions, including anxiety, depression, and insomnia. With the legalization of cannabis in many parts of the world, there is a growing interest in exploring the various compounds found in the plant and their potential benefits. 

Read the full article on our sister site, the Laker/Lutz News, here. 

As the days start to get longer and the sun stays out later, it’s time to make the switch to daylight savings time. While this may seem like a minor adjustment, the effects of losing an hour of sleep can have a significant impact on your body and mind. It’s important to prepare yourself for this change in advance so that you can smoothly transition into the new schedule. With a few simple tips and tricks, you can easily adjust to daylight savings time and get back to your usual routine. From getting enough sleep to taking advantage of the extra daylight, we’ll explore some effective strategies that will help you make the most of this time shift. So whether you’re a night owl or an early bird, let’s get ready to spring forward and embrace the longer, brighter days ahead!

Read the full article on our sister site, the Irvine Weekly, here. 

From growing my own tea garden to harvesting and drying my herbs and flowers (which I document on my Instagram @bigfamilyliving)  I’m deeply connected to the herbal tea I drink. Each blend offers something different for the senses, and depending on the ingredients, benefits my health or mood. When life happens, I reach for the jars in my tea cabinet to keep me on my path, mixing and matching herbs to help myself heal, whether I’m dealing with anxiety, a sore throat, an aching head, or a tired spirit. 

How to Make Homemade Herbal Tea Blends

Herbal teas are made from dried fruits, spices, flowers, and herbs. You don’t need to grow your own ingredients to make them; simply visit your local herb shop or a reputable online source like mountainroseherbs.com.

Here are some blends to get you started—each ingredient is the dried version of whatever plant or flower is called for—but feel free to get creative mixing and matching your herbs and edible flowers to make your own custom combo.

These tea recipes are measured by parts, so that you can make as small or big a batch as you want. To start, I suggest equating 1 part with 1 tablespoon, but when you find a blend you really love, feel free to size up.

Once you’ve made your mix, store it in a container with a tight-fitting lid. Homemade teas will last longer if stored in a dark tin inside a cabinet, but I like to display my herbs—just seeing them makes me happy—so I store mine in glass jars in a glass cabinet where I can enjoy them. They last about a year (unless I use them up!).

Use approximately 1 tablespoon of the blend for one cup of tea, and steep using a tea filter bag, a tea ball, a basket infuser—even a teapot and a strainer will do! Allow your homemade tea to steep a little longer than you would store-bought—about 5 to 15 minutes. Remember, it’s always important to do your own research when it comes to putting anything in your body—knowledge is power.

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To Rest and Calm the Soul

2 parts lemon balm
2 parts chamomile
1 part lavender flower

To Sooth an Aching Heart 

2 parts chamomile
2 parts rose petals
1 part dried hawthorn berries

To Ease a Sore Throat 

3 parts peppermint
1 part chamomile
1 part thyme
1 part fresh lemon peel

To Help Treat a Cold 

1 part yarrow flower (or leaf )
1 part elderflower
1 part peppermint leaf
1 part sage

For an Aching Head 

1 part basil leaf
1 part lemon balm
1 part chamomile
1 part lavender flower

To Be Reminded There Are Always Things to be Grateful For 

3 parts dried apples
1 part thyme
1 part lemon balm
Stick of cinnamon 

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This article originally appeared in the Spring 2023 print edition of BUST Magazine. Subscribe today!

Texas is a state known for its big personalities, big cities, and big cuisine. From the classic Tex-Mex favorites such as nachos and fajitas to the iconic breakfast tacos, it’s no wonder that many of the most iconic and beloved food and drink items have their roots in the Lone Star State. From the sweet and spicy combination of Dr. Pepper to the savory and delicious taste of chicken-fried steak, Texas has been home to the invention of a plethora of food and drink items that have become staples in the American diet. So join us as we explore the foods and drinks that were invented in Texas and that have become an integral part of the state’s culture.

Read the full article on our sister site, The Leader News, here.

Social media has become an integral part of our lives, but is it really healthy for us? This is the question that many have been asking, and now Selena Gomez is taking it to the next level by announcing her “social media break.” Gomez’ decision to step away from social media is gaining a lot of attention. But does a social media break really work? Does it help people to take a break, or does it just make them more anxious? Many experts are now weighing in on this issue, and it looks like Gomez is on the right track. Let’s take a look at what a social media break might entail, and why it may be a beneficial move for Gomez and others.

Read the full article on our sister site, the Marina Times, here. 

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We all know that sometimes, to get through to a man, we have to communicate with them in a language they understand. For TikToker Nadeen Hui, this meant using business practices to try to repair her relationship. The 30-year-old went viral after uploading a video explaining how she put her boyfriend on a “performance improvement plan” as a last-ditch attempt to work out the couple’s issues. 

For those not accustomed to business-y terminology, a Performance Improvement Plan – or PIP, for short – is a formal document given to an employee on the brink of getting fired for lackluster performance. They include goals that must be met by a certain deadline, or else the employee’s job is in jeopardy. PIPs are popular in the world of tech as well as a handful of other industries.

In the video, which has now garnered nearly 200,000 views, Hui said that in the beginning of their relationship, the two were having “a lot of issues,” so she put him on three months of “probation.” This included a “shared note with daily and weekly tasks he needed to do, and a set of things he needed to work on. And it worked out really well.”

@nadeenhui we started living together really early on in our relationship so we saw all of each others living habits and lifestyles super quickly. and i honestly think it worked out better this way because we could decide if we actually wanted to work on these lifestyle habits together or split up. since it was so new, there wouldn’t be much love lost and we’d still be friends. but ultimately, we decided that we wanna stay together, and these lifestyle changes were for the better so why not do it? i had to learn to be more accepting and easy going, and he had to learn to be more tidy and considerate of shared spaces. #relationshipadvice #softwareengineerlife #lifeintech #girlsintech ♬ original sound – nadeen

 Harsh? Sure. But effective? Apparently. Hui not only insists that putting her boyfriend on a PIP healed their relationship, but also that, “he kind of liked it.” She acknowledged that some viewers may find the approach a bit intense, but that “he’s an engineer, and sometimes it’s really hard to communicate with him without using something he can already relate to.”

Since the PIP worked so well, and “has been the only thing that has stuck and works,” the couple still uses some of the techniques Hui implemented; She adds tasks to their shared to-do list for him to complete (in the video, she says that he’ll forget if she gives him a verbal reminder) and they have weekly check-ins to get a feel for how things are going for both parties, which Hui says is her favorite part. 

 In an interview with HuffPost, Hui explained she and her boyfriend “were friends first and moved in very quickly because it was COVID lockdown. Because of that, we started seeing each other’s good, bad, and ugly very quickly.” She also works in the tech industry, as an entrepreneur’s personal assistant, and type A personality’s approach to household chores contrasted greatly with her boyfriend’s. “It really came down to the fact that we had different levels of cleanliness that was acceptable at home,” she said. “I needed a well-organized space to work and feel comfortable, whereas in the beginning, he’d be the type of guy to kick his clothes under the bed and leave it there.” 

 Social media users had very mixed reactions to how Hui addressed this issue. The top comment on the TikTok calls it “condescending,” and a comment that racked up nearly 500 likes read, “Late stage capitalism truly is hell” – in reference to Hui potentially “workifying” her relationship and creating an employee-manager dynamic. “I’d prefer not to be someone’s manager or assign tasks though…I’d want more of a co-founder dynamic,” wrote one woman in the comments. Other commenters questioned if the practice was mutual, so that both parties could “improve.”

 Still, many users praised Hui’s strong, direct communication and suggested that they might try out the same system. One user wrote that, “it’s easier than nagging.” Some just found the situation entertaining, with one commenting, “As an engineer this is hilarious.”

 In the aforementioned HuffPost interview, Hui noted that “99.9% of the critics are men,” and recalled that her boyfriend included conditions for her in the PIP as well. She said that, “it wasn’t an angry argument. It was literally just like, I don’t think this is working out because our lifestyle habits don’t work well together.” Hui also went on to say that the burden of fixing their relationship isn’t unfairly placed on her shoulders anymore, and that when you commit to a partner, “you’re also committing to changing with them and always finding ways that work for you both, no matter what stage in life you’re both in.”

 In a follow-up video responding to the criticism she received, Hui says that implementing the PIP “wasn’t an ultimatum” or “some manipulation tactic,” and advised against viewers trying to “PIP their boyfriends” to “get what they want.” She says that the PIP came from an honest conversation about their relationship dynamic, in the interest of not wasting each other’s time. She also added that, “he was the one that told me that task lists with clear objectives are what works for him.”

@nadeenhui Replying to @alexwall86 if you get it, you get it. if you don’t, you’re not my intended audience. i can’t deal with people who don’t recognize healthy relationship building and choose to misunderstand what im saying. communication isn’t about how you want to deliver information, it’s about how the other person receives information. if you’re not communicating in a way they understand, you’re going to feel like you’re talking to a wall. #communicationskills #relationshipgoals #thingswomendealwith #healthyrelationshiptips ♬ original sound – nadeen

 The PIP was put into place when the couple had been together for just three months – they’ve now been together for three years, and Hui says that though their approach might not work for every couple, they’re each others’ best friends, and she’s glad they addressed their issues head-on early in their relationship. 

 While we should never feel obligated to tolerate men not holding up their end of the bargain in a relationship, Hui’s customized approach to healing her relationship dynamic is a great example of upfront communication, and a testament to the fact that every couple is unique in how they navigate their relationship. If they found something that works for them, good on ‘em! 

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I have spent the majority of my life, at least as much of it as I can remember, battling an eating disorder. I’ve also watched a heartbreaking number of friends and family members face similar struggles with eating, exercise, and body image – most of which are created, or at least exacerbated by diet culture. As defined by Christy Harrison, MPH, RD, author of Anti-Diet, “diet culture” refers to a belief system, deeply ingrained in our culture, that “worships thinness and equates it to health and moral virtue.” This includes the promotion of weight loss and the demonization of certain habits in a way that conflates how much and what we eat and/or do with our value as human beings. The glorification of thinness is embedded in our collective consciousness and reinforced every day through advertising (the weight loss industry is worth 3.8 billion dollars in the US alone!), popular media, and even our personal interactions – it’s time to  start paying closer attention to the phrases people use when talking about food, exercise, and weight.

What makes these phrases so insidious is how normalized they are in our everyday interactions, especially as women. Phrases that perpetuate food and body shame are written off as “girl talk,” almost as if judging ourselves and others for what we eat, how we exercise, and how we look is a given (Remember that scene in Mean Girls where they take turns sharing what they hate about how they look?). More often than not, people aren’t saying these things with malicious intent, they’re simply repeating the sentiments that they have been taught throughout their lives, but the harm is still very real. 

It doesn’t have to be this way – and our word choices in our internal dialogue and our conversations with others have a huge impact, positive or negative, that we may not even be aware of. By being more conscious of how we talk about diet and body image, we can challenge the social norms that put us down and pit us against each other. Eliminating these five common talking points from our vocabularies is a good first step towards freeing ourselves and our communities from diet culture in everyday interactions. 

1.“I have to work this off” or “I’ve earned this” 

We should not be using exercise as a way to “earn” food or punish ourselves for eating it! Exercise is wonderful for our physical and mental wellbeing, but using it as a punishment or justification for enjoying food kind of defeats the emotional benefits it would otherwise give us. When I’m eating with someone and they say these things, I immediately wonder if I also need to exercise more to compensate for the food I’m enjoying, or if it’s somehow wrong for me to enjoy the food I’m having because I didn’t “earn it” through exercise earlier. Be present in the moment without bringing up what you think you did or need to do to “earn” your food. 

2. “I’m being so bad” 

Labeling food as “good” or “bad” is not only completely unnecessary, it’s harmful. Let’s say someone goes back for seconds or goes for dessert and prefaces that action by saying “I’m so bad.” If I also wanted seconds or dessert, now I’m thinking, “doing this is bad, therefore I am bad if I eat this.” Quit ascribing moral virtue to food – while, sure, some foods may have more nutrients than others, no food is “bad” unless it has literally gone bad and is an actual health risk. Food is fuel for our bodies as well as a source of pleasure to be enjoyed – leave virtue judgment out of it! Don’t refer to any food as “good” or “bad” unless you’re referring to the taste or the expiration date.

3. “Have you lost weight? You look great!”

 I know people say things like this with the best of intentions, but you don’t know how or why someone lost weight –  it could be due to chronic illness, lack of access to food, or an eating disorder. You don’t know if the weight loss was intentional, or how that person feels about their body. While some people certainly work hard to lose weight and take pride in having a now-smaller body (and that’s totally ok! Healthy weight loss is a thing!), moralizing weight loss and thinness is a dangerous, slippery slope. 

I’ve been complimented on my weight loss when it was a result of extremely unhealthy behavior, encouraging me to continue destroying my body to receive positive attention from others. In short, others’ bodies are nobody’s business but their own, and to avoid being intrusive, insulting, or disrespectful, find something not weight-related to compliment someone on. 

4. “I feel fat” 

First of all, you can’t truly “feel” fat. If you feel full or don’t feel comfortable in your body, just say that instead! This phrase is pretty much always said as a negative expression, implying that fat = bad. Before opening your mouth to complain of “feeling fat,” think about how someone living in a larger body than you would feel after hearing you say that. Fat is just a thing that we have on our bodies, with no inherent moral value, but in our culture, that word comes loaded with negative connotations. Because of this, many avoid the word as a descriptor entirely, but activists like Aubrey Gordon have been working to reclaim the word “fat” and “see the word as it is: a neutral descriptor that can hold different kinds of power for different people.”

5. “Are you really going to eat all that?” 

 I first remember hearing this from my grandmother at a family holiday dinner. I truly don’t understand what goes through someone’s head when they decide to make a statement like this – what are their intentions? Is it for the sole purpose of putting someone down, or are they just repeating what they’ve heard without giving much thought as to how it might make someone feel? 

When I order food or make myself a plate, I’m getting the food that I want, based on my hunger and what I’m in the mood to eat. Hearing things like this makes me question how well I know my own body’s wants and needs and also makes me worry that I’ll be looked down upon if I do eat all of what’s in front of me. Trust that others are in tune with their cravings and hunger, though they may be different from yours, and if you must comment on the food in front of them, just say “that looks delicious!”

Unpacking the negative impact of these phrases and changing the way we talk about food, exercise, and body image is no small feat in a society where toxic diet talk is everywhere, but we owe it to ourselves, our loved ones, and our communities to put in the work to make a change. By reframing how we approach these topics, we can help those struggling in the face of diet culture (including ourselves) cultivate a healthier relationship with food and our bodies. 

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In recent years, the wealthy have been embracing a new trend called “recession core.” As the world economy continues to be volatile, the wealthy (including several celebrities) are looking for more cost-efficient ways to enjoy the luxuries of their lifestyle. Recession core is a movement of people who have chosen to live simpler and more frugal lifestyles while still maintaining the same level of comfort and luxury they have come to expect. With its focus on saving money while still living a life of luxury, recession core is becoming increasingly popular among the wealthy. It is seen as a way to show financial responsibility while still enjoying the same level of comfort and luxury they are accustomed to. Recession core is a lifestyle choice that is becoming more and more attractive to celebrities as the world economic landscape continues to change.

Read the full story on our sister site, the Village Voice, here. 

Our lifestyle editor Lisa Butterworth rounded up five of the most charming products, businesses, and creators to bring you joy and comfort in the colder months. 

So Fletch

This ode to Cabot Cove and one of Dame Angela Lansbury’s most beloved roles is a must for foodie fans of Murder, She Wrote. Written by Jenny Hammerton (the brain behind Silver Screen Suppers), Murder, She Cooked includes episode recaps of seasons one through six, each with an accompanying recipe from a famous guest star (Kate Mulgrew’s tenderloin) or Jessica Fletcher herself (from cheesecake to veggie soup). 

Gas Up

I’ve been devoutly following artist and writer Anna Brones’ thoughtful musings on creativity and its importance in our everyday lives for years via her Creative Fuel newsletter. Now she’s launched an eponymous podcast that looks at big questions (How do we connect with each other? How do we spend time alone?) through the lens of creativity with the help of researchers, scientists, and other creatives. Major inspo for your own practice.

Keep It Copacetic

 

 

 

 

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Normalynn Ablao (@copaceticcrocheter on IG) is basically a fiber-pastry chef. Her crocheted creations range from adorable cherry-topped cupcakes to striped conchas to mugs of hot cocoa with candy-cane stirrers. She’s got a ton of free patterns on her site and even more for sale on Etsy ($3.50 to $6.50), where non-hookers can also get these confections pre-made.

Piece of Mind

There’s a chill in the air and a fire crackling in the hearth (or on your TV if, like me, your home is fireplace-less). In other words, it’s puzzling season, and Goodfit’s got the goods. This husband-and-wife-founded company turns gorgeous works of art—by the likes of Serena Corson, Terri Po, and Uzo Njoku—into 200- to 1,000-piece puzzles ($26 to $32 on Goodfit).

Senior Moment 

@shifferdiane Who wants a cinnamon roll?! #mondaymorning #baking #vintagekitchen #cinnamonrolls #nanalovesyou ♬ Making Breakfast – SaraoMusic

For a regular dose of incredibly soothing nana energy, tune in to Dianne Shiffer, aka YourChubbyVintageNana, on TikTok. Whether she’s showing off her newly organized linen closet or sharing her favorite WWII-era pancake recipe, her videos come with incredible vintage, a side of sweetness, and positive affirmations just when you need ’em.

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As an embroidery enthusiast and lifelong journaler, I’ve fallen hard for Sophie O’Neill, better known as The Stir-Crazy Crafter, and the stitched journal project she began in 2020. She uses colorful thread to stitch teensy designs that, together, create an intricate, artistic, documentation of her year. 

To make her stitched journal, O’Neill first divides her hooped fabric into 12 pie-piece-shaped sections (one for each month); then each night she stitches an icon representative of the day. The finished product is a spectacular visual memento of her year with 365 teeny, tiny, little designs that capture each day, good or bad. Even cooler, she offers all sorts of tools on her Etsy shop to help you do it yourself, including a thorough guide, a helpful day/icon tracker PDF, and a kit that also includes fabric, floss, a hoop, and more. 

 

 

 

 

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O’Neill currently lives in Glasgow where she likes to spend time with her family, bake, and of course, embroider! She taught herself how to embroider in 2019 and she’s since amassed a following and built a community of other embroidery enthusiasts. She is active on social media, using her Instagram and TikTok to share current projects, tutorials, and a daily log of each little image she adds to her stitched journal. 

@thestircrazycrafter Feb 6th – Lookout for the launch of these pieces in the next week #embroidery #embroideryjournal2023 #embroideryjournal ♬ As It Was – PREP

Embroidery journaling is a fun way to put a spin on what some might consider a grandma hobby. The Stir-Crazy Crafter social media feeds are proof that, like with any art, it’s all about what the artist does with the materials. O’Neill uses her creativity to design things like a physical log of the number of books she’s read that, once completed, will double as an adorable bookmark. Embroidery also makes for some great custom wall art, or a medium to display your favorite subversive feminist quips (if you’re looking for inspiration, BUST compiled some awesome social justice-themed embroidery, including the one below.)  

 

 

 

 

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And there may be health benefits to making an embroidery journal, too! It’s been shown that making art stimulates the reward pathways in the brain, and can help relieve stress and anxiety. Journaling can have the same benefits, and taking some time each day to sort through your thoughts and emotions can be a helpful way to get in touch with yourself. So, creative activities like a daily embroidery journal can be a great way to incorporate art and self-reflection into your routine and reap all the mental health benefits! 

 

 

 

 

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If you’re looking for a new creative project that can be good for you and results in an adorable, one-of-a-kind piece of artwork, an embroidery journal might be just the thing! Or, if you’re looking for a great gift for a friend or loved one, an embroidery journal kit makes for a thoughtful and unique present. You can find all the tools you need to get started on The Stir-Crazy Crafter Etsy store, and find inspiration and guidance on The Stir-Crazy Crafter’s Instagram and TikTok. 

Top photo is a screenshot from The Stir-Crazy Crafter Instagram 

What could be more fitting than the Queen of Bounce opening an all-encompassing party spot in the Big Easy? The rapper’s exciting new venture, aptly named Hotel Freedia, was first announced in April of last year and is expected to open just in time for Mardi Gras in the spring of 2024, according to Eater, though Big Freedia promised to “keep [us] posted on the official opening date.”

This dream of mine has been in the works for a long time, I’ll be one of the first black hotel owners in New Orleans ???????????? will keep y’all posted on the official opening date, can’t wait to see y’all at Hotel Freedia pic.twitter.com/TofAi0rXHT

— Big Freedia ? (@bigfreedia) February 1, 2023

 Big Freedia, who celebrated her 45th birthday last week, took to Twitter on February 1st to share her excitement about the “boutique luxury hotel, restaurant, swim club, and live music venue” with fans. 

Hotel Freedia coming soon yall! boutique luxury hotel, restaurant, swim club, and live music venue!! I’m so excited about this y’all, there will finally be a place y’all can come taste my food, see a show, take a swim, and relax in our beautiful rooms, right off Frenchmen street. pic.twitter.com/io4kPgjKbW

— Big Freedia ? (@bigfreedia) February 1, 2023

Though she is most well-known as a rapper, dancer, author, and speaker, true Big Freedia fans know about her talent and passion in the culinary world, as she’s hosted pop-ups at popular nonprofit eatery Café Reconcile, worked on a cookbook, taken fellow celebs on culinary tours, and live-streamed cooking shows during the pandemic, so the restaurant endeavor comes as no surprise.

Hotel Freedia’s restaurant, though details are still being finalized, is sure to feature her recipes. In an interview with Essence in April of last year, she described Hotel Freedia as “a place where people can come if they want to have a cup of coffee in the morning and do some work on their computer, it will also be a great event space for people to come and have dinner.” She went on to say that, “It also will turn into a club space where people could come and party and see a concert. So many things will happen at Hotel Freedia that will definitely have all the locals and tourists stopping by to see what’s happening.”

In the same interview, the self-proclaimed Queen Diva specifies that the venue is at the back of the French Quarter – the historic heart of New Orleans famous for its nightlife – where visitors will have a chance to “get the whole full New Orleans bounce experience.” 

Big Freedia unveils plans for Hotel Freedia in Faubourg Marigny https://t.co/VE2Rgg4NJH

— NOLA.com (@NOLAnews) January 29, 2023

Located on the Decatur and Frenchmen streets in a 4,800-square-foot building, Hotel Freedia is set to have just five guest rooms, in addition to a 60-seat restaurant and music venue on the ground floor, and a pool and clubhouse above. The hip-hop icon has rolled out plans to, at least initially, sell membership to the venue through NFTs. Reid Martin, Freedia’s manager, said that though the venue will be open to the general public, membership purchased through NFTs will grant attendees special access to Hotel Freedia’s “courtyard pool and and rooftop hot tub and bar, first-come, first-served access to guest list spots for non-sold out shows, exclusive room rental discounts, and exclusive food and beverage offers,” according to Eater.

Freedia said that the idea for the establishment came to her during the pandemic. She was inspired to open a restaurant as cooking became a source of creativity and joy for her during lockdown, and opening a hotel had long been a dream of hers, “so it just kind of came together that way,” according to a report from nola.com. The opening of Hotel Freedia will make the star one of the first Black hotel owners in New Orleans.

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Everyday, close to 3 million people begin their day in the exact same way: by playing the New York Times game, Wordle. And  hundreds of thousands of them share their scores via social media such as Twitter. 

What is Wordle?

Wordle has been an extremely popular game since its creation by Josh Wardle in 2021, and has remained popular (and free) since it was acquired by the New York Times in June, 2022. In fact, Wordle was Google’s most searched word of the year in 2022.

The game challenges users to guess a 5-letter word in under 6 tries. With each try, the game lets the player know if they guessed any letters of the winning word correctly, and whether the letter is in the correct or incorrect position in the word. Writing out the instructions this way make it sound more complicated than it seems; it’s actually quite simple to play, which is one of the reasons why it is so very popular.

For the first few years after its creation, each day’s winning word was selected at random. But since November 2022, the New York Times has hired Tracy Bennett to be its Official Wordle Editor. Bennett first began with the NYT as an associate puzzle editor in 2020.

Getting the Job

Bennett has been writing and editing crossword puzzles for years now, including contributing puzzles to BUST since 2014. Her first BUST puzzle was called “French Twists” and had sexy puns made out of French portmanteaux (BAGUETTE OFF, SILHOUETTE DREAM, ESCARGOT DOWN, TABLEAU JOB…), and she’s been our regular crossword puzzle contributor since 2017.

It all comes back to Deb Amlen facilitating the BUST gig!

“My current role arose as a direct result of other women going out of their way to make room for me at the table,”  Bennett explains. Deb Amlen, the original columnist for BUST’s edgy, feminist X-Games crossword puzzle, offered the role to Bennett when she was ready to step down. “A few years later, Amy Reynaldo offered me a spot on the Crosswords With Friends roster. Both of these gigs were instrumental in giving me steady experience in developing themes, making grids and writing clues,” Bennett says. “ These foundational opportunities prepared me for taking on a full-time role at the New York Times, which started in 2020.  A year later, I was in the right place at the right time to take on the Wordle editor role.  It all comes back to Deb Amlen facilitating the BUST gig!”

Why She Thinks Wordle Succeeds

When asked about what has contributed to the success of Wordle, Bennett offered two possible explanations; strategy and luck. “It’s a nice game in that a lot of times strategy works, and occasionally it’s luck. That’s a really good game. It keeps people who are very good at strategy interested,” she says.

The timing of the game, as it rose to fame during the COVID-19 pandemic, has also contributed to its success, Bennett believes. “ It was a reason to communicate on a daily basis about something that was much more joyful than current topics perhaps.” 

Its shareability has also allowed Wordle to flourish. “I think that was a big reason why it got to be this daily connection point for people during the pandemic,” she says. “You could share [your results] without spoiling [the word of the day] and you could brag about your results or sympathize with others about how hard it was.” 

How She Picks the Words, and Her Favorite Word So Far

Part of Bennett’s job is to measure how people are reacting to the word of the day on social media. This is helpful for her to assess whether her predictions on the difficulty of a word were correct or not. One  word recently surprised Bennett that it was so difficult for people to guess. “One of them that I was way off on was ‘Judge.’ I thought it would be easy because there aren’t that many words that go ‘__-U-D-G-E’, but there are enough that if it takes you three guesses just to get that, then you’re still gonna have a hard time guessing the last letter.”

“I do forget the words that I have lined up, so I can play. It’s just that instead of having 2,700 possible words to choose from, it’s more like a hundred.”

Of course there’s one thing we all want to know: Was Bennett  a Wordle fan before taking on this role, and if so, was she amazing at the game given her expertise in word puzzles? “I think as a game player and a puzzle solver, I’m pretty average. I’m not exceptional,” Bennett says, admitting that her average number of guesses before winning the game was probably four, which is the average for most Wordle players.

When asked whether her new role has ruined enjoying the game, Bennet responds, “I do forget the words that I have lined up, so I can play. It’s just that instead of having 2,700 possible words to choose from, it’s more like a hundred. So it is kinda ruined for me. I’m like the only person who doesn’t get to play Wordle.” While this is an unfortunate circumstance, Bennett is doing the lord’s work by keeping this addicting game alive for the rest of us. 

As for picking the words, Bennett usually uses a random number generator that will pick out a word based on an already curated list of words. She then reviews the words that have been selected, and makes sure they make sense together over the span of a week. “If I end up with five words that begin with ‘G’ randomly, or with words that have the same double letters, or are similar like all nouns, I don’t really want that, so I might ‘re-randomize,” she says.

Her favorite word so far? Blurb. ” I like the word, I like the way it sounds. It has a feeling and a meaning that I like.”

For those who are wondering, Bennett’s favorite Wordle word since she’s taken on the role of Editor is (drum roll please) “blurb.” “It was tougher for people than I expected,” she says. “I think because there are two ‘B’s,’ and ‘B’ isn’t [typically] one of the first guessed letters. I like the word, I like the way it sounds. It has a feeling and a meaning that I like.”

When Bennett isn’t making iconic crosswords for BUST or helping to manage one of the most popular word games in the world, she enjoys catching up on TV shows with her sister. “My sister and I are now watching the new Natasha Lyonne show Poker Face, on Peacock. It’s really good,” Bennett says. And, she adds, as a newly appointed “empty-nester,” she’s finally been able to sit down and watch the shows she’s been told she should watch for years, such as Breaking Bad, and Better Call Saul.

We can’t wait to follow what entertaining (and yes, frustrating) words Bennett will be bringing to Wordle, and what amazing crosswords she has in store for BUST.

Photo of Tracy Bennett in collage, top  by Earl Wilson for the New York Times

Teresa Tapia is an inspirational figure in the world of boxing management. She has dedicated her life and career to working alongside fighters and creating a path for them to reach their goals. Her passion for boxing began in her youth, and she has since gone on to become an esteemed manager and promoter in the sport. Tapia’s experience ranges from working with amateurs to professional boxers, allowing her to provide invaluable guidance to her clients. Her commitment to the industry and her work ethic have earned her the respect of many in the boxing community. Tapia is an important part of the industry and she is helping to ensure the success and well-being of many fighters.

Read the in-depth story by T.J. English on our sister site, the Village Voice, here.

Media is overloaded with advertisements and other content that pushes harmful beauty and “wellness” standards, but this is increasingly being juxtaposed by content creators trying to drown it out with more empowering ideas that challenge diet culture. “Diet culture” – which tells women how we must look to be considered valuable, and what food and exercise we must buy, shun, or subscribe to in order to achieve that look – is an amalgamation of social and cultural biases that oppress us, including, but not limited to, capitalism, colonialism, and patriarchy. The diet industry is worth $58 billion – a lot of white men in suits make quite the pretty penny off of the self-hatred we have been taught to hold on to. As a result, refusing to buy into the ideas diet culture teaches us is significant economically, culturally, and personally. 

The body positivity movement, which has become more prominent with the rise in social media, asserts that every body is worthy and desirable, despite what dominant beauty standards lead us to believe. This belief is true and good, but it often doesn’t do much to unpack why desirability is tied to our value as human beings in the first place, or how structures of power related to race, class, gender, and ability inform what desirability even means to us.

These creators go much deeper than surface-level “everyone is beautiful” messaging. Instead, they offer more radical and nuanced understandings of how diet culture is a for-profit tool of control as well as share tools and coping strategies for navigating a world that tells us we are not enough.

Aubrey Gordon (@yrfatfriend) 

Screengrab from @thestackspod and @yrfatfriend on Instagram

As “Your Fat Friend,” Aubrey Gordon has been writing about her observations and experiences living as a fat person culturally, socially, and politically and critically examines and challenges the ways anti-fat bias is embedded into so many facets of our culture. She has published two books – What We Don’t Talk About When We Talk About Fat and “You Just Need to Lose Weight” and 19 Other Myths About Fat People. In addition to her writing and activism, Gordon is the co-host of the podcast Maintenance Phase, which debunks myths and faulty “science” surrounding diet and wellness culture. Gordon’s work seeks to unpack and unlearn anti-fat discrimination so that we may treat ourselves and others with more humanity and respect.

Dalina Soto (@your.latina.nutritionist)

Screengrab from @your.latina.nutritionist on Instagram

A self-described “anti-diet dietitian,” Danila Soto, MD, RD, LDN has curated an online space for the Latinx community where natural bodies and cultural foods are embraced as a pushback against the whitewashed dominant culture that tells women of color to shrink themselves. Soto is an intuitive eating expert and offers coaching to her community where she helps Latinx people, particularly women, reclaim true physical and emotional wellness by leaving dieting behind, enjoying cultural foods without shame, embracing their natural bodies, and finding joy in community. 

Lindsay and Lexie Kite, PhD (@beauty_redefined)

Screengrab from @beauty_redefined on Instagram

These identical twin doctors co-founded the nonprofit Beauty Redefined and co-authored the book More Than a Body: Your Body Is an Instrument, Not an Ornament. Their work is centered on an idea that challenges the conventional understanding of body positivity, which would merely tell us that our bodies are beautiful regardless of what they look like. The Kite sisters’ approach tells us that true positive body image is not believing that our bodies look good, it’s believing that our bodies are good, regardless of how they look. Beauty Redefined fights the culture that values us as bodies first and people second. They push for the development of Body Image Resilience – a set of cognitive coping skills to navigate triggers surrounding body shame and connect to our true selves.

Dr. Kera Nyemb-Diop (@black.nutritionist)

Screengrab from @black.nutritionist on Instagram

This nutrition coach and expert describes herself as a food activist. She uses her education and expertise to contribute to the broader movement for Black women’s empowerment and liberation by offering services and resources and sharing content to encourage Black women to nurture their bodies while connecting with their culture. Nyemb-Diop points out in an interview with Forbes, how Black cultural cuisines are vilified by whitewashed diet culture and, more broadly, how diet culture is a tool of colonialism and white supremacy. She fights for Black women to “decolonize their plate” by challenging racism in healthcare, particularly in the fields of diet and nutrition, unlearning body and food shame in their communities, and embracing cultural foods as both physically and emotionally healing.

Kira Onysko Jones (@kiraonysko)

Screengrab from @kiraonysko on Instagram\

In addition to being a certified personal trainer with a Bachelor’s degree in Exercise Science, this creator is also an eating disorder awareness advocate. After struggling with poor body image and disordered eating and exercise habits due to the toxic, appearance-obsessed culture of fitness influencers, she’s made a career out of teaching others about the positive physical and mental health impacts of movement when weight loss isn’t a goal. As a “size-inclusive and diet culture-free” exercise coach, she encourages movement for the purpose of feeling good and seeks to empower women through helping them cultivate a relationship with exercise that brings them joy and fits their lifestyles.

This list is by no means exhaustive – there are countless other creators that have dedicated themselves to helping women heal their relationships with food, exercise, and their bodies that have been so damaged from years of exposure to targeted diet culture advertising. Challenging an industry and set of ideas that is so powerful and ingrained in our collective consciousness is no small feat, but every individual that finds their personal power to embrace themselves, find joy, and take up space in a world that tells us to be small can have a big impact. This applies even more to women who exist at intersections of marginalization – plus-size women, women of color, poor women, LGBTQIA+ women – when acts of rebellion against diet culture, no matter how seemingly small, fight against multiple systems of oppression. 

If you’re sick of being told that you must make yourself smaller and that your physical appearance dictates your worth as a human being, use these creators as a jumping-off point to find people sharing anti-diet culture content to replace the messaging that’s been poisoning our minds for so long.

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The Lunar New Year took place on January 22, 2023, and with it commenced the Year of the Rabbit. The celebrations of the Lunar New Year can last up to 16 days but the public holiday is observed within the first 7 known as the golden week. The Year of the Rabbit is thought to bring peace and prosperity in comparison to the previous year, the Year of the Tiger, which is said to be a much more tumultuous and action-packed year. 

The Lunar New Year is one of the biggest celebrations among Asian communities around the world. It represents new beginnings and brings hope of good fortune, happiness, and good health.

The Lunar calendar functions on a 12-year cycle. According to the Chinese Zodiac, each Lunar Year is symbolized by one of twelve animals: rat, ox, tiger, rabbit, dragon, snake, horse, sheep, monkey, rooster, dog, or pig. There are many different origin stories for the Chinese Zodiac with one of the most popular ones being about a race among the animals, often referred to as The Great Race. The order in which the animals finished the race across the river was meant to dictate the passage of time and the characteristics of each year stem from how the animal completed the race. Because of this, each zodiac brings different energies and luckily for us, the rabbit is definitely on the calmer side. In the story, the rabbit is said to have attempted to cross the river by jumping from one stone to another but it was luckily able to jump onto a floating log that was able to carry it to shore. 

The Year of the Rabbit is thought to be one of the gentlest years and people can expect to experience a more balanced life this year. The rabbit was the fourth animal to finish the race and because of that it is the fourth animal in the zodiac calendar. Because of its performance in the race, it is believed to symbolize grace, beauty, mercy, and really good luck. Some people even believe the Year of the Rabbit to be the luckiest. 

In order to take full advantage of all that the Year of the Rabbit has to offer, it is strongly recommended that you adopt a go-with-the-flow attitude. Don’t try to force things to happen, allow this year to be a time for rest and renewal, and allow yourself to reflect. It is also a great time to invest in your health and well-being and to be patient as the Year of the Rabbit brings you a year of prosperity and peace.

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Mental health issues have become increasingly prevalent in our society, with the demand for mental health services reaching new heights. In the United States, one in five adults experiences a mental illness, with depression being the most common. This demand has been further heightened due to the COVID-19 pandemic, as people are struggling with increased stress, anxiety, and isolation. Mental health services are necessary to help people cope with the challenges they are facing, and the demand for these services is expected to continue to rise. Governments and organizations around the world are responding to the need by increasing access to mental health services and providing more support to those in need. This is an important step in the right direction, and it is essential that we continue to prioritize mental health services and work to ensure that everyone has access to the care they need.

Read the full article on our sister site, The Leader News, here.

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Recently, TikTok creators have been warning women about harmful ingredients in our period products that we should be aware of. On average women have around 450 periods in their lifetime, for most women that means going through a lot of period products such as tampons and pads. Despite these products being such a prominent part of our lives, it has come to the internet’s attention that many of us don’t even know what’s inside the period products we use. 

This is because the FDA classifies tampons and pads as medical devices, meaning they do not legally have to put their ingredients on the packaging. On the Tampax website, they claim they use “nothing but the best ingredients” being primarily a blend of rayon and cotton. 

@climatediva Watch til the end for a vetted list of non-toxic and sustainable period brands ?? #tampons #titaniumdioxide #periods #periodproducts #menstrualhealth ♬ original sound – Summer

A few TikTok creators have been claiming otherwise and stating that many of the period products people are using contain harmful chemicals. Creator @climatediva with over 35 thousand followers states that the use of non-organic period products such as pads and tampons expose women to pesticides and heavy metals. As reported in an article from The University of Texas At Austin, “non-organic cotton in regular tampons may contain trace amounts of the pesticide glyphosate, an herbicide used to kill weeds and rumored to be carcinogenic.” 

She also claims in her TikTok that many commonly used period products can release up to 17 billion microplastic fibers into the woman’s body during use. This argument is supported by research conducted at Middlesex University which found “a maximum of 17 billion nano plastic fibres are released per tampon, and an average of 9.4 billion per tampon, working out as 86 trillion fibres over a lifetime’s use.”

Another creator, @sharoncancio with 75.5 thousand followers claims that some of the most common brands of period products contain chemicals such as dioxins, other carcinogens, reproductive toxins, endocrine disruptors, and allergens. 

The World Health Organization states that “dioxins are highly toxic and can cause reproductive and developmental problems, damage the immune system, interfere with hormones, and also cause cancer.” This claim is worrisome, especially considering “tampon chemicals are absorbed by the vaginal mucosa, and from there are able to pass almost directly into your bloodstream” as reported by Time. 

Surprisingly, these claims seem to be true. According to The National Center for Health Research, “while the dioxin hazard has been reduced because of new bleaching methods, dioxin is still detected in tampons — even those made of 100% cotton.” The National Center for Health Research also reports that the FDA claims “the exposure to dioxin from tampons today ‘is many times less than normally present in the body from other environmental sources’” but that scientists still suggest that “even trace amounts of dioxin are cause for concern because tampons come in contact with vaginal tissue, which is covered in permeable, mucous membranes leading directly to the reproductive organs.”

@sharoncancio stay safe out there queens ? my favorite period underwear & reusable pads brand is hannah! cups and discs are also a great option. what’s your fave product to use? #period #periodtips #womenshealth #shopwithme #girlproblems #girlpower #periodproblems ♬ original sound – Just Sharon | YouTuber

In @sharoncancio’s video, she goes on to explain the changes she has made in her period care products in order to reduce her exposure to these harmful chemicals. She recommends period-proof underwear rather than disposable pads and tampons in order to avoid these chemicals altogether. We know that this may not be feasible for everyone and that for many of us, disposable period products are more realistic. The creator of this TikTok shares that when she does use disposable products she opts for organic, fragrance-free, non-paraben items and that she tries to find ones that are women-owned because she feels better “knowing someone with a vagina is making products for vaginas.” Some of the women-owned brands she suggests are Flex, The Honey Pot, and Cora. 

While it is true that there are a lot of seemingly harmful ingredients in period products, there have not been any significant findings which prove that women are having any adverse effects from these chemicals. An article written for Time reports that “the FDA says the ‘available scientific evidence’ does not support concerns about dioxin or other tampon ingredients. But that’s exactly the problem: there just isn’t much evidence available.” While the FDA does not deem any of these products as being unsafe, we agree that women should have the right to know what is going into their bodies so they can make informed decisions on what’s best for them.  

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Whether you’re road tripping to see family or leavin’ on a jet plane for vacay, packing your stuff and then lugging it around can be stressful. But having the right luggage changes everything. Here are our picks for the most stylish luggage sets to help you travel like a pro.

Light as a Feather, Stiff as a Board

This is the lightest carry-on in the world, legit—it weighs only 3.9 pounds! Even loaded up with 360-degree spinner wheels and a TSA-approved lock, it’s the definition of “traveling light.” Carry-On Light, $245, july.com.

Lavender in the Air

The wheels on this baby fro Away do a full 360, making zooming through crowded airports a breeze. This stylish luggage has a TSA-approved lock and a flex feature that can size it up to schlep back your souvenirs. Bonus: Away is women-owned and partners with various charities and organizations, including the International LGBTQ+ Travel Association. The Carry-On Flex, $325

Make It Personal

Combine this under-seat-size bag with a carry-on and you’ll never need to check a suitcase again. Its four separate compartments include a laptop pocket and a charging port (you have to use your own power bank but the port makes it more accessible). Plus, the straps are super comfy, so you can load it up without breaking your back. Backpack for Laptop, $32.99, matein.com.

Roam Where You Want To

This bag is spendy, but you can customize the color of every element, including the front and back shells, wheels, zipper, binding, and handle, so you’ll never have trouble spotting your bag on the carousel. Plus, it has a built-in TSA-approved lock, an expandable option for even more room, and a lifetime warranty for functional fixes. The Large Carry-On, $575, roamluggage.com.

Retro-a-Go-Go

Take off in style with this vintage-inspired suitcase set. It’s got the look of old-school luggage but with the ease of updates—like quiet 360-spinner wheels and a built-in combo lock—for smoother travels. Personalized Pink Floral Luggage Set, $239.99 for a 2-piece set, patternislands.etsy.com.

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If you’re like me and live somewhere that gets lots of snow with little sunshine during the winter months, the comedown that follows the joy and celebration of the holidays can hit extra hard. If the “winter funk” you’re going through has been especially tough on your mind and body, you could be one of the 4 to 6 percent of people in the United States that experience Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD). SAD is a form of depression, often referred to as seasonal depression, that is triggered by changes in season, particularly the wintertime with its shorter, colder days and lack of sunshine. Symptoms of SAD include, but are not limited to, drowsiness and lack of energy, loss of interest in things you once enjoyed, oversleeping, difficulty concentrating, and feelings of hopelessness, worthlessness, and guilt.

There are multiple theories as to why so many are affected by SAD. One theory is that the changes in season may disrupt the body’s circadian rhythm, our internal 24-hour clock that regulates our energy levels during sleeping and waking hours. Seasonal changes may also disrupt hormones like serotonin and melatonin that regulate our mood and energy levels. With the excitement of the holidays – time with family and friends, cheery decor, and delicious food – behind us, feelings of loneliness and boredom, already common in people experiencing SAD or other forms of depression, can be exacerbated. While, unfortunately, we don’t have the power to make the sun come out, there are plenty of easy, but impactful, ways to mitigate the winter blues.

1. Let the light in

Photo by Zwaddi on Unsplash https://unsplash.com/@zwaddiLack of sunshine in the winter can have a huge impact on our mood and energy levels, as well as our sleep quality. When at home, open up those blinds to let as much natural light in as possible. Better yet, sit outside and soak up the sunshine when it’s out. If sunshine is limited where you live, consider purchasing a SAD Lamp, a light therapy tool that mimics the brightness of natural sunshine to trigger the same chemical response in the brain that sunshine elicits. SAD Lamps have skyrocketed in popularity, resulting in many affordable options flooding the market – just make sure you’re purchasing one specifically designed for SAD treatment that has the appropriate brightness level and filters out UV light to protect your eyes . I sit in front of my SAD lamp as recommended (for 20-30 minutes within an hour of waking up, 16 to 24 inches away from my face) while I write, and I’ve noticed improved alertness and concentration since I started using it a couple months ago. A consultation with a healthcare provider can help you determine which SAD lamp would best meet your needs – they can also give you guidance on proper usage. 

2. Stick to a schedule 

Photo by Julian Hochgesang on Unsplash https://unsplash.com/@julianhochgesangI recently adopted a sleep schedule that has me up and moving much earlier than I was used to, and the extra hours of daylight have boosted my confidence, energy, and productivity. And that makes sense: poor sleep quality and schedule are common depression symptoms that, unfortunately, exacerbate mood and energy issues. On my days off, I make sure I’m up before 9:00 am and asleep before midnight. To ease my transition into an earlier schedule, I took magnesium and CBD supplements which helped my mind wind down before bedtime. Making an effort to go to bed and wake up at a similar time each day can alleviate these struggles, especially since you will be exposed to natural light at more consistent times. 

3. Socialize

Photo by Jarritos Mexican Soda on Unsplash https://unsplash.com/@jarritosIf you’re like me, the holiday season includes a surge in social activities slowing down significantly during my post-holiday lifestyle. That’s why I make a special effort to reach out to my besties and closest family members to schedule some quality time to engage with each other, even if that’s just a phone call. Isolation has characterized our lives more than ever since 2020 due to COVID-19, especially for depressed individuals, so time with loved ones can improve your wellbeing more than you may think. It’s often challenging for me to make the effort to reach out and stick to a plan with my friends or family, but I feel the positive mental impact immediately upon sharing a physical or virtual space with them. 

4. Move your body

Photo by Kelly Sikkema on Unsplash https://unsplash.com/@kellysikkemaEngaging in physical activity has been proven time and time again to boost mood and energy, but I know getting out for a run when it’s below freezing or going back to the gym when you may be intimidated or concerned about COVID-19, may not be appealing. Personally, I follow guided strength training and HIIT workout videos on YouTube, but if that isn’t your jam, yoga and pilates are other forms of exercise that you can easily do at home – you don’t need a gym membership, equipment, or even to leave your room to break a sweat and challenge your body. Though finding the enthusiasm to get up and get started is sometimes difficult for me, I’m motivated by the knowledge that I have better energy and self-perception after a good workout. 

5. Get enough vitamin D

Photo by Laura Pratt on Unsplash https://unsplash.com/@prattl3A vitamin D deficiency can be a result of diet or lack of sunshine exposure, the latter of which is especially common in the colder months. Low vitamin D levels are common in those with SAD and cause symptoms that characterize depression. I never considered that a vitamin deficiency was affecting my mental health, but since my doctor ran blood tests that showed I was deficient in vitamin D, I started taking supplements as advised by my doctors, which I noticed made getting up and moving each day feel more achievable. There are many vitamin D supplements on the market that may be beneficial, but make sure to get your levels tested and speak with your doctor before introducing supplements. 

6. Get outside 

Photo by Genessa Panainte on Unsplash https://unsplash.com/@genessapanaI’ve already discussed the fact that sunshine plays a huge role in alleviating winter woes, but breathing in the fresh air and taking in the beauty of nature will leave you feeling rejuvenated and may just help put the chaos of life in perspective.  Living in Utah, I soak up the natural beauty of the mountains and trees around me to remind myself that whatever I’m going through is, relatively, quite small and temporary. Research has proven the benefits the great outdoors can have on the mind – fresh air increases oxygen to the brain to improve its function and a change in scenery can reduce stress and improve concentration. 

7. Pick up a hobby

Photo by Vladimir Proskurovskiy on Unsplash https://unsplash.com/@proskurovskiyI cope with time alone indoors by viewing it as an opportunity to try out a new hobby or engage with one I already know I love. Instead of letting boredom get me down, I see it as the perfect opportunity to take a crack at something you’ve been meaning to try. The possibilities are endless! Whether you’d like to get creative in the kitchen or with a paintbrush or a pair of knitting needles, there’s never a bad time to try something new to see how you like it. If you try something and don’t enjoy it – awesome! You did something new and learned something! And now you can move on and take a swing at something else. In recent months, I’ve gotten into cooking, cross-stitch, and coloring – all of which allow me to spend quality time with myself and exercise creativity.

8. Find new things to look forward to, no matter how small

Photo by Priscilla Du Preez on Unsplash https://unsplash.com/@priscilladupreezI’ve noticed that the symptoms of SAD come on extra strong after the holidays because there’s a feeling of emptiness now that events I spent so long looking forward to are in the past; I feel that it’s safe to assume many others experience the same thing. To combat this, I simply find – or create – the next future thing for me to get excited about, no matter how big or small it may be. It’s been most helpful for me to find small things each day to get excited about – a phone call with my mom, a package in the mail, or a new episode of my favorite podcast. For you, maybe you have concert or plane tickets for a few months down the road, brunch plans for next weekend, or leftovers in the fridge you can’t wait to get into later. And no matter what, we can always look forward to springtime!

9. Consider seeking professional help

Photo by Fa Barboza on Unsplash https://unsplash.com/@fan11I have days, more often than I’d like to admit, in which the feelings of being lost, lonely, and desperate are too much for me to tackle with the coping mechanisms I typically rely on. Symptoms of SAD – and life in general – can be overwhelming to navigate on your own. Whether you need advice and coping suggestions or just a safe space to vent about the emotions you’ve been burying, finding a licensed professional to speak with can make a world of difference. These days, there are seemingly countless online resources that can connect you with a therapist who is trained to address your specific emotional needs, and therapy sessions can be had over Zoom or a phone call if leaving the house feels like too much. Finding the right therapist can take trial and error, but it’s so worth it. I feel incredibly lucky to have a professional I can reach out to when the going gets tough, and I always leave my sessions feeling more uplifted than when I arrived.

While getting through the winter, particularly post-holidays, can be a challenge, there’s hope in knowing that the doom and gloom of freezing temperatures, gray skies, and early sunsets is only temporary. I try to keep in mind that better, brighter days are always ahead. In the meantime, I take a bit more time to care for myself  – physically, mentally, and spiritually – and explore new ways of finding joy and excitement even in the most mundane of things. You should also be sure to be extra gentle with yourself during this time, and remember that reaching out for support when you need it – whether that be from friends, family, or a licensed professional – is a sign of bravery and strength. 

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Canadian skateboarder Natalie Porter is archiving the history of women’s skating online, one unsung heroine at a time. With hundreds of entries made since its digital inception in March of 2022, Porter’s website and its accompanying Instagram account are educating skaters, feminists, and history buffs alike about the achievements of women and nonbinary skaters from the 1960s through today. And with over 25 years of skateboarding experience under her belt and a thesis on the subject to boot, Porter is the perfect person to be doing this important work. 

“Like any history, [skateboarding] tends to still favor the dominant voices—and that isn’t always the whole picture,” Porter says. “There is a world of skaters to celebrate. Every single country has some pivotal female skater and I just want to bring attention to each one.”

PHOTO COURTESY OF NATALIE PORTER

While skateboarding has changed over the years, with more diverse identities now able to find community in the culture (see: @black_girls_skate), so, too, have the methods of accessing and sharing information—which is why an online archive like Womxn Skateboard History, and librarians like Porter, are so important. 

But getting the goods on the female skaters of yesteryear isn’t always easy. “I’ll be looking at contest results from the ’70s and realize a woman’s name is misspelled or her name has changed,” says Porter. “So, I’ll connect the dots and do an Instagram post, and usually someone has a lead.”

PHOTO COURTESY OF NATALIE PORTER

“Everyday I’m learning about someone new, or some new part of history, and it fuels me as a librarian,” Porter continues. “I’m fascinated by people and their stories, but I also depend on people being part of the community and wanting to share. That’s how we keep feminist histories alive, by being open with each other and celebrating together.”

Top photo courtesy of Natalie Porter. 

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With the start of the new year, we often reflect on ways to improve. This can take form in many ways (i.e. eating better, reading more, getting a new hobby) but the most important thing is that you continue to take care of yourself. 2023 is the year we are prioritizing self-care above all which is why we wanted to share 7 of our favorite self-care tips fit for anyone!

1. Make New Friends

Surrounding yourself with people you love (and who, in turn, love you) is a very important factor in having a satisfying life. Unfortunately, as we get older and busier, not to mention the whole pandemic that happened, making new friends can seem harder than ever. While it may sound odd if you’ve never tried it, we listed 9 great apps out there designed for helping you make friends. Similar to how the classic dating app works, these apps allow you to see the profiles of lots of different people who are also looking to make new friends!

2. Surround Yourself With Greenery

This self-care tip also doubles as a fun hobby! According to Parenting Science, “studies show that green spaces can have a protective effect on our mental well-being.” By adding some greenery to your living spaces you not only get some cute decor but are also engaging in self-care. Follow these tips on how to start adding and taking care of greenery in your spaces. 

3. Listen to Self-Care Podcasts

Self-care doesn’t always have to involve actively doing something. Sometimes self-care can be as simple as listening to a favorite podcast. Podcasts are great for learning new things, getting advice, or just listening solely for entertainment. For those days when you just want to sit back, relax, and listen, our list of self-care podcasts is a great place to start.

4. Give Yourself a Deep Massage

I’m sure we all wish we had the time (and money) to get regular massages. Our bodies hold stress in the form of tight muscles that need to be released. This trick of “Rolling” allows you to relieve the tension your body is carrying at home by yourself all by using a couple of tennis balls. 

5. Get Moving

The “hot girl walk” was all the rage in 2022 and we’re hoping to continue the trend in 2023. The purpose of the hot girl walk is to practice gratitude and reflect on your goals while also getting your body moving and spending time outside. Healthline reports that walking has been proven to improve your mental health by boosting energy and reducing both anxiety and depression. So next time you’re feeling down and want to practice some self-care, all you have to do is get outside and walk. 

6. Deep Clean Your Mind

The last self-care tip we want to share is some advice on how to deep clean your mind. The start of the new year is the perfect time to refresh your brain on what’s important and how to treat yourself well this year. These tips are meant to help you learn from your past and set yourself up to enjoy your present by practicing and prioritizing self-care. 

7. Try Manifestation

Do you often lie awake at night worrying about your future? Or wonder how you’re ever going to achieve your goals? The practice of manifestion may be a way to easing your fears. People who believe in manifestation mainting that focusing your intentions can hellp materialize the things you want. Follow along with our tips on manifesting to see if it works for you!

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Color-coordinated file folders, myriad Weck jars, KonMari-ing anything—organization is my love language. But it never translated to my digital life until I reached a breaking point. If your desktop is a complicated mass of icons, you get “storage full” alerts, or your camera roll is crammed with, I dunno, endless screenshots of rescue dogs you daydream of adopting, it might be time for you to do a little digital decluttering, too.

1. Tame Your Inbox

Search for unread emails and mass delete (if you haven’t read them by now…). Delete and trash unnecessary archived emails. Unsubscribe ruthlessly from newsletters and mailing lists so you’re only getting stuff you actually want.

2. Downsize Devices

Delete apps and programs you no longer use on your phone, computer, and tablet; update and organize the ones you do. Set up a filing system on your computer or laptop if you haven’t already and clear your desktop as much as possible. Change your lockscreen and desktop background for an aesthetic refresh.

3. Search Smart

Spruce up your browser by removing unused extensions and clear your browsing data (usually on the Privacy menu in Settings).

4. Scrub Your Socials

Go through your social media platforms—Instagram, Twitter, TikTok, etc.—and unfollow accounts you no longer want in your feed. Revisit your settings; make sure your apps aren’t automatically saving stuff you don’t need (like Instagram duplicating copies of your stories in your camera roll).

5. Sort Through Storage

Delete unnecessary or duplicate files (including documents, photos, videos, podcasts) from your phone, computer, and tablet. If you use cloud services (like Dropbox, iCloud, or Google Drive), go through your files there and delete what you don’t need; make files online-only to free up computer space; and double-check what’s being uploaded in the first place. Delete unnecessary files from that sneaky Downloads folder on your computer, and most important: empty the trash!

6. Tidy IRL

Now that your digital space is in order, clean each physical device too. Power it down, wipe the outside and display with a damp cloth, and carefully clean a filthy keyboard with compressed air and cotton swabs dipped in isopropyl rubbing alcohol. 

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The start of a new year comes along with a lot of motivation and anticipation for change. New Year’s resolutions are the epitome of this excitement as people plan all the ways they want to improve themselves. But this year, why not change it up a bit and make resolutions that benefit the planet as well as y urself? With the new year right around the corner, here are 7 eco-friendly New Year’s resolutions that are efficient, practical, and positive for our planet. 

1. Avoid single-use products

We’ve all heard this one before, but that’s because it’s a really effective way to reduce your environmental impact. The United Nations Environment Program advocates that “prioritizing reusable products is…critical for environmental health.” By limiting single-use products you are avoiding unnecessary waste and strain on our planet’s limited resources. The best part is that making these changes doesn’t have to be difficult or expensive. Instead of a plastic water bottle, opt for a reusable one; instead of plastic bags from the grocery store, pick out a cute tote bag for all your shopping trips (many stores even have discounts for bringing your own reusable cup or bag). There are reusable options for almost every single-use product out there–from beeswax wraps instead of saran wrap to reusable straws instead of plastic ones. 

2. Limit water waste

Limiting the amount of water you use can range from taking shorter showers, to switching from a grass lawn to a grass-free alternative. You can also save water by doing fewer loads of laundry when possible or making sure to only run your dishwasher when it’s completely full. Even just being mindful of your faucet use is a great step towards limiting your water waste.

3. Air-dry your laundry

Water isn’t the only resource people tend to overuse during their daily routine, it’s also important to start paying attention to your electricity usage and seeing where you can cut back. One simple way to save energy is to air-dry your laundry if you can. Air-drying laundry is great for the environment not only because it saves energy but it also increases the lifespan of your clothes. By not exposing them to harsh heat that often causes fraying and pilling, you don’t need to discard them and buy new ones as frequently. 

4. Drive less

Driving less is a great way to reduce your carbon emissions. Whether that means utilizing public transport, biking, walking, or even carpooling, limiting the amount you drive when you can is an effective way for individuals to reduce their carbon emissions. Trying to incorporate walking and biking more in the new year is a great resolution not only because it’ll help the planet but there are also many benefits to both your physical and mental health from getting outside and moving your body.  

5. Make an Eco-brick

Making an eco-brick is a simple way to conserve the plastic we are already consuming. To put it simply, an eco brick consists of PET plastic bottle that you then fill with clean used plastic. There are many benefits to making eco-bricks. By containing all of this plastic waste into one “brick” it helps reduce the number of microplastics created and also repurposes this already created plastic and gives it a chance to be turned into something new. To find out more about their benefits and how to get started visit ecobricks.org.

6. Support sustainably sourced goods

Shopping from local businesses not only helps you support and connect with your community at places such as swap meets, yard sales, and farmers’ markets but also cuts down on the environmental impact of what you buy. Smaller, sustainably sourced farming practices produce much fewer carbon emissions than bigger companies. In addition, buying stuff locally reduces the carbon emissions created by your products as they don’t need to travel across the world to get to you.

7. Be more mindful of our consumption

It’s very difficult in this day and age to not overconsume. Today’s society not only allows for but actually encourages overconsumption. From clothes to technology and even to food, we are buying and discarding items at an incredibly fast rate that our planet cannot keep up with. According to The World Counts, “we need about 1.75 planets to provide the resources for our consumption and absorb our waste. By 2030, we will need 2 planets. We only have one.”

In order to help confront the issue of climate change, we as consumers need to make the effort to only purchase what we need, be mindful of where we are consuming from, and also try to use the stuff we already have. Shopping secondhand is one of the many great ways to reduce consumption if you need to purchase something as you are reusing something that is already made. There are also plenty of ways to repurpose things you may already have laying around your house to give them new life and prevent them from becoming waste prematurely. New Year’s resolutions are often designed to find ways to improve ourselves for our own benefit, but with the coming new year, we have a chance to set resolutions that will benefit the world around us as well. 

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Between working, taking care of others, paying the bills, trying to exercise, having a life, and all the other tasks that fill up our days, most of us rarely get uninterrupted time to follow our creative passions. But it’s so important, whatever your craft may be—writing, visual art, design, filmmaking. Many folks turn to organized retreats and residencies for dedicated bouts of creativity, but even if those getaways aren’t expensive, the application process can be time-consuming and competitive. So why not create your own, tailored exactly to your needs? Read on for some tips.

Change Your Scene

Your retreat can take place locally or in another city; just make sure it’s somewhere totally new to you. I’ve found the key to sparking creativity is choosing a locale completely different from my one-bedroom apartment in a large building near a busy Los Angeles intersection. For my recent “retreat,” I booked an Airbnb tucked into a hilly part of town. There were deer-crossing signs, chirpy birds, and lemon trees—a huge shift from my typical scenery. 

Find the Funds

If your cash flow is more like a trickle, sites like Call for Entry and Application Management for the Arts (callforentry.org), Submittable (submittable.com), and the National Endowment for the Arts (arts.gov/grants) often list grant opportunities. I received a grant from the Barbara Deming Memorial Fund to create my own self-guided retreat—my budget included the total price for an L.A. Airbnb for a few nights, plus food for those days. 

Narrow Your Focus

Most traditional retreats ask applicants to submit a project proposal or a specific idea they’ll be working on. Set up similar parameters for your creative getaway. Write the screenplay, research the novel, or simply follow the breadcrumbs of that one idea that’s been floating around in your head. I focused on revisions for my manuscript, something I’d only been able to do for an hour or two here and there. 

Plan Your Time

Whether you choose to travel or to stay at home, block out the space to really focus on your project. I finished pending freelance assignments before arriving, and even though I was still in my own city, I put a pause on social plans. Ordering food (or eating my leftovers from the day before) freed up a lot of time, since I didn’t need to worry about cooking. If you’re the kind of person who loves a schedule, write one out so your hours of productivity and brainstorming are accounted for.

Get Creative

Even with a grant, a multiday getaway might not work for everyone, but you can shape your “retreat” any way you want. Reach out to a friend with a nice backyard or grab a picnic blanket and head to your nearest park. If you want to stay inside, join (or organize!) a Zoom creative group or FaceTime with a friend who’s also working on a project. You can exchange feedback and ideas or just work silently together. No matter the actual location, the important thing is to be intentional—put your phone away and limit distractions. –Eva Recinos

Photo: Illustration by Kailey Whitman

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It’s before sunrise on winter solstice and I’m standing in a red swimsuit and neoprene booties, wearing a crown of cedar branches. I’m on the shores of the Puget Sound with a group of women that I get in the water with weekly. Several of us have brought candles to bring light to the dark morning. There are some shouts as we enter the water, some sounds of deep breathing. But mostly there’s laughter. Joy.

Lately there’s been an increasing interest in getting into cold water. The proliferation of frigid polar bear plunges (like the famous Coney Island, NY event every New Year’s Day) and organizations like the Outdoor Swimming Society (outdoorswimmingsociety.com) have helped popularize the practice. Around the country, small groups of friends are gathering at the shores of bays, lakes, and rivers to submerge themselves, not simply braving the kind of waters that make a pool feel like a hot tub, but relishing them.

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We all come to the cold water for different reasons, but talk to enough cold-water swimmers and dippers and you’ll hear about the plentiful mental health benefits – of boosted moods, being more patient, finding clarity, and feeling resilient. “The cold water is a teacher for me. A teacher of presence, of courage and bravery, of getting to calm even under stress,” says Libby DeLana, the author of Do Walk: Navigate, Earth, Mind, and Body. Step by Step. Getting into a body of cold water is, after all, incredibly physical. You feel it on your skin and in your bones. Your arms and legs turn bright red, chilled, and prickly. But cold-water swimming is as much a mental practice as it is a physical one, and it creates a place where the two are inextricably linked. 

Carin Teresa, also known by her Instagram handle @swimawaythepain, suffered various traumas and abuse from an early age, and her psychological wounds have manifested in physical ways, like chronic pain, including fibromyalgia. Cold water has become an essential salve. “In the ice, there is some silent switch in my brain that gets flicked. I feel my power, my blood, my fire, my strength surge through my veins,” she says. “I am able to think of something other than pain. At the beginning even the tiny thoughts about the sparkle of ice in the sun or the sound of water trickling over rock, ice, and stone felt revolutionary.”

Teresa is not alone. “Cold water is the only place where everything is beautiful and nothing hurts,” says Kerri Anne Stebbins, whose chronic pain and recurring injuries left her unable to move her body in the ways she was used to. The artist and cofounder of McCall Made in McCall, ID, swims daily in local Payette Lake until it freezes around mid-December. “Cold water has given me a place to move freely and joyfully,” she says. That sense of joy resonates with many of us who get in cold water – like a runner’s high on overdrive. “Someone asked me recently, ‘What is it like to walk into the cold water?’” says DeLana. “I responded, ‘It feels like falling in love.’ The rush of excitement, the thrill, the dopamine. It feels like falling in love.”

As Bonnie Tsui writes in her book, Why We Swim, “Three decades of swimming, of chasing equilibrium, have kept my head firmly above water. Swimming can enable survival in ways beyond the physical.” That feeling can be amplified in the cold, and even just a dip in the height of winter is enough to put you in that place. Walk into the water and instantly your body wants to resist. It shouts, “Get out of here immediately!” Instead, you breathe, you give in to the cold. Teresa describes it as a “delicious presence.” In the water, you work through the darkness instead of against it. And when we realize what we’re capable of? When we feel that moment of presence where everything else falls away? It’s as if, in that moment, we have found our true sense of self. 

Is the Cold Water Calling You? Here Are a Few Tips To Get You Started

Go With a Friend

Safety is essential in the cold water, so it’s important that you go with a friend, even if they’re just on land keeping an eye on you. Cold-water swimming is an excellent social activity anyway, so all the more reason to get someone else hooked on the practice with you. 

Start Slow and Breathe

Don’t dive or jump; ease your way into the water so that your body gradually adapts. As you enter the water, focus on your breathing. See if you can slow it down to help calm your mind and body.

Work Your Way Up

To get the benefits of cold-water immersion, you don’t need long periods of time in the water. Start small (even just a minute or two) and build up your resilience slowly.

Know the Conditions

It’s important to be mindful of the conditions when you get in the water. Is it windy? Is the water choppy? What’s the air temperature? All of these things impact a swim and may make you choose not to get in the water that day. 

Trust Yourself

The most important thing about cold-water swimming is to listen to your body and trust your intuition. If you’re not feeling it that day, don’t go in. There’s always tomorrow!

– Anna Brones

Top Photo: Courtesy of Carin Teresa

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Long nights and blustery winter winds make the perfect setting for curling up with a big bowl of ramen noodle soup. Traditional ramen broths can take hours, but this hearty vegan version—made with miso and shiitake mushrooms—offers a fast, delicious hack. Plus, you can switch up the toppings depending on what you’re craving or what’s in the veggie bin. Visit your local Asian market to load up on noodles, miso, and add-ins. Slurps up!

Ingredients

2 portions fresh ramen noodles or 2 squares dry ramen noodles

1 6-inch strip kombu dried seaweed

4 dried shiitake mushrooms

⅓ cup yellow miso

¼ cup sesame tahini

1–2 Tbsp. soy sauce

1 7-oz. package baked seasoned tofu

1 cup frozen corn

½ lb. baby bok choy, preferably small heads, 4 inches long or less 

2 scallions, finely sliced

Salt, pepper, toasted sesame oil, and vegetable oil such as avocado or olive oil

2 nori seaweed snack sheets, hot chili oil, or togarashi red pepper powder for garnish

Instructions

Cook noodles according to package directions; drain, rinse with warm water, and toss with a drizzle of toasted sesame oil. Portion into large soup bowls. 

In a 3-quart pot bring 1 quart of water to a boil. Add kombu strip and mushrooms, reduce heat to medium, and simmer for 10 minutes. Meanwhile, in a small bowl combine miso, tahini, and soy sauce into a thick paste. When the stock is done simmering, discard kombu. Remove shiitakes, thinly slice, and toss with oil, salt, and pepper; set aside. Partially cover stockpot and turn heat to low.

Dice tofu into bite-size cubes. In a small strainer, rinse frozen corn with hot water until thawed. Slice baby bok choy in half vertically, drizzle with oil, season with salt and pepper. In a 10-inch skillet over medium heat grill bok choy for 2 minutes or until bright green and slightly tender. Add shiitake slices to the pan and sauté for 3 to 4 minutes or until browned. Divide tofu, corn, bok choy, and shiitake slices among serving bowls.

Pour ½ cup kombu stock over miso mixture and stir into a creamy sauce. Stir sauce into the kombu stock to combine, then ladle 1½ to 2 cups of hot broth over each noodle bowl. Garnish with chopped scallions, chili oil or togarashi, and nori snack sheets, then eat immediately.  

Top photo by Yudi Ela; Prop stylist: Audrey Taylor; Food Stylist: Malina Syvoravong

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It’s freezing outside; the snow (and the list of things on your holiday to-do list) are piling up. If you’re anything like me, your bank account is feeling the pressures of the holidays just as much as your mind is. In times like these, no food is as convenient and soul-soothing as a slurpable bowl of instant ramen – warm, savory, and ready-to-eat in five minutes or less. But you and I both know you deserve something a little tastier, nutritious, and satiating to get through the madness of this time of year – so we’ve scoured the internet for the most delicious, wallet-friendly, and easy ways to turn that Maruchan Instant Lunch into a drool-worthy meal. The best part? Most of these upgrades use ingredients you likely already have (and need to use up), so this doubles as a clean-out-the-fridge exercise. 

If you’re in need of some more instant noodle inspiration, the internet is chock-full of creators showing new “ramen hacks” on the daily, including TikToker Lisa Nguyen @lisanguyen, who embarked on a 30-day ramen challenge for the month of December, with each day’s upload showcasing a new, inventive way to turn that pantry staple into something special. 

1. Egg and Kewpie Mayo 

 

 

 

 

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This microwave-friendly recipe had every TikTok foodie’s For You Page in a deathgrip earlier this year because of its convenience and deliciousness. Simply whisk together the seasoning packet, one egg, and some Japanese Kewpie Mayo (if you haven’t tried it already – it’s a game changer) into your ramen bowl before adding the just-cooked noodles and a splash of the water you boiled them in. If the raw egg feels scary, don’t worry – the heat from the noodles and boiling water cooks it to perfection. 

2. Peanut butter 

 

 

 

 

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While there’s no shame in eating that peanut butter straight out of the jar, mixing a few tablespoons into your favorite instant ramen is a delicious and next-to-no-effort-required way to turn unsatisfying noodles into a hearty, filling treat. Add cilantro, lime juice, and chopped peanuts to take it one step further. 

3. Chili crisp

 

 

 

 

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Ah, Chili crisp, our beloved. The Chinese condiment has developed quite the cult following in the United States for its unique flavor and texture that takes just about any dish you can imagine to the next level. There’s no shortage of brands to choose from, but making your own at home is easier than you’d expect. Even one little spoonful of the good stuff will take your ramen from a struggle meal to restaurant-quality.

4. Fresh (or frozen) vegetables

 

 

 

 

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No one’s ever accused instant ramen of being the healthiest meal choice, but bumping up the nutritional value (and flavor) is easy when you have veggies on hand. Take that produce that’s threatening to rot in the back of the fridge and sauté it with your cooked noodles to make a quick and easy stir fry, or just toss it right in the bowl as-is. Frozen veggies work just as well, and if you can’t be bothered to clean another dish, they can be thrown in with the noodles before going in the microwave. 

5. Aromatics

 

 

 

 

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If you want everyone in your house to ask you what smells so damn good while you’re cooking, toss some aromatics with oil in a pan to add to your ramen. Garlic and onion are classics for a reason, but consider adding ginger and scallion to really take things up a notch.

6. Kimchi

 

 

 

 

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This spicy Korean staple has developed a reputation as a health food, due to its probiotic nature, but you should really just keep some on hand anyways because it tastes incredible. With endless brands and spice levels to choose from at any Asian grocer or even the Walmart down the road, a few pieces of this delightful fermented cabbage adds a unique flavor and crunch to any instant noodle dish.

7. Cheese

 

 

 

 

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Melting a Kraft Single into a Top Ramen pack conjures up stereotypical images of a struggling college student living in the dorms, but cheesy ramen can be a delightfully rich and comforting meal that’s much more satisfying than plain ol’ noodles and broth. Add sriracha or another spicy condiment to make it even better.

8. Frozen dumplings

 

 

 

 

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Coming from someone who typically has an unfinished bag of Trader Joe’s potstickers in their freezer, this upgrade is a particularly effective way to use up forgotten groceries and add a little more protein to your meal. Steam, pan-fry, or even microwave any variation of potsticker, gyoza, mandu, or shumai to top off your bowl.

9. Just about any leftovers you have

 

 

 

 

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When it comes to what you can add to instant ramen, the sky truly is the limit. Instead of viewing instant ramen as a cheap, lazy meal, think of it as a blank canvas of opportunities to get creative. Have bacon and eggs on hand? Breakfast ramen! Rotisserie chicken? Toss it in there! Stir-fried veggies from last night’s takeout? Say less! Too many condiments in the refrigerator door? Here’s your opportunity to use ‘em up.

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With the release of the final season of Dead to Me along with the release of her star on the Hollywood Walk of Fame on November 14th, Christina Applegate has recently been making headlines. Applegate is an incredibly talented actress who has starred in many movies and TV shows from the beloved 90s sitcom Friends to Anchorman 2 (and of course first came to fame in the nightmarishly misogynist sitcom, Married With Children). 

Apart from being adored on screen, Applegate has also been very open with the public about her experience with Multiple Sclerosis (MS). Applegate was first diagnosed in the summer of 2021, and since then has been bravely learning how to navigate this unpredictable disease. In an interview with The New York Times, Applegate mentioned that there were signs she missed early on stating, “I wish I had paid attention…But who was I to know?” In the same interview, she said she recalled feeling dizzy during a dancing scene while filming her show, and later noticed she was struggling to keep up during her regular tennis matches. It wasn’t until she started getting increasingly worse feelings of tingling and numbness that she went to the doctor and received her MS diagnosis. Applegate shares that if she had known what to look for, she might have been able to receive her diagnosis and start her treatment far sooner. This is one of the reasons why she has been so outspoken on her MS, to help spread awareness to those who may not know about this disease. 

What Is Multiple Sclerosis?

Multiple sclerosis is a disease that affects the body’s central nervous system, the control center for everything we do. The central nervous system is responsible for taking in sensory information, processing that information, and then sending out the appropriate motor signals throughout the body. The National MS Society reports that MS causes the immune system to attack the central nervous system which can lead to an array of possible symptoms including numbness, tingling, memory problems, mood changes, pain fatigue, vision problems, and/or paralysis. MS is a lifelong disease that continues to progress over time as the body’s immune system continues to eat away at its nerves and causes further damage to the central nervous system. Over time, symptoms may worsen as muscles weaken, and may lead to difficulty walking requiring an aid or wheelchair, impeded thinking, memory, and even blindness.

According to the National MS Society, while there is currently no known cause for MS, there is evidence that “shows that low vitamin D levels, smoking, and obesity all play important roles in the development of MS.” MS is not an inherited disease but there has been an indication that children of parents with MS may be more likely to develop it. 

There is no known cure for MS, but luckily there are medicines and other treatments to help ease the symptoms. Managing MS is an ongoing process but treatments such as physical therapy can help ease the pain many patients experience and medications can suppress the immune system which helps to slow down the progression of the disease. 

The National MS Society also states that they have found that “people with MS lived on average seven years less than the general population” but that the life expectancy for those diagnosed with MS is continuing to increase. 

Women and MS

Unfortunately, studies have also found that MS is three times more likely to occur in women than in men and is most prevalent in women of childbearing age. WebMD notes that women are also much more likely to be diagnosed with autoimmune diseases in general, reporting that 7/10 people with an autoimmune disease are female. 

The reasoning for this is still not completely clear but doctors at Johns Hopkins Medicine have found that the trend of MS being more common in women is much less significant until after puberty, indicating that female hormones such as estrogen might be playing a role. Inflammation has also been shown to increase the presence of MS and “women typically carry more fat on their bodies than men, and obesity rates are higher for women as well. Belly fat, in particular, is associated with increased inflammation.” Doctors warn that “carrying extra body weight may be especially risky for women” because “the inflammation chemicals in women’s bodies are different from those in men.”

While it is still unclear as to exactly why women are more likely to get MS, the director of the Johns Hopkins Precision Medicine Center of Excellence for Multiple Sclerosis emphasizes that “it’s important for women and men alike with MS to get on the best therapy for them as early as possible.”

What to Look Out For–And What to Do

Getting diagnosed as soon as possible is very important when it comes to MS because it can make a huge difference in the amount of damage done to the body. The Pacific Neuroscience Institute states that the most important warning signs to look out for are fatigue, numbness or tingling, vision problems, weakness, muscle spasms and stiffness, balance problems, torso tightness, pain, change in bladder habits, sexual problems, constipation, depression, cognitive changes, tremors, and difficulty swallowing or speaking. While all of these symptoms could also be caused by something else, “MS can be diagnosed in otherwise-healthy people so don’t just dismiss your symptoms and assume they’ll go away on their own.” If you experience any of these new or worsening symptoms it is always best to have them checked out by a doctor to see if they are being caused by an underlying disease such as MS. 

Top Photo: Chistina Applegate at Comic-Con in 2014, by Gage Skidmore, CC BY-SA 2.0, via Wikimedia Commons

If you’re anything like us, you tell yourself every year that you’re going to give more homemade holiday gifts. And then every year, time runs out.

Well we have good news. Here are 7 easy-to-make holiday gifts you still have time to make before the holidays. Almost all of them are not only customizable but also relatively inexpensive and quick. So hit up your local craft store, step away from your phone, and spend some quaity time with your own two hands! 

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Sugar Scrubs

Starting off with a gift perfect for those self-care lovers in your life. While the listed recipes are quite simple (nothing wrong with that) you can choose to add or subtract ingredients and scents such as lavender, citrus, or different oils depending on the preferences of the person you are making it for. Either way, these DIY sugar scrubs require only a few ingredients and make an amazing gift for anyone who deserves an at-home spa day this year. Find out how to make these gifts here!

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Punch Needle Art

For those of you who are looking for a gift that’s just a little more customizable, these punch needle DIYs are just for you. Not only can you create whatever pattern or design you want on the cloth, but you can also turn it into put your punch needle art on pretty much anything from wall decor to a tote bag or even a cute rug. Read the article here to find out how to punch needle your own artwork. 

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Potholder

If you like the idea of a customizable gift but aren’t quite so confident in your creative capabilities, these potholders are another great option. All you have to do is pick some cute colored fabric and then follow our loom pattern above or find one of your own to get started on these cute and beautiful handmade gifts that people will actually get use out of. Learn the ropes here.

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Paper Vase

These paper vases are such a simple yet thoughtful gift. With the option of either decorating it yourself or just picking out some cute paper, you can construct a beautiful vase to gift alongside a fresh bouquet. Our step-by-step guide shows you exactly how to make them!

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Embroidered Photo

Perfect for grandmothers, moms, or best friends. If you’re looking for a more personal gift this holiday season, this embroidered photo DIY is for you! Choose a photo of that person, a special memory, or even the two of you together, and embroider some cool pattern or design onto it to instantly make a special gift homemade for any loved one in your life. It is so simple, check it out!

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Statement Barrettes

For the fashion lovers in your life, these customizable statement barrettes make the perfect gift. Choose any short word and turn it into a cute accessory for those in your life who are always rocking unique fashion looks. Read our article on these statement fashion accessories to find out how to make your own. 

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Candles

Lastly, the perfect gift for anyone on your list. These DIY candles are a great gift and the best part is you can double the batch as needed to make as many candles as you want at a time. With the option of playing around with personalized scents and colors, this recipe will create a universally appreciated gift perfect for a nice cozy holiday season. 

It is officially Holiday Party Season! Break out the tinsel and your best ugly sweater because it’s time to get lit like a Christmas tree. Dazzle your guests with these seven festive cocktail recipes—just be sure to save one for Santa, too. 

This recipe and photo originally appeared on thatsfestiveaf.com 

1. Bourbon Eggnog

What would a list of holiday cocktails even be without a boozy eggnog recipe? This twist on the yuletide classic includes bourbon instead of the traditional brandy. Depending on which relatives you invited to your holiday gathering, feel free to add additional liquor. The recipe we shared suggests cognac, but we think a splash of amaretto or your favorite cinnamon whiskey would be a fun way to add an extra kick of flavor. 

Recipe and photo from Cuban Cocktails: 100 Classic and Modern Drinks, published in 2015 by Sterling Epicure, an imprint of Sterling Publishing Co., Inc. © DeRossi Global LLC. Photo by Gabi Porter

2. Sweater Weather

Seasonal Affective Disorder? I barely know her! This is the perfect cocktail if you need a reminder that spring and summer weather are just around the corner. Think a hot toddy on ice with a Cuban twist. 

Photo and recipe reprinted with permission from “Sloshies” by Jerry Nevins/Workman Publishing 

3. Catcher in the Rye (Frozen Old-Fashioned)

If you’re one of the lucky ones and you don’t live in a frozen, slushy hellscape during winter months, we have a cocktail that’ll keep you cool while still delivering that festive flavor! This frozen Old-Fashioned pairs perfectly with gingerbread and roasted chestnuts…just don’t sit too close to the fireplace. 

Recipe and photo courtesy Pisco Chile

4. Mina Chilena

Rosemary and star anise bring this pisco-based cocktail to life. It tastes like tiny ballerinas performing a flawless Dance of the Sugar Plum Fairy on your tongue. 

We first published this recipe in a piece about “Drinking Away the Trump,” and, coincidentally, this cocktail is also great for drowning out your aunt as she regurgitates conspiracy theories in your ear.

lllustration from Drink Like A Woman by Jeanette Hurt. Copyright © 2016. Seal Press, an imprint of Perseus Books, LLC, a subsidiary of Hachette Book Group, Inc.

5. Frida Kahlua 

This drink finds its way on the list because nothing beats a hot boozy beverage on a cold day. Plus, it doubles as a nice segue into a discussion of intersectional feminism to enjoy with your nearest close-minded coworker or relative! Add a dollop of fresh whipped cream and a dusting of cocoa powder to make this drink truly Instagram worthy.

Photo: Amy Campbell

6. Slow Burn (non-alcoholic)

Make sure all your party guests feel included by serving a non-alcoholic cocktail. What this booze-less drink lacks in alcohol it more than makes up for in flavor. Plus, the addition of honey and ginger make this tummy-taming elixir perfect for sipping after a particularly filling holiday feast. 

Photo and recipe from The Modern Proper

7. Holiday Sangria

We’re fairly certain that parties were invented as an excuse to serve sangria. An entire bottle of red wine goes into this recipe, which means it’s perfect served in a punch bowl with a ladle for serving or a straw for sipping. Depends on if you’re sharing or not—we won’t judge either way. 

Cheers!

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Our columnist, Sarah Potter, provides this season’s tarot readings for the signs. 

Sagittarius:

King of Cups

(Nov. 22 to Dec. 21)

Ride the wave, Sagittarius. Whatever comes your way, you’ve got this—rely on your intellect as much as your intuition. You’ve cultivated a good sense of balance, so keep it up and stay fully committed to any self-care routines. Even a good night’s sleep can do wonders for your body and peace of mind. 

Capricorn: 

The Lovers Reversed

(Dec. 22 to Jan. 19)

Raise your standards, Capricorn. You hold yourself to an exalted expectation, but have you considered why you do things differently from others in your life? It’s totally OK to want more and to ask for it, so be explicit with your desires, especially when it comes to how others show up for you. Invoking a change like this will be challenging at first, but it will be well worth it. 

Aquarius:

Page of Pentacles

(Jan. 20 to Feb. 18)

Enjoy the ride, Aquarius. Lean into your curiosities as you cultivate your creative path. Which road will you take? Ultimately, it doesn’t matter if you don’t know your exact route; the journey is what’s most important. Go where the wind takes you and follow what piques your interest. A detour is never wasted when it uncovers an unexpected experience.

Pisces:

Strength Reversed

(Feb. 19 to March 20)

Reignite your inner spark, Pisces. If you’ve been feeling off-center, let’s get your mojo back. Even when times are tough, think about all of the goals you have accomplished and all of the inner work you have done to encourage your own growth. You have done it before, and you will do it again. 

Aries: 

The Hermit

(March 21 to April 19)

Indulge in peace and quiet, Aries. Your current mood is feeling more introspective and contemplative lately so if you aren’t feeling social, then there is no need to force yourself. Decline all the invites you want! Maybe pull some cards, journal, or exercise. There will be plenty more times to have boring small talk at parties with people you barely know.

Taurus:

Seven of Swords

(April 20 to May 20)

Be strategic, Taurus. You have a crystal-clear vision in mind as to what you want to accomplish right now, but you can’t fly by the seat of your pants to get there. To get what you want, be calculated as you execute your next moves. It’s time to tighten up: don’t be afraid to plan down to the very last detail, leaving little up to chance.   

Gemini:

Three of Swords

(May 21 to June 20)

This might be a season of healing, Gemini. Pain from your past could be bubbling to the surface again, but you are in a better place now where you can handle these tough emotions. There is no need to hide these feelings, so speak from your heart and share what’s really been going on with the people who care about you. If words escape you, channeling this hurt into a creative activity often proves helpful. 

Cancer:

Knight of Swords Reversed

(June 21 to July 22)

Look up, Cancer! Being laser focused on your goals is helpful, but if you hunker down and tunnel in too closely, you might miss out on everything happening all around you! Your goals require most of your attention right now, but your mind still needs a break. Don’t forget to step away from your tight schedule to let loose and have fun with loved ones.

Leo:

The Magician

(July 23 to Aug. 22)

Go for it, Leo. You are being presented with exciting opportunities to really hone your skills and show off your talents on a grander scale. This is exactly what you have been hoping for, so seize this moment and do not let any self-doubt hold you back from something that could be momentous and magical. Others recognize your potential so you should too! 

Virgo:

Temperance

(Aug. 23 to Sept. 22)

Be patient, Virgo. As much as you want to speed things along, your current endeavor is going to take time to get the results you desire. Just because you aren’t getting that instant gratification doesn’t mean that hope is lost here! In fact, it feels like just the opposite. Good things come to those who wait.

Libra:

Ten of Cups

(Sept. 23 to Oct. 22)

Express your gratitude, Libra. Have you noticed all the wonderful gifts around you lately? You have created a gorgeous life for yourself, so take inventory of everything that has come to fruition this year, all the progress you have made, and the dreams you’ve made come true. Be in the present moment and feel thankful so you can appreciate your life fully. 

Scorpio:

Four of Pentacles Reversed

(Oct. 23 to Nov. 21)

Have you been procrastinating, Scorpio? If you’re trying every trick in the book to distract yourself from what needs to be done: cut it out. The anticipation is always far worse than the actual outcome. Put on your big-person breeches and do what needs to be done. Stat! 

Featured Deck: Aquarius Tarot by Dawn Aquarius

1. A Simple Sewing Machine

If you are just starting out and need to buy a machine, a basic sewing machine is all you need. I used a beginner Brother machine for the first 15 years I sewed, and it wasn’t until I had my business for a few years that I decided to upgrade. Most garments only require a couple of stitches—straight and zigzag. You can sew every type of fabric and nearly all patterns with those two stitches. When starting your machine search, I recommend looking into Brother, Janome, and Singer, all three of which put out great machines under $200.

2. Fabric for Beginners

While most patterns you will be sewing give you some guidance on recommended fabrics, there are a few general rules to follow when you are starting out. Focus on fabrics that aren’t stretchy such as cotton, linen, broadcloth, and cotton lycra. Try to avoid fabrics that shift and slide while sewing, like knits. You can work up to these fabrics, but for your first projects, aim for easy-to-work-with fabric. 

3. A Basic Pattern

With a machine and fabric in hand the real fun begins, but don’t let all the possibilities overwhelm you. A project like an elastic-waist skirt or pajama pants is a great way to get a feel for your machine and working with fabrics, and the more wins you have as you begin sewing, the more likely you are to keep going. But remember that your projects will never be perfect—I have been sewing for over 20 years and I still make mistakes on every garment! There are two types of patterns that you can buy. Paper patterns can be found at your local fabric store, whereas PDF patterns can be purchased online, printed at home, and taped together. The indie sewing community has many beginner-friendly companies that not only provide great basic (and free!) patterns but also resources for sewing them. Below is a list of pattern companies that do a fantastic job of providing patterns and resources for sewing. 

4. Your Measurements

The last—and what I consider to be the most—important part of sewing your own clothes is understanding your body measurements. Measuring your body before starting a project will give you the information you need to choose the right size. One of the benefits of indie pattern companies is that they do a fantastic job of explaining what measurements to take and how that corresponds to the size chart. Your finished garment is going to be much better if you sew the correct size based on the pattern. Even if you feel overwhelmed by the prospect of sewing your own clothes, I am confident that just by starting you will see that it isn’t nearly as complicated as you think. – Kimberly Payne

The author sporting one of her Straight Stitch Designs patterns

Indie Pattern Companies Great for Beginners

Sew DIY 
Beth creates patterns with simple lines and classic shapes and uses her YouTube channel to walk you through patterns, machines, and other sewing tips and tricks.

Hey June Handmade 
Adrianna provides simple, modern sewing patterns that are fun to sew and work for both beginner or experienced sewists.

Straight Stitch Designs 
I aim to provide patterns that offer style and comfort combined—the clothes you grab for in your closet on a regular day.

Cashmerette
Jenny focuses on patterns for curvy women and provides all the resources for fitting patterns to your body.

Helen’s Closet 
Helen creates modern designs for the home sewist and believes that fashion and style are for everyone regardless of their body shape and size. 

Photos courtesy Kimberly Payne

This article originally appeared in the Fall 2022 print edition of BUST Magazine. Subscribe today! 

On Saturday, the 19th of November, an armed man entered the LGBTQ+ nightclub, Club Q, in Colorado Springs, Colorado, just before midnight. He then opened fire in the middle of the club, ultimately killing five people and injuring 25 before being taken to the ground and disarmed by people inside the nightclub. A few moments after the horrific event, the clock struck midnight, and it was the 20th of November, the Transgender Day of Remembrance (TDOR). TDOR is a day to remember victims of transgender hate crimes. 

Anti-transgender hate crimes and murders are not uncommon, and unfortunately, the tragic incident in Colorado does not stand alone. In 2022, at least 32 transgender people have been killed in the US, according to a report by The Human Rights Campaign. Even though transgender people have been internationally more accepted, they are still victims of anti-transgender crimes. 

In honor of Transgender Day of Remembrance and the lives lost at the Colorado shooting, here’s a list of 5 transgender people who lost their lives just trying to be who they were.  

 

 

 

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1. Rita Hester

Rita Hester was a black transgender woman who was murdered in her apartment in Boston in 1998, where she was brutally stabbed over 20 times. The year after her death, Hester’s friend, Gwendolyn Ann Smith, put together a vigil to honor her late friend. The yearly vigil became a place for people in the transgender community to remember and honor transgender people who had been victims of hate crimes and violence. The vigil then evolved into Transgender Day of Remembrance, which has since been held annually. The murder of Rita Hester was not the first, and unfortunately not the last, murder of a transgender person. However, her memory will live on and shine a light on transgender people who passed on the 20th of November.

 

 

 

 

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2. Daniel Aston

Daniel Aston, 28 years of age, was a transgender man who lost his life in the shooting at Club Q in Colorado on Saturday. He came out as transgender during high school and later became president of the LGBTQ club at his college Northeastern State University in Tahlequah, Oklahoma. Club Q was the first nightclub or bar to hire Aston as a drag queen. He was a self-proclaimed ‘Master of Silly Business,’ and according to his mother, you wouldn’t want to miss out on his performances which were, just like Aston himself, filled with light and joy. It is still unknown whether the perpetrator of the shooting acted out of hate, but there is no denying this was an act of violence against the LGBTQ+ community. Club Q is meant to be a space for LGBTQ+ people to come together and, most importantly, feel safe. 

Artwork of Marsha P. Johnson at No Pride Without Black Trans Lives by Eden, Janine and Jim

3. Marsha P. Johnson

With her big signature smile and flowers in her hair, Marsha P. Johnson became the face of the LGBTQ+ movement in New York City in the 1960s and ‘70s. Though she never described herself as transgender (the term wasn’t commonly used then), she preferred the pronouns she/her and defined herself as a gay person, a drag queen, and a transvestite. Marsha P. Johnson (the P an abbreviation for ’Pay it no mind’) was a symbol of gay and transgender rights and fought in the raid of the Stonewall Inn in 1969. She was not afraid of speaking her mind and said in an interview, “As long as gay people don’t have their rights all across America…there is no reason for celebration.” Her life ended abruptly when her body was found in the Hudson River in 1992. Her death was at first ruled a suicide, but the LGBTQ+ community saw the police department’s lack of investigation as an act of discrimination. In 2012 her case was reopened, and in 2020 a waterfront park in Brooklyn was named after her. She is still considered one of the most influential activists for transgender rights. 

 

 

 

 

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4. Brandon Teena

Brandon Teena’s story became internationally famous in the 1999 movie Boys Don’t Cry, in which Hilary Swank won her first Academy Award for her portrayal of Brandon Teena. Whether or not Swank was the right actress to portray him, as she is not transgender, has since been debated, but the movie helped spark the debate about hate crimes against the LGBTQ+ community in the US. Teena was born in 1972, and he grew up in Nebraska. He always identified himself as male. Teenas was eventually murdered in 1993, they were only 21 years old, by his former friends when they realized he was born female. Teena and his then-girlfriend tried to seek help before the tragic incident; however, the police department discouraged them when they kept questioning Teena about his gender instead of taking the threat of Teenas friends seriously. The murder of Brandon, alongside the murder of Matthew Shepard in 1998, increased the awareness of hate crimes against the LGBTQ+ community in the U.S. 

Photo of Hande Kader in 2015 by Şener Yılmaz Aslan/MOKU

5. Hande Kader

On the 8th of August in, 2016, the body of Hande Kader was found at her home in Istanbul. She was a well-known Turkish activist who was a prominent figure in the trans movement in Turkey. Kader was amongst many other transgender people who had been killed in Turkey. The murder of Kader sparked outrage in the Turkish LGBTQ+ community as well as around the world; hundreds of trans people had been harassed or even killed without the police doing much to stop the increasing amount of anti-transgender crimes– very few anti-transgender crimes had been investigated by the police department, including Kader’s murder. Her death resulted in demonstrations in Istanbul, where members of her community demanded justice and acknowledgment from the police departments and the entire country of Turkey. Like the other trans people mentioned on this list, Hande Kader died too young. But just like the people listed above her, her death sparked a fire as well as a conversation about the treatment of transgender people.

Top photo by Ehimetalor Akhere Unuabona on Unsplash

Photos: (Rita Hester) via @links_ils; (Daniel Aston) via @madlymazzy; (Marsha P. Johnson) Eden, Janine and Jim; (Brandon Teena) via @blackandpinkorg;(Hande Kader) Şener Yılmaz Aslan/MOKU

Our lifestyle editor Lisa Butterworth is always looking for the best in brand-new lifestyle hacks, products, and fun, and here are her top 5 picks for fall:

Up With the Matriarchy

Tackling home-improvement projects on your own can feel daunting, and looking for guidance can come with a hefty dose of mansplaining. Matriarchy Build, created by longtime friends Lacey Soslow and Gabriella Ainslie, is an online community of women and LGBTQ+ pros—plumbers, tile setters, carpenters, electricians, and more—available for virtual DIY consultation, sans patronizing.   

A Sweet Psych

Julie Nguyen’s creations look like classic bakery cakes piled with sugary frosting, complete with vibrant colors and elaborate piping. But her Fake Cakery goods ($10-$130) aren’t for eating. These works of art are actually jewelry boxes, weed grinders, ashtrays, magnets, clocks, and simple decorations—all faked to perfection.

KICK OFF BAKING SEASON WITH THESE THREE BOOKS

Flour Power 

In her newest book, Flour Power: The Practice and Pursuit of Baking Sourdough Bread ( $29.99), wheat wizard Tara Jensen provides the guide that will level up your pandemic pastime with gorgeous photos, cute illustrations, and tons of technique. 

Simply Vegan 

They changed faff to fuss in the American title of Great British Baking Show contestant Freya Cox’s new book, but the recipes in Simply Vegan Baking: Taking the Fuss Out of Vegan Cakes, Cookies, Breads, and Desserts  still have her singular touch.

Baking By Feel

With chapters called “Happy,” “Sad,” “Mad,” “Anxious,” and “Hopeful,” Baking by Feel: Recipes to Sort Out Your Emotions (Whatever They Are Today!) ) is self-care through your sweet tooth from Internet-famous baker Becca Rea-Tucker . 

Header photo courtesy of Matriarchy Build 

photo courtesy Julie Nguyen of Fake Cakery

This article originally appeared in the Fall 2022 print edition of BUST Magazine. Subscribe today! 

“I didn’t know how to do anything but apologize a lot and try harder,” explains Jessica McCabe of living with ADHD (Attention Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder). So, in 2016, the actor, writer, and activist began creating content across social media aimed at providing those who share her diagnosis a toolbox of techniques to accommodate their neurodifferences. From crash course videos on definitions, to relatable, 30-second clips on everyday problems, McCabe has been making information and resources on ADHD accessible in a society whose user’s manual was constructed for neurotypical brains.

Today, “How to ADHD” has over 1 million subscribers on YouTube and a thriving online community.McCabe is even penning a book based on her experiences. And it isn’t only her followers who have benefited from her work. Six years after launching her brand, she says, “I am able to appreciate myself for my strengths and uniqueness in away I couldn’t before.”

photo courtesy Jessica McCabe 

This article originally appeared in the Fall 2022 print edition of BUST Magazine. Subscribe today! 

For this project, we used a large, 10″ metal loom (Pro Size Potholder Loom from Friendly Loom by Harrisville Designs, $32.95, harrisville.com) to make 8″ x 8″ potholders, but you could also use the traditional 7″ size (which makes 6″ x 6″ potholders); these patterns will work fine on either one. You’ll also need one bag each of cotton loops in the right size for your loom in the colors powder blue and pewter ($8.95 – $16.95, also from Friendly Loom by Harrisville Designs).

Instructions for the Potholders

1) Start by placing loops on each peg vertically, attaching them at the top and bottom of the loom. This is called the warp.

For the plaid design (top photo, top), from left to right, place 6 powder blue loops followed by 6 pewter loops and repeat this. When you get to the end and have less than 6 pegs left, just put however many loops you can fit of the color you are up to. (A)

For the weave design (top photo, bottom), place loops as follows, from left to right: 1 powder blue, 1 pewter, 1 powder blue, 1 pewter, 1 powder blue. Repeat this series of 5 loops all the way across (you will have two powder blue loops right next to each other at the end and beginning of each repeat), stopping wherever in the pattern it is that you run out of pegs. (B)

2) The loops that will be woven across the warp horizontally are called the weft. Beginning from the bottom, the order of the colored loops here will exactly mirror the order of your warp loops reading them from right to left (the opposite of how you placed them, above). So, if you ended your loop placement for the plaid design with 3 powder blue loops, you will begin by weaving in 3 powder blue loops. If you ended with 6 powder blue loops, you will begin with 6 powder blue loops, etc.

Weaving is done exactly like you think it is: pulling your loop from left to right, go over both strands of the first loop, then under both strands of the second loop, then over the third loop, continuing until the end. Push your loop down to the bottom and place both ends on a peg. (C)  For the next loop, you’ll start by going under both strands of the first loop, then over both strands of the second loop, etc.

You can do this pretty easily with your fingers or with a hook, but when you get to the last few loops at the very top, things will be tight and you’ll have to use the long metal hook that came with your loom. Weave the hook over/under from right to left, grab a loop, then pull it carefully through all the way to the right. (see below).

3) To finish, starting in the upper right-hand corner, insert a crochet hook into the top loop and remove it from the peg. Insert the hook into the next loop, remove it from the peg, and pull the loop through the one on the hook.

Continue in this way to complete one entire side. When you are finished, pull one loop from that side back onto the loom just to keep the potholder stretched into shape while you continue. (F) Leave the last loop loose for hanging.

When you’re done, pull on the opposite corners of the potholder to pull it all back into shape.

Photos by Yudi Ela

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My most treasured times are sitting on the kitchen floor in my family’s home in Southern India watching my grandmother, or paati, draped in her colorful silk sari, shuffle around making her special masala chai tea. She grinds spices and we laugh and gossip as the room becomes fragrant with fennel and star anise. After she pours the tea, we watch the morning come alive as clouds move over the mountains and peacocks begin to talk. Back at home in my modern kitchen, I make this chai concentrate trying to replicate paati’s effortlessness, and when I add hot milk and sit down to drink it, I imagine her doing the same on the other side of the world.

My Paati’s Masala Chai Recipe

Place 12 green cardamom pods, 1 tsp. whole cloves, 2 tsp. allspice, 1⁄2 tsp. peppercorns, and 1⁄4 tsp. fennel seeds in a mortar; press with a pestle until cardamom pods crack and spices are somewhat crushed. Place in a heavy-bottom saucepan with 5 cinnamon sticks (cut in half), a 4-inch piece of dried ginger, and 1 whole nutmeg, and toast for 2 minutes over low-medium heat. Add 3 cups water; bring to a boil over high heat then remove from stove. Halve a vanilla bean and scrape seeds into mixture. Add the empty bean, 2 star anise, and 1⁄4 cup sugar. Cover, steep for 20 to 30 minutes, and taste. (For a spicier blend, steep another 10 minutes.) Once satisfied, bring water back to a boil then remove from heat again. Add two bags of black tea (I use the brand Wagh Bakri), cover, and steep 5 to 10 minutes more. Strain mixture into a clean jar and use as desired. I use equal parts concentrate and milk—I prefer hot, but it’s delicious iced, too.

Photo by Kamal Preet Kaur on Unsplash

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President Joe Biden announced on August 24th, 2022 that the federal government will be relieving $10,000 in student loan debt per borrower and up to $20,000 for Pell Grant recipients. However, a federal appeals court has halted the progress of the relief program due to six Republican-led states claiming Biden does not have the authority to cancel student debt across all states. In response, the government’s lawyers pointed to the HEROES Act (the Higher Education Relief Opportunites for Students) which was established in 2003 by George W. Bush that allows the secretary of education to minimize or forgive student debt in the case of a national emergency, which in this case is the effects of COVID-19.

So far there have been two lawsuits that have been dismissed from furthering in court, and Biden is confident that there won’t be a delay in the forgiveness process for much longer. He was quoted by Nexstar’s Washington Correspondent Reshad Hudson as saying, “We’re going to win that case. I think in the next two weeks you’re going to see those checks going out.”

Government officials are urging student loan borrowers to continue applying for loan forgiveness, as they are still able to view and approve applications while the movement of actual distribution is on hold. That way, once the hold is lifted, the relief can be immediately distributed.

“We’re going to win that case. I think in the next two weeks you’re going to see those checks going out.”

To break down the president’s student debt forgiveness plan, it consists first and foremost of relieving debt to low and middle-class borrowers, implementing an income-based monthly payment program to create more manageable loan options, extending a pause on loan payments through the end of December 2022, and fixing the Public Service Loan Forgiveness program by crediting appropriate loan relief to public servants. These actions as a whole aim to advance racial equity, provide more options to young people, and close the gender equity gap as women, especially Black women, are carrying the most weight from student loan debt. 

Due to the perfect (and by perfect, I mean bullshit) storm of gender and race equity gaps and COVID-19 hardships, women are on average responsible for more debt than men. Over the last 20 years, the cost of attending a four-year college has increased by 124.2% says Education Data Initiative, while the average household income has only risen by a meek 14% at $71,186 according to the United States Census Bureau. AAUW says women carry ⅔ of the country’s student debt as a whole, with women of color bearing the brunt of that debt. White women have an average of $31,276 in student loan debt versus the white male average of $29,270, compared to Black women having an average of $37,558 and Black men an average of $35,665. Following graduation, a woman with a bachelor’s degree on average can expect to earn approximately 74% of their male counterpart with the same degree, making it more difficult to keep up with monthly loan payments. Not to mention the current inflation rate, which according to PBS is the highest it’s been since 1981, on top of everything else. 

This action of forgiving student debt is a great first step, but there are many more areas in which the U.S. government will need to step up to close the gender and racial equity gap. Biden and Harris have developed a national strategy for gender equity and equality that focuses on strengthening underserved and underrepresented communities. Some of these methods will include reauthorizing the Violence Against Women Act as part of the National Action Plan to End Gender-Based Violence, as well as addressing child care and education costs by capping the amount an institution can charge, and bringing a more diverse team of representatives on at the federal level.

The application for Biden’s student loan debt relief program is officially open and will remain open until December 31st of 2023. You can do this from your phone or computer; you only need a few minutes and some basic personal information to apply for debt relief. To fill out your application, click here. Following your submission, you should receive a confirmation email from the Federal Student Aid website. In that email, it is stated that you don’t need to take any further action unless contacted otherwise and can expect email updates throughout the entire duration of your application process.

To apply for loan forgiveness, head to FSA’s website before December 31, 2023, to see if you are eligible.

Photo of Joe Biden and Secretary of Education Miguel Cardona by Erin Scott, Official White House Photo/Public Domain

What Is Pancake Spaghetti? 

Many people consider breakfast the most important meal of the day, and the latest viral food trend, “pancake spaghetti,” is guaranteed to flip your lid. On September 29, TikToker Briana Archuleta shared with the world how her husband, Steven Archuleta—who calls them “squiggle cakes”—created the pancake spaghetti idea by buttering a hot griddle, and placing the pancake batter in long, striped  spaghetti-like lines until they were golden and crispy, then piled them high in a bowl and topped them with powdered sugar. Briana, in a recent interview with Today, affirmatively stated “It was delicious.” In their follow-up tutorial video on TikTok, Steven Archuleta recommends finishing the pancakes with toppings such as blueberries, strawberries, or bananas. For Briana’s dish, he upped the spaghetti-like look of the pancakes by topping them with sausage in the shape of meatballs, along with a little maple syrup. With over 10 million views on their viral post, it’s evident that this sweet mouth-watering dish is a huge hit, and everyone is trying it out for themselves. 

@brianaarchuleta Or as he likes to call squiggle cakes #breakfast #foodie #viralfoodtrend #tryit #pancakes #breakfasttime #husbandcreations #morning #delicious #invention #thefuture ♬ Sensual Seduction – Snoop Dogg

@brianaarchuleta Replying to @disjointedjewels tried to answer some questions #squigglecakes #breakfast #viralfoodtrend #yum #breakfastspaghetti #delicious #breakfastofthefuture #tutorial #howto #diy #cooking ♬ Sensual Seduction – Snoop Dogg

What makes this trend flippin’ fantastic? 

Better Health states that eating breakfast boosts your energy after going 12 long hours without eating, and restores glycogen levels to keep your metabolism up and ready for the day.  Hence, pancake spaghetti is not only a pleasure to make, it is also a healthy and beneficial way to start your day. In addition, the fun part about this hack, according to recipe developer Amanda Neal, is that you can use any pancake batter to make it—chocolate, red velvet, banana—you name it!

Even vegans can join in the fun. If you’re someone who likes easy tasks, you can use any of your preferred ready-to-go vegan pancake mix—just add water. If you prefer making your pancake mix from scratch, you can use non-dairy milk, and for an egg substitute, you can use mashed bananas, pumpkin puree, or even unsweetened applesauce. As for toppings, you can use apple and maple sausage as a substitute for regular sausage.

@chefsummerstorm Pancake Spaghetti ? #pancakes #pancakespaghetti #foodtrend #trending #breakfast #vegan ♬ Lo-fi hip hop – NAO-K

 3 Other Fun Hacks From Tiktok For Creating A Delicious Breakfast 

 Hot Dog Hearts

Hot dog, hot dog, hot diggity dog! Hot dog hearts are a great dish for kids or even for your loved ones for Valentine’s day (or any day). All you will need is hot dogs, eggs, and toothpicks. With this fun hot dog and egg heart-shaped breakfast recipe, smiles are guaranteed! Make sure you remove the toothpicks before serving. 

@heathercoxzzz Reply to @mcleod2002 Hotdog Hearts #breakfast #kidsbreakfast #breakfastideas #valentinesday #valentinesbreakfast #whatmykidseat #funfood #foodart ♬ Hot Dog – Little Apple Band

Bullseye Omelets

Are you bored of making regular omelets? The bullseye omelet is the ultimate game changer. This is an egg-cellent, fun, and easy-to-make recipe. It is formed from the circular pattern of the egg yolk and egg whites which will look like an actual bullseye target. Add in your choice of fillings, flip it over, and voila! Your eggs-quisite bullseye omelet is ready to be served.

@flavorgod #fun with #eggs ??‍ #food #fyp #fy #fypシ #keto #breakfast #breakfastideas ♬ original sound – Flavor God

French Toast Nutella Roll Ups

 French toast is good, but french toast roll-ups are even better! (This goes for most foods that you can turn into a spiralized version!) Just take white bread, spread some Nutella on top, roll it up, dunk it in a bowl filled with a mixture of half and half, eggs, honey, and salt , fry it in pan of melted butter, roll them up and roll in some sugar while they are still warm, and you will have delicious french toast Nutella roll-ups! What’s so special about this is that it’s not just for breakfast—you can serve it as a decadent dessert or even for lunch. 

@gigimadanipour French Toast Nutella Roll Ups! Easy breakfast idea for the kids! #fyp #foryoupage #nutella #nutellarecipes #frenchtoastrolls #easyfood #homemade ♬ Sunrise – Official Sound Studio

 Header photo: screenshot from TikTok Briana Archuleta  

The English Poet John Donne said, “Death comes equally to us all” (true) and “makes us all equal when it comes.” Mmm, questionable. I’m guessing Donne wasn’t fat, ’cause it turns out, the typical Western rituals around death and burial can be challenging for fat folks and their families, and are often more expensive, too. Caitlin Doughty, of “Ask a Mortician” fame and a major player in the death-positive movement, first hipped us to this, and here, she walks us through what fat people, and those who love them, should consider when end-of-life planning.

It starts with awareness.

“Fatness can be cruelly associated with death in media and social media. But ‘death’ as an abstract concept or moral judgment is different than the realities of the funeral system,” Doughty says. “These realities are almost never discussed, even though a family’s experience can be wildly improved by doing so.” The end goal, of course, is dignity in death, and a process that respects both the deceased and their loved ones.

Understanding the fat tax.

 Plus-size people often pay more for everything from flights to fashion. That doesn’t stop when your heart does. If a body does not fit into the “standard” casket (the interior width of which is about 24 inches), an “oversize” casket can run about $500 more. A larger casket also requires a bigger cemetery plot, which can be difficult to find. Ideally, Doughty says, the cemetery will “work with the family to do everything they can to not have them buy two plots,” which, of course, would cost double the money. All told, a fat person looking to go the conventional embalming, casket, and burial route is “likely looking [to pay] several thousand dollars more.” Cremation, an option now chosen by more than half of Americans, will also cost more. “Most crematories will charge several hundred dollars for each 100 pounds over 250 pounds,” Doughty says, because of the additional natural gas and time the process takes. Though most modern cremation machines are designed to cremate bodies up to 750-plus pounds, Doughty suggests making sure “the crematory you choose has the right kind of accommodation.” 

Consider alternative options.

A green burial—when the body is interred in soil with the intention of biodegradation, kind of like composting—takes size out of the equation. “It removes some of the stigma around ‘standard’ caskets, vaults, and burial plots not fitting,” Doughty says. “It’s a hole in the earth! Who cares if some bodies need a slightly larger hole to be buried in?” Just keep in mind that although this type of interment is typically cheaper than a conventional burial, it is more expensive than cremation. This article on the “death positive movement” can point you in the right direction. 

Pre-planning is key.

Even expected deaths can be traumatic for those left behind, and finding out about additional charges, or worse, that a funeral home can’t accommodate the wishes of the deceased, just adds to the stress. “The more openly fatness is talked about in the death-planning conversation, the less it has to be a potential point of tension,” Doughty explains. An understanding and knowledgable death doula might be helpful in the death-planning process. That’s when, she says, “beautiful stories and beautiful funerals happen.” –Lisa Butterworth

Illustration by Michaela MacPherson

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Are you gourd to death by regular ol’ jack-o’-lanterns? Get creative with fall décor that’s more sweet than spooky by turning this year’s pumpkin into a tiny home fit for fairies, gnomes, or wee woodland creatures. This project was inspired by the pumpkin house displays at the pick-your-own farms my son and I visit every year. We decorated ours with found natural elements, so start by taking a seasonal foraging stroll around your own neighborhood. –Ashley Koshimizu (@woodlark)

Materials

Pumpkin

Serrated knife

Metal spoon

Thin, straight sticks

Hot glue gun

Natural items such as bark, pinecones, moss, rocks, acorns, dried beans, leaves, feathers, seedpods, gumnuts, fresh greenery

Natural twine

Air-dry clay

Miniature animal figurines

Instructions

1) Use a serrated knife to carve openings into your pumpkin in the shape of a curved door with a square window on each side. (You can use a pencil or pen to mark the shapes first.) Make the door opening big enough so that you can then use a metal spoon to remove all of the seeds and flesh from inside the pumpkin. 

2) Add a frame to one window by breaking or cutting a twig into two pieces that are slightly longer than the height and width of the window. Secure the vertical stick in the window opening by inserting it into the flesh, then insert the horizontal stick using the same method. Repeat for the second window.

3) Create a bridge for the front door by gluing sticks of equal length together. If the sticks are fairly straight, you can hot glue them together directly side to side. If they’re too wonky for that, glue two additional sticks width-wise across each end for support. (This technique can alternatively be used to make a door for your pumpkin house.)

4) To make the ladder, start with two long thin sticks of equal length. Hot glue “rungs,” or short sticks, at equidistant intervals across the long sticks. Lean the ladder against the outside of your pumpkin house.

5) To make the swing, first fashion the stand out of two larger sticks, trimming to the right size; create a slightly obtuse angle and secure the ends by wrapping them together with twine. Make the perpendicular stick sturdy by wrapping the bottom end with a small piece of air-dry clay and pressing it onto a small wooden round. Hot glue the end of the top stick near the pumpkin’s stem. Choose a small, flat piece of bark for the swing’s seat. Decide how long you want your swing to be and cut two pieces of twine, each one twice as long as the desired length. Wrap the first piece of twine around the edge of one side of the bark and knot; hot glue to secure and repeat on the other side. Hang the swing by knotting each side of twine above the top stick; trim any excess.  

6) Add accents to your house using your natural materials. We glued moss and leaves to the roof as well as a small bird’s nest with eggs that my son made out of air-dry clay. We also glued a seedpod under one of the windows to make a window planter. For the “trees” I stuck sprigs of greenery into bases made out of air-dry clay. As a final touch, we added beans and lots of small pinecones. When you’re done, place your tiny animals and let them enjoy all the creature comforts you’ve created!

All photos photographed by Ashley Koshimizu

Was originally published on Woodlark Blog. 

I do not come from a one-bite family. Unless that one bite was Godzilla’s. So I have trouble with the notion of dainty hors d’oeuvres. If you’re going to go to the trouble of putting something in your mouth, it should at least be a mouthful—like these. What follows are a few of my tried-and-true favorites—plus making them is way easier than spelling hors d’oeuvres.

TUNA FISH + CHIPS

Serving gorgeous, sushi-quality tuna on a potato chip is so wrong it’s gloriously right. Buy the best sushi-quality tuna, remove the skin and dark spots or have your fishmonger do it, then dice into small pieces. Mix two-thirds tamari to one-third sesame oil and whisk in a little wasabi. A half hour before serving, toss tuna with enough dressing to coat. When ready to serve, plop a spoonful of tuna onto perfect,
unbroken ruffled potato chips; garnish with sesame seeds and thinly sliced scallions.

CAPRESE POPS

Cube fresh mozzarella into one-inch bites. Spear each onto a bamboo skewer with a cherry tomato and set on a serving tray. Put two handfuls of fresh basil with two shots of extra virgin olive oil, season with salt and pepper, and drizzle over your skewers.

BUFFALO CHICKEN SCOOPS

Place boneless chicken breasts or thighs (2 pounds will feed 6 to 10 people) in a baking pan sprayed with cooking spray. Whisk 2 or 3 shots of Franks RedHot sauce with a few good drizzles of olive oil and two drizzles of Worcestershire; pour over chicken. Preheat oven to 375 degrees F, cover chicken with foil, and roast for 20 minutes. Remove foil and roast till done (15 to 20 minutes depending on size of chicken). Once cool, shred chicken. Bring leftover marinade from the baking pan to a boil in a saucepan then pour over chicken. Add more Franks, and salt and pepper to taste. Fill little taco cups (like Tostitos Scoops) with the buffalo chicken and top each with crumbled blue cheese. So cute! I like to dollop them with celery salsa too: Mix a coffee cup of finely diced celery, a plop each of finely minced red onion and finely minced jalapeño with a few drizzles of fresh lime juice, salt and pepper to taste, and a
handful of chopped fresh cilantro.

Photographed by Andrea Monzo

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The internet is exploding with influencers spreading information about ADHD, especially how it affects women, with podcasts such as LadyHD, youtube series on how to navigate life, and much more. As a woman with ADHD, I can attest that there is very little understanding of how this neurological disorder affects women due to a lack of research on how adult ADHD looks versus childhood and that this plus the integrated sexism within American healthcare causes a lack of proper diagnoses. It wasn’t until the 1960s that ADHD was officially recognized for being an adult diagnosis. It was assumed that young boys were the only people affected so women’s symptoms were passed off as anxiety, obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), and bipolar disorder. This is because men tend to show hyperactive and emotional outbursts more often, whereas women’s symptoms look like daydreaming, emotional sensitivity, and time blindness. It wasn’t until I was 19 years old that I was diagnosed properly with ADHD, after being diagnosed with anxiety, OCD, depression, and bipolar disorder.

Many women, including myself, can recite numerous psychiatric and therapy appointments consisting of being talked over, gaslit, and just blatantly unheard when expressing concern over our suspected disorder, as explained in Julia Hearne’s TedTalk Sexism in the World of ADHD. This system of sexism in healthcare leads to women being diagnosed late in life, typically not until their late 30s or early 40s. Instagram and TikTok influencers have taken it upon themselves to help spread awareness of this neurological disorder through examples of symptoms, and visual representations of how it can look day to day, with some videos gathering millions of views. Common surface-level symptoms include forgetfulness, being chronically late, having a hard time focusing, and fidgeting or moving a lot says Verywell Mind. Unfortunately, the reality is much more than forgetting your keys and being distracted. The heavier symptoms of adult attention deficit hyperactivity disorder includes: sensitivity to rejection, depression, mania, and low self-esteem. These three women are using TikTok to shed light on the unique experience of being a woman with ADHD. 

Roxanne Emery

@adhd_love BLUEBERRIES #adhd #adhdtiktok #adhdinwomen #adhdpartner #neurodivergent #adhdprobs #adhdcouple #adhdsquad #adhdcheck ♬ original sound – ADHD_love

38-year-old London-based musician Roxanne has built a legacy for herself under the stage name RØRY, with her top Spotify song clocking in at just under three million listens. Roxanne’s music gives all the angsty goodness of early Avril Lavigne vibes, writing songs about recovering from addiction and toxic ex-boyfriends. The inspiration for these songs stems from her experience of losing her mother at 22, becoming estranged from her brother, and spiraling down a path of alcoholism. People with ADHD are more likely to get caught up in substance abuse than neurotypicals (or people who do not display atypical neurotypes such as autism, ADHD, and dyslexia) as stated on Verywell Health, and women are more likely to be stuck in abusive relationships due to being trained to people please and adapt for those around us. In 2018, she got sober and sought therapy where she learned she has ADHD. Flash forward to today, she is thriving in her music career, has a supportive husband who also is a recovered addict, and is using her story to inspire others who are in the trenches themselves. 

Roxanne and her husband, Richard Pink, run the account @adhd_love on Instagram and TikTok where over 260k followers watch humorous and terribly relatable moments of their everyday life with Roxanne’s ADHD. The videos showcase common ADHD traits, from Roxanne having to reread cooking instructions numerous times and having trouble listening to serious conversations, to impulsively starting a new hobby and then dropping it an hour later. Their videos also do a great job of representing what it looks like in the not-so-funny moments of ADHD such as Roxanne getting emotional after finishing a book about ADHD, and telling Richard how hard it can feel some days as he comforts her. This account is my favorite due to the honesty of Roxanne’s day-to-day life and the positive actions from Richard who provides a great example of what a supportive spouse should look like for someone with ADHD. Unconditional acceptance, even on the hard days.

Elyse Myers

@elysemyers Your words matter. Please use them to call out the good you see in others – It can be life changing. #wordsmatter ♬ original sound – Elyse Myers

Elyse, 29-year-old Nebraskan, first caught my eye when I stumbled upon her TikTok full of hilarious retellings of awkward ADHD moments that have happened to her. She has since become one of my and the internet’s favorite comedians. Her painfully honest and awkward stories like having IBS attacks at work to accidentally getting drunk at ten by mistaking her grandma’s strawberry daiquiri bottles for fancy sodas have gained a following of over five million fans begging for more. As her TikTok and Instagram accounts gained fame, she started exploring other topics such as opening up about her mental illness and how her ADHD has affected her life in ways as impactful as doubting herself and battling with low self-esteem, as well as more minor ways like forgetting if she took her meds or not and the constant stream of Tiktok audio that lives in her head rent free.

Her representation of ADHD is honest, gentle, and deeply authentic with her comforting tone and ability to find humor in any situation. Her followers have watched her pull out of her shell slowly but surely as she gets more confident; Elyse now openly shares original songs on topics like self-acceptance and leaving toxic people behind, and has featured in commercials to pursue her acting career despite having social anxiety. Often, people with ADHD feel pressure to conform to neurotypical lifestyle practices such as adhering to routine or staying organized, which is basically like telling a fish to climb a tree. Elyse preaches the importance of listening to what your body and mind need and gives gentle advice such as recognizing that having anxiety but doing tasks regardless is brave. Often, people with ADHD are told that they’re too much – Elyse’s response to that is: go find less.

Haley Honeyman

@hayleyhoneyman Getting distracted with adhd means starting 10 tasks and finishing maybe 1 #adhd #adhdtasks #adhdproblems ♬ Comedy (Funny Playful Tuba Pizzicato Clown Music) – Eliosmusic

For some wholesome and hilarious queer ADHD content, Haley’s your girl. Her TikTok account, @hayleyhoneyman, has over 265k followers. She has great info for both newly diagnosed and seasoned ADHD folks alike, such as how to complete tasks, stay organized, and hype yourself up when feeling low. Her content is always transparent, documenting moments of ADHD paralysis, which is a mental shutdown brought on by being overwhelmed, and the raw moments of working through abusive relationship trauma. These shots of unfiltered authenticity are truly essential for other people with ADHD to see who feel the weight that comes with this disorder, rather than just the goofy moments of being late or misplacing your keys. Yes, these things are also a daily struggle, but Haley shows the parts of the atypical lifestyle that neurotypicals tend to shrug off or overlook if it’s too much for them. These can look like struggling with texture and food aversions or needing to communicate ideas numerous times to understand them fully (known as auditory processing disorder) and calls attention to these issues. She doesn’t just make content either, she also offers ADHD coaching online as well as makes adorable “Busy bee with ADHD” merch in the form of stickers, t-shirts, pins, and phone cases.

Header Photo by Antonino Visalli

It’s hard to name a more iconic duo than butter and bread. They have always been inseparable, but now the pair have been giving an insta-friendly twist: the butter board. It is what it sounds like – a board with butter – but thanks to Instagram and TikTok, it has become an aesthetically pleasing and fun way to serve butter. Instead of just serving bread with butter on the side, why not make it a main attraction on the dinner table? These tasty displays are a board covered with softened butter, served with cut-out bread on the side that you dip in the butter spread. The layer of butter can be topped with salt, pepper, olive oil, lemon zest, and fresh herbs to make the spread more appealing to your eyes and mouth. Charcuterie, tapas, and cheese boards have been a classic addition to dinner parties for a long time, but now the time has come for the butter board.

@ainttooproudtomeg Have you tried the #butterboard trend inspired by @justine_snacks @Justine Doiron and Joshua McFadden #learnfromme #foodtok #feedfeed #butterboards #butter @ainttooproudtomeg ♬ Take My Breath Away – EZI

What is a butter board?

In 2017, Joshua McFadden shared his recipe for a butter board in his book Six Seasons: A New Way with Vegetables, co-authored with Martha Holmberg. Then five years later, on September the 15th, Justine Doiron posted a recipe of her take on the butter board on her Instagram @justine_snacks, which turned out to be the beginning of a new viral food trend.

 

 

 

 

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With over 1 million views on TikTok alone, it is safe to say that butter boards are one of the latest food trends. But what is the hype about? Besides the obvious pairing of two classic items, butter and bread, the dish contains very few ingredients which makes it super easy to try out yourself. It requires few elements (obviously butter and bread being the main elements), it doesn’t require cooking skills, it is easy to adjust to your liking, and most importantly, it is aesthetically pleasing. The hype of the butter board lies mainly in the visually pleasing presentation; chunks of bread sliding through the thick layer of beautifully decorated butter; what is not to like?

Not any butter will do

Before making your first butter board, you must choose the right kind of butter. When the main ingredient is butter, it can pay off to select a high-quality butter to make the flavor stand out; do you prefer organic, grass-fed, or vegan butter—salted or unsalted? Maybe even pumpkin spiced butter? As mentioned earlier, not all butter tastes the same.

@convinoboard Stay tuned for my honest review on these butter boards ??? #butterboard #entertainingathome #foodie #foodlover #appetizer ♬ original sound – ConVino Board

To make the board, the butter must be softened. Otherwise, it will be difficult to spread out evenly and be challenging to get on your piece of bread. Once the butter is softened (either by being slightly whisked or take it out of the refrigerator for a half an hour before serving). Softening the butter also makes it easier to create a more appetizing display since you can spread out evenly and create a smoother texture. If served too cold, the taste of the butter vanishes a bit and will also make it difficult for the taste of the toppings to stand out. The butter can be applied to a board or platter in a rustic way or delicately put on the board to look like a flower, whatever you’d like. 

@cakeshak Butter board meets cheese board #fyp #foryoupage #foryou #butterboards #foodtok #butter #butterboard #cakeshak #charcuterieboard ♬ CUFF IT – Beyoncé

But the beauty of the butter is the various ways you can serve it; the topping enhances the flavor of the butter. The dish can be savory and topped with herbs, flaky salt, lemon zest, vegetables, or fish, or it can be served as a dessert plate and covered with berries, nuts, chocolate, and maple syrup. The options are endless. 

Just as important as the quality of the butter is, the same goes for the bread. With the simple flavors of the butter spread, it can be worth it to choose a bread with a great taste. Bread like sourdough contains a deeper flavor from the acid in the sourdough starter. Perhaps you’d prefer bread that accentuates the taste palette in your butter spread, like cinnamon raisin or focaccia with rosemary. 

@samischnur Butter board is my new favorite thing. Idea by @Justine Doiron !! #fyp #butterboard #foryou #tiktokfood #viral ♬ Chill Day – LAKEY INSPIRED

The more the butter

As the name of the food trend implies, the board is built around butter. But even with as few dominant ingredients, there’s no reason not to make it your own. People on TikTok and Instagram have already put a spin on the trend by creating a peanut butter board, cream cheese board, and vegan butter board. With the vegan butter board. Keep in mind that vegan butter is more likely to melt or separate faster when left out at room temperature than regular butter (which contains fatty proteins that help hold it together). When going with the vegan version of the butter board, a good tip is to make the board beforehand and take it out of the refrigerator immediately before eating. Another – and perhaps more fun tip – is to simply eat it all at once. 

@foodfables My take on what’s trending in food, the peanut butter board #butterboard #peanutbutterboard #peanutbutter #snackboard #trendingfood ♬ Butter – BTS

The butter board is a new exciting recipe to try out, and who doesn’t love bread with a lot of butter? Whether you drizzle your layer of butter with honey or pesto or add berries or herbs, it is a fun way to spice up this classic snack. The possibilities are endless, just like the video inspiration you can find on TikTok and Instagram. And just as other viral food trends on social media, it is a very easy food trend to get on (butter) board with.

Top photo by Sorin Gheorghita on Unsplash

This is trans love. It is a love that thrives in resistance to a national landscape that can be increasingly harsh to trans people. Here, three T4T (Trans for Trans) couples dive deep into revolutionary love, acceptance, belonging, and what brings them joy. 

Amy & Tristan

Amy Rose Mills (left, she/her) is a luthier, photographer, artist, and collector. 

Tristan (right, she/her) is a professional model from New York City.

“We met on Instagram,” says Tristan, explaining how she and Amy connected. “I was getting back into guitar and I was also making an effort to be more visible with my queerness. I followed some hashtags related to both topics and Amy popped up in my feed. My first impression of her was that she was a goddess.” For Amy, the feeling was mutual. “She commented on one of my photos and I thought, ‘Ohhh, who is this?!’” she says. “I eventually invited her to a Trans Lady Picnic, which was where we met in-person for the first time.”

“Trans women face an extra level of scrutiny and judgment for displaying any level of sexuality,” explains Amy when asked what she wishes people understood better. “I want people to see trans women feeling sexy and hot and exploring more intense kink the way they’d view a cis woman doing the same, though I know many are slut-shamed for this.” But when it comes to her and Tristan, no explanation is necessary. “There is so much joy!” says Amy of being in a T4T relationship, and the recognition of each other’s experiences that are inherent to it. “Gender-affirming surgery, HRT [hormone replacement therapy], the right clothing, makeup, pronouns, strangers ‘seeing you,’ exploring our bodies, falling in love. We’ve reached deep down inside ourselves and pulled out the most true and real version of ourselves that we possibly could.” 

“Trans love is a celebration. It’s a proclamation of self-acceptance,” agrees Tristan. “It’s a meeting of two people who have had the privilege of inventing themselves. But it’s also so simple, like any love. It’s a home.”

Anteus & Lila 

Anteus (left, he/him) is a drag performer.

Lila (right, ze/zir/zem) is a nonbinary queer dandy.

Lila and Anteus first met at a crowded art exhibit, but took things slow. The wait was worth it. “We started dating long distance and we talked over the phone instead of video chatting for the first month, because I was a bit stubborn and self-conscious,” explains Lila. “But his voice was so familiar, and somehow he just really knew and understood me, a self I don’t share with many, and we connected beyond our chemistry. When we met again in person, we knew this was it.” It was three months before they reunited face to face, but, says Anteus, “By month two, I knew I was in love.”

“Being seen by each other, fully, is such a grounding piece of our relationship,” says Anteus of the way in which being trans shapes his and Lila’s connection. “Being absolutely in love with all facets of the other person; being able to flow with each other’s fluidity.” Lila agrees. “It’s freeing to love someone who embodies beauty across the gender spectrum and loves me in any expression. Often people have wanted a particular side of us, and it’s validating to be with someone who sees and wants our entire selves.” When asked if they have words of encouragement to share with future generations of trans kids, the pair knows just what to say. “We’ll keep working to create the world you deserve,” proclaims Lila. “You are loved. Deserving of love. Deserving of being perceived and fully accepted as your most authentic self,” adds Anteus. “You are built exactly right and you have the power and capacity to absolutely thrive, not just survive.”

Lo & Nak

Lo (left, they/them) is a Black disabled and neurodivergent nonbinary femme. 

Nak (right, they/them) is a mixed-race Korean-American trans-masc nonbinary queer.

For Nak and Lo, “love at first sight” is more than a cliché. “After one of the first times Lo visited me in the Bronx, I knew I’d fall in love with them and their heart and it was only a matter of time, and that was exciting but scary!” says Nak. Lo agrees. “The morning after our first awkward date, I immediately went to my partner at the time and told them I wanted Nak in my life for a long time,” they explain. “I was called to them in a way I hadn’t experienced before. Love started then.”

“To love a trans person as a trans person is to love myself,” explains Nak. “It is to celebrate all the ways in which expression and authenticity and vulnerability and community can be. We are creating the world we want to see by loving each other so fiercely and unapologetically.”
“Trans love is the care that we have always deserved that has been denied to so many of us,” says Lo. “It is full appreciation for you as a whole. It is a fuck you to mainstream heteronormativity.”

Photos by Ebru Yildiz

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It seems weird to say manifestation is having a moment, but with more than 17 billion hashtags on TikTok, it kind of is. The concept of materializing the things you want, based on the power and will of your thoughts, however, is nothing new. A Hindu scripture, originating circa the 8th century B.C.E., notes that people’s will gives them the power to create the lives that they want. Even the incantation abracadabra, a Hebrew word coined in the 2nd century A.D., means “I create as I speak.” (Speak can mean think, too.) The past few years have been unpredictable. People are trying to reclaim their power—and we can. The moment you come up with an idea (aka the intention), the manifestation begins. There isn’t one particular way to manifest your hopes and desires, so experiment with the manifestation methods here to find the ones that work best for you. 

1. Envision It

Create a vision board with images that represent the things you want to bring into your life (I do it digitally, but you can go old-school too with posterboard and glue). If you’re aiming for money, try making a collage of banks, dollars, or terms that align with your cash flow.

2. Put It Into Words, and Repeat Them

Find a mantra you like and say it daily. Use it like an affirmation while you’re looking at yourself in the mirror. If you’re trying to boost your confidence, gaze at yourself and say words that inspire your ego to flourish, like, “I am a beautiful being worthy of love.” 

3. Tap Into the Power of Colors

“Glamour magic,” or wearing different colors to attract certain energies, is helpful in manifesting: pink for love, red for creativity, yellow for happiness, green for prosperity, blue for wisdom, and purple for bravery. 

4. Write it Down

The only way to attain your aspirations is to take action toward reaching them. A manifestation journal can help keep the energy flowing and growing daily—write down your goals and use them as a tool to map a path forward, and make sure you’re headed in the right direction. 

5. Connect with Moon Power

Use the lunar cycle as a key to expedite your manifestation. The days between the New Moon and the First Quarter Moons are best because they mark a time of fresh, new energy. The best days to manifest this season are: September 3, 6, 10, 22, and 25; October 22; November 23 and 30. 

Get some extra help from Lisa Stardust’s The Love Deck, an astrological and magical deck for manifesting confidence and self-love, available now. 

Illustration by Nicole Daddona

As people live increasingly on their phones, making friends in the real world can be challenging. People, especially young people, are finding it more difficult to form meaningful relationships, resulting in the number of lonely people growing, especially between the ages of 18-29. Even though mental health awareness is no longer stigmatized and people (especially celebrities) share their experiences with loneliness and mental health, it is still a vulnerable subject for many people. But how do you meet new people in 2022 when everyone is on their phone? Tinder recently celebrated its 10th birthday, and how we meet people has changed drastically within those ten years; instead of meeting someone in the real world, it is now more common to meet someone online. Dating apps have become a regular part of everyday life for most single people, and it is safe to say Tinder, among other apps, has revolutionized the concept of modern dating – is it now time we do the same with friendship? Here are nine options for apps that help you to connect with people around you – both around the corner and on the other side of the world.

Bumble BFF

Most people know Bumble as a dating app, but they’ve recently added new features; you can now choose between Bumble Date, Bumble BFF, and Bumble Bizz. Bumble BFF is built upon the same algorithm as the original Bumble, where you get presented to people with similar interests that you can swipe either left or right to. Bumble BFF lets you pick what kind of friends you’re looking for. Maybe someone to explore your city, someone who wants to go clubbing, or perhaps just someone to grab a cup of coffee with. With the main target being people between the ages of 19-30, you can come across many people in the same place in life as you; rather you just moved to a new city, started a new job, or simply just looking to expand their circle of friends. 

Out App

If you’re a part of the LBGTQ+ community, The Out App is the place to be. The app’s function is to bring you closer to the LGBTQ+ community. Whether you’re traveling or wanting to explore the queer community around you, The Out App can help you with that. It allows you to connect with other people who are also queer and expand your community while making you aware of LBGTQ+ functons being held nearby. The Out App is created by queer people for queer people who are seeking people to connect with – but not necessarily people to date. 

Peanut app

Being a mother or wanting to become one can be a vulnerable place. Whether you’re pregnant, struggling to be, just became a mom, or are going through menopause, you can feel isolated from the rest of the world. The Peanut app is a safe space for women who want to connect with other people on the same path. It is easy to feel like you are the only one going through whatever you are going through; Peanut creates a safe place for women to share their support and advice. 

Hey! VINA

Hey! VINA was created to make it more accessible for women to meet women, make professional connections, meet new friends in your city, or even find your next traveling buddy. With the mission to empower women through supporting each other, Hey! VINA is a great place to find like-minded women in your community; it makes it possible to create new friendships and learn how you can support your local community of women. The app is 16+, but its target group is millennial women who want to develop friendships and connections with other women.

Ablo

If your local area lacks people to connect with, or you’re just interested in getting to know people worldwide, Ablo could be an excellent opportunity for you. Ablo makes it possible for you to connect with people across the globe. Ever wanted to get to know Japanese culture but didn’t speak the language? No problem; Ablo has an automatic translation feature that allows you to write in your language with people who might not know it. 

Meetup.com

With Meetup.com celebrating its 20th anniversary, it is safe to say they have experience with connecting people. At Meetup.com, you can join an existing group, create your own, or discover events near you. This makes it possible for you to connect with people who share the same interests; whether you’re looking for a new book club or a group to play tennis with, the options are endless. Meetup.com is a place for you to get new friends who you will vibe with, but it also can be used to find new business associates who share the same passion as you. And hey, if a group with your specific interest does not yet exist, create it! 

Yubo

If you are more introverted and the thought of meeting up with strangers seems a bit daunting, Yubo might be the right app for you. Yubo’s unintentionally primary demographic is young people between the ages of 16-18; even though the app is 18+, so it could still be the look for you. Yubo stands out from other apps because it allows you to have an honest conversation with the people you connect with before meeting up. It allows you to live chat with the people you connect with – making it possible to ensure you’re not getting catfished and having that (sometimes) awkward first meeting at home. And what’s not to like about meeting new friends from the convenience of your own home? 

Pawdate

The dog is the human’s best friend – but let’s be honest, that is probably not enough. Pawdate is a friendship app for your dog. You set up a profile for your dog, and then, based on your dog’s breed, age, and needs, you can search for the best match for you and your dog to hang out with. Besides your dog getting to meet new dogs in your neighborhood, it also makes it possible for you to meet up with people who also share the same interest in their dog as you do; win-win! 

Wink

Whether you just moved to a new town or want to discover people from around the world from your couch, Wink is the right option for you. Wink is an app that helps you connect with people worldwide and even your next-door neighbor. You get to pick your interests, and the app allows you to communicate with people with similar interests. If you find it nerve-wracking to be the one to take the first step, the app gives you different options to make it easier; you can play an icebreaker game or even call the person you befriended. 

Making new friends isn’t always easy, but these apps can make it a bit less challenging. Always make sure to meet for the first time in a public place and perhaps see if their profile is verified. It can feel vulnerable to admit to the world around you that you are looking for a friend or two but remember, it is not something to feel ashamed about. 

Photo by Elevate on Unsplash

Mercury retrograde occurs four times in 2032. During this time, we experience an illusionary slowdown in our lives, as Earth moves faster than the communication planet Mercury. From September 9 to October 2, Mercury will be moonwalking for the third time this year in the signs of Libra and Virgo. We get three passes to revise the story and path we are walking down—and uncovering truths along the way.

This Mercury retrograde brings extra trouble this season, as the trickster planet is moving backwards from harmonious Libra to analytical Virgo. And yes, there will be big blow ups followed by a lot of tears. The first thing to remember when addressing the Mercurial shift, is that our mental wellness may take a dip as our anxieties hit a high. Mercury is not only the planet of communications, gossip, and news—but is also the planet of mental health. Besides computer breakdowns and iPhone meltdowns.

Deceptions, which have been hidden until now, will be brought to the surface. We will all be able to view the truth and decide whether or not we have a place for malevolence in our lives. Breakups and shake ups will be a common theme, as this retrograde cycle offers us more scandal than our daily dish of celeb gossip. Defensive attitudes will create more conflict, which will ultimately lead to the deterioration of partnerships, contracts, and projects.

Mercury retrograde urges emotional communications and sensitive sentiments to come out and be front and center. Words may be cutting and met with psychological undertones. We may not understand the power of our words and actions, as we won’t be thinking of others—just ourselves along the way. Then, we will see the consequences of our actions.

Now, don’t despair. Not all is bad. Astrology is designed to function between nurture and nature. Meaning, just because the energy is unpredictable and intense, doesn’t mean that we don’t have the option to take the high road. Of course we do. It’s called “free will.” We can choose to act on a higher vibration and be truthful—even though it may hurt others temporarily. We can always take the respectable path, which will lead us to a deeper understanding of ourselves and situations, as Mercury’s moonwalk backwards often allows us to see things from a different perspective.

As we retrace our steps from August 22 (when Mercury first entered its pre-retrograde shadow), we will have nearly three weeks to revise the story from then. On September 23, Mercury retrograde re-enters Virgo, which will surely be an emotionally charged time, filled with tantrums and anxiety. The sweet spot occurs earlier in the day when the Libra sun and Mercury retrograde connect—which is when our computers and sentiments will be working at full speed and function. However, we will also see manipulations that have played a part in relationships before. Mercury turns direct on October 2, which will be another tense time. We will be in the post-retrograde shadow until October 16, when we get one last shot to right the wrongs from this transit.

The lesson to be learned is to implement strong boundaries and to speak your truth with compassion. Do unto others as you would have done on to you in order to avoid martyrdom that comes along with this retrograde. Try to be kind and gentle. Think before sending a confrontational email or text. Keep a box of tissues close by and live one day at a time.

By Lisa Stardust

Photo by Jack B. on Unsplash

Virgo:

Ace of Pentacles

(AUG. 23 TO SEPT. 22)

Level up, Virgo! A professional opportunity is being presented to you, but will you jump in and take it? Consider the possibilities before fully committing, because this endeavor is going to take a lot of your time and energy. We know success is not guaranteed, nor will it happen overnight, but if there is anyone who isn’t afraid of a little hard work, it’s you! This could be the start of something major.

Libra:

Seven of Pentacles Reversed

(SEPT. 23 TO OCT. 22)

What’s going on here, Libra? Your energy is scattered and your focus is nonexistent as you try to tackle everything all at once, starting and stopping a myriad of unfinished tasks and projects. Let’s reel it in, shall we? This fall, it’s all about efficiency, so ask yourself, “What do I really need to get done?” and give those things your attention.

Scorpio:

Five of Wands

(OCT. 23 TO NOV. 21)

Stop and listen, Scorpio. If you are continually swept up in chaos, it’s hard to see clearly and discern the next steps amongst the constant options around you. Taking moments to reflect can help you when seeking clarity. People might be pulling you in
different directions, with their own needs to be heard and validated, but remember to not get lost amongst others’ expectations.

Sagittarius:

Wheel of Fortune Reversed

(NOV. 22 TO DEC. 21)

A blast from the past bubbles up to the surface yet again, Sagittarius. Don’t be surprised to see some familiar faces or old habits reappear as you confront old patterns this season. Ask yourself, do you really need another turn on this ride? Or is it time to choose a new adventure this time around?

Capricorn:

The Magician

(DEC. 22 TO JAN. 19)

What will you do in this new season, Capricorn? With immense talent and a plethora of natural abilities, anything is possible, even when things feel overwhelming. Remember not to take *gestures vaguely* this all so seriously! When setting goals, keep in mind it doesn’t have to be forever; it could be just what feels good for right now. Let this alternative perspective be your guiding light as you choose your focus.

Aquarius:

The Hierophant Reversed

(JAN. 20 TO FEB. 18)

Go your own way, Aquarius! You have always been more comfortable taking the road less traveled, so why have you been doubting your decisions lately? You are the master of your own destiny and only you can define what success feels like coming up. Take the scenic route and enjoy the ride as you create your own rules and continue to defy the expectations of others.

Pisces:

The Empress

(FEB. 19 TO MARCH 20)

You have planted a seed with a new intention, but now what? Let it all unfold, Pisces, that’s what. It can be challenging to temper excitement with patience, but that’s what this season calls for from you. Before anxiously searching for the bloom, enjoy this moment of the life cycle of this enchanting endeavor. You only get the beginning once, so let’s spend some time savoring this part of the process instead of rushing ahead.

Aries:

The Lovers

(MARCH 21 TO APRIL 19)

Have your values been shifting, Aries? It’s been quite a year of personal transformation for you and, as a result of these experiences, you have taken inventory of what really matters to you. Because of this perspective shift, it’s a good time to check in on your personal relationships and let go of the connections or situations that no longer serve you. Don’t be afraid to let go of things you’ve outgrown.

Taurus:

Five of Pentacles

(APRIL 20 TO MAY 20)

Shift your perspective, Taurus, and stop the comparison game already! On the outside, it might look like everyone else has it figured out, but rest assured, life isn’t easy for anyone. Don’t allow your mind to create some type of false narrative of who you are. Focusing more on what you do have, and the good in your life, is a surefire cheat code to personal satisfaction.

Gemini:

Eight of Wands Reversed

(MAY 21 TO JUNE 20)

Slow down, Gemini. Inspiration has struck like wildfire and the potential of how to channel this exhilarating energy is feeling endless, but it’s important to move thoughtfully and purposefully from this point forward. It would be a shame to get distracted and burn out as quickly as you began. Now is the time to gather your bearings and create a solid plan before rushing ahead into the great unknown.

Cancer:

The Emperor Reversed

(JUNE 21 TO JULY 22)

Loosen up, Cancer. Try as you might, you simply cannot control every aspect of every situation! This might be leaving you feeling frustrated and struggling to grasp hold of something – anything – but try slowing down instead. It can be as easy as closing your eyes and taking a few deep breaths to center yourself. Focus on what you actually can control – your own responses to situations – rather than everyone else’s.

Leo:

The Knight of Cups

(JULY 23 TO AUG. 22)

Let your heart lead, Leo. Tap into the deep well of your emotions for inspiration as you navigate complicated decision-making and sort out sticky situations that may come your way this season. Your resolutions might not make sense to others, but that’s OK. Don’t feel the need to defend yourself or make excuses to anyone because what matters most is that your choices feel right to you.

Featured Deck: Queer Tarot by Ash + Chess

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1. Don’t Worry Darling

This psychological thriller directed by and featuring Olivia Wilde and starring Florence Pugh, Harry Styles, Nick Kroll, and Chris Pine, revolves around a 1950s housewife living in a utopian experimental community whose life begins to unravel when she starts to suspect her husband may be hiding some dark secrets. Coming to theaters Sept. 23.

2. The Red Skein by SWOON

 Prolific street artist Caledonia Curry, aka SWOON, digs deep into her body of work in this book covering her street art, studio works, animation projects, museum installations, and community projects. The collection also contains a selection of essays and contributions from various artists, art critics, and curators, including Judy Chicago and New York Times reporter Melena Ryzik. Get your art on at dragopublisher.com. 

3. She Said 

A dramatization of the journey that New York Times reporters Megan Twohey and Jodi Kantor went on to break the Harvey Weinstein sexual assault story, She Said chronicles the events that helped propel the #MeToo movement into a worldwide call to action. Starring two-time Academy-Award nominee Carey Mulligan and Zoe Kazan, the film is directed by Emmy winner Maria Schrader with a screenplay by Oscar winner Rebecca Lenkiewicz. Coming to theaters Nov. 18.

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4. The Silent Twins

Based on a bestselling book, the film The Silent Twins is the true story of June and Jennifer Gibbons, a pair of Black twin sisters from a small town in Wales who refused to communicate with anyone but each other and created a fantasy world all their own. Starring Letitia Wright and Tamara Lawrance, this fascinating biopic hits theaters Sept. 16.

5 .Bad Sisters on Apple TV+

Get hooked on this dark comedy about five sisters who form a strong bond after the early deaths of their parents. One of the sisters has a husband who’s a piece of shit. But the clan has plans for him…. Find out more as this family saga rolls out episodes through Oct. 14th.

6. Our Lady of Radium by Charming Disaster

Inspired by the life and discoveries of Nobel Prize-winning scientist Marie Curie, Our Lady of Radium is the fourth album from goth-folk duo Charming Disaster (aka Ellia Bisker and Jeff Morris). The nine-track album delves into her research, her romance with husband Pierre, the “radium girls” who were poisoned while working with radium-based paint, and more. Stream tracks at charmingdisaster.com/ourladyofradium. 

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7. Gutsy on Apple TV+

Hosted by Hillary Rodham Clinton and Chelsea Clinton, this docuseries based on the Clintons’ collaborative work The Book of Gutsy Women features female artists and activists who embody what it means to be gutsy. Guests include Megan Thee Stallion, Gloria Steinem, Kim Kardashian, Wanda Sykes, Dr. Jane Goodall, and many more. Get inspired to break barriers when the series premieres Sept. 9.

8. “Joan Didion: What She Means” at The Hammer Museum

Gathering more than 50 artists and featuring over 200 works including paintings, photos, sculpture, video, and other memorabilia, this exhibit at The Hammer Museum at UCLA explores famed author Joan Didion’s life and body of work. On view from Oct 11 through Jan. 22.

9. Listening in the Dark: Women Reclaiming the Power of Institution Edited by Amber Tamblyn 

Listening in the Dark  is a collection of essays focusing on how intuition has helped shape the lives and choices of visionary women across several fields, including literature, science, art, education, medicine, and politics. Edited by BUST columnist, award-winning author, activist, and actor Amber Tamblyn, the book contains essays from badasses like Amy Poehler, America Ferrera, Jessica Valenti, Huma Abedin, and Congresswoman Ayana Pressley. Find out more at harpercollins.com.

10. Death of an Artist Podcast

True crime podcast fans listen up! Death of an Artist takes on the case of Ana Mendieta, an up-and-coming performer, sculptor, and painter whose death rocked the art world in 1985. Was it a suicide or did her husband—famed sculptor Carl Andre—kill her? Hosted by curator Helen Molesworth, the show revisits the details of Mendieta’s death and the subsequent trial of Andre that followed. Available everywhere you get your podcasts starting Sept. 23. 

Photos: (Don’t Worry Darling) Warner Media; (She Said) Universal Pictures; (Silent Twins) Courtesy of Lukasz Bak/Focus Features; (Bad Sisters) Apple TV+; (Charming Disaster) Florence Montmare; (Death of an Artist) Pushkin; (Amber Tamblyn) Stephanie Diani; (Didion) Hammer Museum/Brigitte Lacombe

 This article originally appeared in BUST’s Fall 2022 print edition. Subscribe today!

Shitty Happens

I’ve watched comedian Sam Reece turn plastic cutlery into a crown, wear a bedazzled Tums bottle as a bag, and add tiny disco ball tiles to a tissue box (“I just made sobbing a lot more fun”)—her “low-stakes, high-impact” DIY antics (@shittycraftclub on TikTok and IG) are hilarious and heartwarming. Plus, New Yorkers can attend her IRL Shitty Crafting events! –Lisa Butterworth

@shittycraftclub A love letter to @ROMMYDEBOMMY ? #shittycrafts #crafttok #craftersoftiktok #diybag #diydesigner ♬ original sound – Shitty Craft Club

Doll Parts

Any doll could be made with brown yarn, but the beauty of Yolonda Jordan’s My Pretty Brown Doll: Crochet Patterns for a Doll That Looks Like You is that dolls—and creators—of color are at the center of the book, not a variation on a theme. The hands that demonstrate crocheting are brown hands, and the patterns reflect the wide variety of shades of brown skin and shapes of African-American hair—including Afro puffs. –Debbie Stoller

Cool Cat

Maybe it’s because my first high-school job was at the Sanrio store, but my love for Hello Kitty runs deep, so I want to pack all my beach beers and picnic essentials in Igloo’s new collection, which features the red-bowed icon and her friends on tumblers, lunch and tote bags, and their famous Playmate cooler. ($19.99-$44.99, igloocoolers.com.) –L.B.

Fruit Loot

I picked up a couple jars of Girl Meets Dirt preserves on my last trip to Cowgirl Creamery and the flavors—Shiro plum with mint, rhubarb lavender—have been knocking my cheese boards outta the park ever since. Founder Audra Lawlor also produces shrubs and bitters from her century-old orchards on Orcas Island off the coast of Washington, which are the real summer jams. ($12-$18, girlmeetsdirt.com.) –L.B. 

String Theory

Calling all shredders! Fender’s new electric guitar, Player Plus Meteora HH, and the Player Plus Active Meteora Bass (pictured above), not only come in cool colors, but we also have it on good authority (i.e., an endorsement from Michelle Zauner, aka Japanese Breakfast) that they are excellent for lady hands, which might make them worth the splurge. ($1,149.99-$1,199.99, fender.com.) –L.B. (Image courtesy of Fender) 

Photo of Sam Reece by Bridget Badore

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Look, we love a fancy vase. But if you’re not actually living the cottagecore life, cut flowers cost enough without having to house them in something special, too (and don’t get us started on the storage ish). Paper sleeves solve these problems and more; slip one over any old vessel—from a mason jar to a cut-off plastic water bottle—to turn it into a stunning setting for your stems. Wallpaper samples or scraps are the main material in this DIY, making it nearly waterproof and especially budget-friendly. Some companies even give them away; we got ours from Spoonflower ($6 for a 1′ x 2′ piece of wallpaper, which makes one medium-size sleeve). If you don’t have a sewing machine to make your own, opt for one of our hand-picked buys. Either way, you’ll have a gorgeous fake on your hands that folds up flat when it’s not in use.  –Laurie Henzel and Lisa Butterworth

DIY Materials

Newspaper

Pencil

Ruler

Scissors

Wallpaper 

X-Acto knife

Cutting mat or cardboard

Painters’ tape

Sewing machine

Instructions

1. Use newspaper to make a template. Decide what shape you want your vase sleeve to be, then draw it onto a piece of newspaper using pencil and a ruler. Make sure the shape is tall enough to cover your vessel and wide enough to easily slip over its circumference. The width of your sleeve should be about twice the diameter of your vessel plus an inch. (Our smaller sleeve is about 7″ x 10″, and the bigger one is 12″ x 12″; both cover vessels with a 3″ diameter.) Cut out two identical versions of the shape. Tape or staple the left and right-side edges together (not the top or bottom), and slip it over your vessel to make sure it fits. 

2. Once you’re happy with the size and shape of your template, trace the shape onto the wrong side of your wallpaper sample. For a more exact design, measure the lines of your template, then draw them onto the back of your wallpaper. Cut out two identical pieces using an X-ACTO blade on a cutting mat or piece of cardboard. (Wallpaper with a busy pattern is much more forgiving than one that’s bold and graphic when it comes to placement of the design.)

3. Place the two pieces wrong-sides facing and use painters’ tape to hold the top and bottom edges together. Sew along the left and right sides of your sleeve, ¼” from the edge, using thread in a complementary color. Snip the thread, tie each end in a knot to secure, and trim tails or tuck them inside your sleeve.

4. Slip sleeve over your vessel. 

Vase Time 

Don’t feel like stitching? Just buy one of these paper sheaths and slide it over a regular water glass or bottle to elevate your flower-arrangement game.−Callie Watts

(From top:) Paper Vase in Toile de Jouy, $15.84, maisomparis.etsy.com;  Paper Vase Riviera Arch, €19.50, octaevo.com; Paper Vase Set, $29.99 for set of 3, eyetravellab.etsy.com; Paper Vase Cover of Johannes Vermeer’s “The Milkmaid” from the Rijks Museum, €19.95, boutiquesdemusees.fr; Coral Paper Vase from the Craftsman Collection, €19.50, octaevo.com.

Header photo by Karen Pearson (Flowers courtesy of Athabold  )

This article originally appeared in BUST’s Summer 2022 print edition. Subscribe today!

When talking about spousal abuse, we normally think of physical violence or verbal intimidation. But my husband exerted control over me by completely hijacking my finances, and it took years to repair the damage.

I squint in the sunlight as I search the grocery store parking lot for my dark SUV. As I walk past a PT Cruiser parked in the same row, I unconsciously press my fingernails into the soft flesh of my palms. I hate PT Cruisers. I hate the oddly curved shape of them, and I really hate the memories they bring up for me.

Those memories, unfortunately, revolve around a past relationship of mine that was defined by “financial abuse.” It’s a term I wasn’t even familiar with at the time, but one that aptly describes the two years I spent being controlled by someone who was using my credit cards and draining my assets for his own personal gain, despite my telling him repeatedly to stop. His manipulation impeded my ability to provide for our child’s most basic needs—needs he had no interest in helping to meet himself—and every month I spent with him dragged our family that much closer towards eviction and made it more difficult for me to leave.

It was a very isolating situation, but I was far from alone. According to the National Network to End Domestic Violence, financial abuse occurs in 99 percent of domestic violence cases, but according to a 2014 study, 78 percent of Americans did not even recognize financial abuse as a form of domestic violence. I am just one of millions of women who have experienced this kind of abuse, but I am also one of the lucky ones who found a way out.

When my ex-husband Dax and I were first married in 2001, we were both 23 and living in Cheyenne, WY. One of our more pressing needs at the time was a reliable car, because we were expecting our first baby and his old, classic Ford didn’t always start. At first, he talked about buying his parents’ Ford Bronco because they had just bought a new truck. That sounded good to me, so I suggested we save a few thousand dollars to give to them as a down payment and then make monthly payments after that. A smart and sensible solution, right? Unfortunately, Dax decided to ignore my advice. Instead, we soon found ourselves at a local car lot looking at brand-new PT Cruisers.

I had agreed to go with him just to look at cars, but I did not anticipate that he would immediately start shopping for something brand new. Personally, I had never even bought a car before, and I had no idea what kind of financial obligations went with that sort of purchase. Dax swore he would be able to sell his old car easily after finding something new, and with that money, the new car payments would be taken care of. But still, I was very nervous whenI saw the prices written on the windows of the cars he was talking to the salesman about. We were both working at the time, but he was still in the probationary period of his new sales job, and he could (and would) be let go if he did not sell a certain amount for his new company. We didn’t have any savings or an emergency fund. But we did have a baby due in a matter of months. Sadly, none of that slowed him down. Before I knew it, we were in the salesman’s office with Dax intending to purchase the second-most-expensive PT Cruiser they had. He got on my cellphone and began making calls to find money to borrow for the down payment. I sat there, silently hoping that he would fail. In the end, however, he decided to split the down payment of $4,000 between my three credit cards, and I reluctantly agreed.

I had signed up for a few credit cards in college, used my cards very rarely, and always paid them off in full, immediately. I had no idea that paying to register Dax’s car and carrying full-coverage insurance for him myself would dig such a deep financial hole for me—and me alone. After we made the purchase, his old car took several months to sell, and by then, Dax had been laid-off for not making the sales quota he needed, while I was out on maternity leave.

After Dax used my cards to buy his car, we had to make interest payments, plus pay the $455-a-month car payment, maintain expensive insurance since the car was brand new, and still have money to live on. But the high balances and skyrocketing interest did not deter him. Neither did my telling him over and over how much it would ultimately cost since we could only afford the minimum payments. By this time, I sorely regretted combining our checking accounts and putting his name on one of my credit cards to use for household purchases. My parents and grandparents were my financial role models and they all had joint accounts, but none of them were financially irresponsible and I did not know the warning signs of financial abuse. I just thought combining finances is what married people did. 

I made payments and he kept swiping the little plastic card. I kept working and he was often unemployed. Our debt kept growing and no matter how little money was coming in, he kept up the same level of spending, swipe after swipe. Whenever my credit card statements and bank balances arrived, it was always a surprise to see how many transactions for bottles of Mountain Dew and clove cigarettes one unemployed man could make knowing the rent or electric bill was due. But my objections fell on deaf ears.

The rest of my short marriage was similarly financially catastrophic. I stressed about money all the time, and my stomach always hurt. I prioritized paying rent and buying diapers and groceries, and I repeatedly hid my credit cards. But Dax would always find them. It didn’t matter whether his name had been added to the account or if mine was the only one, he would use them, saying that he should have access to any money I earned because we were married. Meanwhile, he sat at home playing video games while I worked, and his parents babysat our son. My husband did not care about keeping a roof over our heads, so I wrote out the rent check, electric bill, made minimum payments on the cards, and then hid the checkbook, forcing him to borrow money from his parents to make payments on his car.

I suffered and went without so much while trying to provide for my son. Meanwhile, I drove an old Pontiac with a broken heater that my parents let me use because I couldn’t even drive that horrible PT Cruiser. Some complications from my pregnancy kept me from being physically able to use the Cruiser’s stick shift. And when I was finally able to use my right arm again, I had to start learning to drive a stick from scratch. It didn’t matter that my name was on the car, or that I earned most of the money to pay for it, or that I also bought the gas. Dax had bought it for himself.

After about two-and-a-half years of marriage, I couldn’t handle the stress any longer. It was humiliating having to borrow money from my teenage sister who was in college and working as a waitress for the summer just to buy diapers. She didn’t bat an eye as she counted out some of her tip money to buy whatever her nephew needed, but I felt like crap about my choice of husband and that I couldn’t afford everything for my child on my own.

“Bad relationships rarely start out that way, and each woman has to get to her breaking point where she realizes she has had enough”

Bad relationships rarely start out that way, and each woman has to get to her breaking point where she realizes she has had enough. I got tired of the promises Dax never intended to keep and I could no longer endure constantly yelling at him to stop spending money we didn’t have or begging him to actually work, since he had gone through 10 jobs in less than 3 years. By the time I kicked Dax out of our apartment in the summer of 2003, my finances were a disaster and it took years to clean up the mess. The credit card companies came after me even though I had called Visa and Discover and told them my husband was using my cards without my permission. Since my name was on the accounts, I was held responsible for hundreds of Dax’s purchases, even without my signature. Eventually, however, when I went to court to fight for custody of our son, the judge ruled in my favor and Dax was finally ordered to take responsibility for the debt he had created. I walked out thinking everything would get better. But that was not the end.

Dax did not take my name off the car, and then the PT Cruiser was repossessed after he got fired from another job. He did not pay the credit card debt he had been ordered to resolve, opting instead to file for bankruptcy. I went to the bankruptcy hearing and witnessed him squirming out of his obligations. Again. Meanwhile, I was the one who the credit card companies and the dealership still came after for the debts he’d incurred. He didn’t pay child support, and because he’d managed to take his name off the phone accounts he’d purchased before the spilt, my own phone was shut off twice for non-payment. I felt like I was drowning.

When I went to Dax’s bankruptcy hearing armed with the legal decision from our divorce hearing, the judge granted him the bankruptcy and said nothing about what he owed me, as if I was not even there. I called creditor after creditor, but his bankruptcy was a get-out-of-jail-free card. The credit card companies didn’t care about the paperwork I offered to send them proving that Dax had been ordered to pay for what he had charged. It didn’t matter to them that his name was not even on two of my accounts that he had maxed out. But I simply couldn’t pay down those bills or pay for the PT Cruiser that had eventually been repossessed. I was paying for rent and daycare and buying groceries. After those bills were taken care of, I had student loans and my own car payments I had to make to my dad for a used car he’d bought me. After those expenses, my paycheck was completely spent.

I got calls and bills and past due notices from creditors because I did not file for bankruptcy like Dax did. Eventually, I started paying the bills I was assigned and made monthly payments to my lawyer. Several years later, I was rewarded for my responsibility with a new “secured card” with a $200 limit that allowed me to build up my credit again as long as I paid right away. I also inherited very high interest rates on any car loan I may want to take out in the future because the repossession of that PT Cruiser left a black mark on my credit. Our marriage lasted less than three years, but the financial abuse my husband inflicted upon me impacted my life for about a decade.

Ultimately, I did learn my lesson. And when I remarried in 2014, I chose a spouse with a Warren Buffett-level credit score who is helping me to get mine higher as well. I was able to build up my savings account and pay off all the debt Dax left me with, along with my student loans and my last new car. My credit cards have decent limits again, and my most recent car loan had an amazingly low interest rate. Most of all, though, I now know for sure that I can recognize a financial abuser, and I can say confidently that I have survived.

If you or someone you love is struggling with a financially abusive relationship, you’re not alone. Here are some resources to help you get free:

211.org 

A network of over 200 social services agencies across America that can help users meet basic housing, food, transportation, and health care needs during times of crisis.

Opencounseling.com

Find affordable mental-health treatment wherever you live with this growing list of providers committed to financial accessibility.

Womenslaw.org

Free legal information and resources for victims of abuse.

NNEDV.org/resources-library/financial-abuse-toolkit/

Resources for escaping a financially abusive relationship, tips for regaining financial independence, links to social services, and more, from the National Network to End Domestic Violence.

This article originally appeared in BUST Summer 2022 print issue.

Top Image: Illustration by Lauren Wilcox

—Carly Trudel

Crunch Drunk Love

Chili crisp is my latest food obsession. I am head over heels for this crunchy, spicy, goes-on-everything topping! You can drizzle it on every meal—at breakfast it makes eggs sing, it levels up avocado toast at lunch, it turns any steamed veg or grilled meat into a bomb-ass dinner, and of course it makes rice a thousand times more delicious.

I first picked up the old-school Lao Gan Ma Chili Sauce (lao gan ma is Chinese for “old godmother”) from my local Chinese market. It’s got various chilis, black beans, and bits of crunchy fried onions in oil—I don’t know how they keep those onions crispy, but it is a flavor sensation. Lucky for me, there are approximately one million modern versions, and I’ve made it my mission to try them all. Based on extensive testing and completely subjective assessment, here are a few of my chili crisp faves.

Kari Kari Garlic Chili Crisp ($14.99 for 6 oz., eatkarikari.com): Created by a Seattle wife-and-husband team, this chili crisp is superior to them all. It’s got lots of crunchy garlic bits, rich mushroom flavor, and is spicy enough to wake your mouth up. Letter Grade: A+++

photo courtesy of eatkarikari.com

Mr Bing Chili Crisp ($11.99 for 7 oz., mr-bing.com): This one’s got garlic—yum—and comes in both mild and spicy (though it’s not that hot). Both have great flavor and substantial garlic bits. Letter Grade: A

photo courtesy of mr-bing.com

S&B Umami Topping Crunchy Garlic with Chili Oil ($7.48 for 3.88 oz., worldmarket.com): Nutty sesame plus fried garlic and onion give this Japanese oil its flavor, plus it has a high crunch-to-oil ratio. Like Lao Gan Ma it contains MSG—that doesn’t bother me, but I know some are sensitive to it. Letter Grade: B+

photo courtesy of worldmarket.com

Momoya Chili Oil with Fried Garlic ($6.50 for 3.88 oz., yummybazaar.com): Another Japanese version, this one is very crunchy, with mouthwatering hints of sesame and red pepper. Contains MSG. Letter Grade: B

photo courtesy of yummybazaar.com

Fly by Jing Sichuan Chili Crisp ($17 for 6 oz., flybyjing.com): Jing Gao is the woman behind the wonderful black bean flavor and strong spicy kick of this crisp. It’s a very popular choice, but loses some points for being less chunky and more oily than the others. Letter grade: B-

photo courtesy of flybyjing.com

–Laurie henzel  

LÔTELI is a women-owned, small business located in NYC, and in addition to their products being super cool, they encourage sustainability by shipping with minimal packaging; suggesting that their customers extend the life of the float with patch kits; and will even recycle it at the end of its life.

From the super affordable and cute heart shapes ($29.99) to the bigger cassettes ($49.99 – $59.99) these are a guaranteed conversation starter and would make a fun gift for your next pool party.

 Photos courtesy of Loteli

Sorbet is the OG of dairy-free frozen desserts. No ice-cream machine necessary; all you need to make this fresh, fruity treat is a food processor— and a little advance planning. The key, especially on a steamy summer day, is to chill all your utensils in the freezer (including the food processor bowl and blade) and work quickly. With their dense, abundant flesh and plenty of naturally occurring sugar, frozen watermelon and papaya make very tasty outcomes, especially with a touch of fresh citrus juice to punch up the flavor. A little added fruit juice makes these sorbets especially smooth; for the best results, use just enough to make them creamy without being watery (it’s OK to have some left over). Because these are whipped instead of machine-churned, they’re best enjoyed immediately or stored in the freezer for no longer than two to three hours. (Pack leftover sorbet into popsicle molds and freeze overnight to keep the flavor train rolling.) For an extra-fancy finale, garnish bowls with fresh mint sprigs. — Terry Hope Romero

WATERMELON-POMEGRANATE SORBET

Makes approximately 1½ quarts

Any fresh watermelon makes great sorbet, but choose a seedless one if you don’t want to spend time digging out the seeds.

Ingredients

4 generous cups diced watermelon, seeds removed

1-2 Tbsp. freshly squeezed lemon juice

⅓ cup chilled pomegranate juice

Instructions

1. Arrange diced watermelon in a single layer on a baking sheet and transfer to the freezer. Freeze until completely solid, at least 8 hours or even better, overnight.

2. When you’re ready to serve sorbet, pulse frozen watermelon in a food processor into a grainy puree. Add 1 tablespoon of lemon juice and 2 tablespoons of pomegranate juice. Pulse, intermittently scraping the sides of the processor bowl with a rubber spatula, until the mixture is very smooth. Taste and add more lemon juice if desired; if the mixture seems a little stiff, pulse in one or two more tablespoons of chilled juice.

3. Scoop into serving bowls and serve immediately. If sorbet gets a little melty, pack into a freezer-safe container and chill for 20 to 40 minutes or until firm enough to scoop.

PAPAYA-LIME SORBET

Makes approximately 1½ quarts

My favorite papaya for sorbet is the large Mexican variety with rich salmon-colored flesh, but the smaller golden Hawaiian papayas work just as well. Ripe papayas give slightly when gently squeezed and have a tropical fruit aroma.

Ingredients

1-2 ripe papayas, approximately 2 lbs.

2 Tbsp. freshly squeezed lime juice

½ cup chilled peach nectar or orange juice

Instructions

1. Cut papaya in half and use a metal spoon to remove seeds; discard seeds. Use a Y-shaped vegetable peeler to peel papaya and dice. Arrange diced papaya in a single layer on a baking sheet and transfer to the freezer. Freeze until completely solid, at least 8 hours or even better, overnight.

2. When you’re ready to serve sorbet, pulse frozen papaya in a food processor into a slushy puree. Add 2 tablespoons of lime juice and 2 tablespoons of chilled peach nectar or orange juice. Pulse, intermittently scraping the sides of the processor bowl with a rubber spatula, until the mixture is very smooth. If the sorbet seems a little stiff, add one or two more tablespoons of chilled nectar or juice. Pulse until desired texture is reached.

3. Scoop into serving bowls and eat immediately. If sorbet gets a little melty, pack into a freezer-safe container and chill for 20 to 40 minutes or until firm enough to scoop.

Images: Angela Decenzo 

After losing her eyesight to a condition called incontinentia pigmenti in 2013, a teenage Lucy Edwards achieved YouTube stardom by posting tutorials on how she does her makeup blind. Now 26, the U.K.-based content creator is a successful journalist, radio broadcaster, disability activist, and social media sensation with 1.7M TikTok followers. “I started making short, educational content,” says Edwards, “answering the questions I’d get on how I do day-to-day tasks.” From showcasing how she pulls together stylish outfits to 60-second lessons on guide dogs, Edwards demonstrates how she accomplishes an amazing array of activities on TikTok @lucyedwards, on Instagram @lucyedwardsofficial, on her Lucy Edwards YouTube channel, and on lucyedwards.com. “I don’t just want to inspire people because I get out of bed,” she says. “I want to inspire people because I’m a capable and competent person who is strong and determined to live the life that I’ve always wanted.”- Aliza Pelto 

@lucyedwards I’m blind, what do I see? #learnOnTikTok #myTruth #blindness #blind #disabilitytiktok ♬ The Journey – Sol Rising

Top Image: Lucy Edwards

This article originally appeared in BUST’s Summer 2022 print edition. Subscribe today!

The fallout from SCOTUS’ overturn of Roe v. Wade was felt this week when it was reported that a 10-year-old girl in Ohio had been forced to travel to Indiana for a safe abortion after being raped and impregnated by an adult man. Ohio was one of the first states to take advantage of the overturn of Roe v. Wade, imposing a ban on safe abortion 6 weeks after conception, without exception for rape and incest. 

Unfortunately, if not unexpectedly, the right-wing, “pro-life” response to such a heartbreaking story was a snarky attempt to discredit the child and erase the case entirely.

After President Biden shared this story without offering any details regarding the identity of the girl, the location of the crime, or any other checkable facts about the situation, eyebrows were raised. Some individuals wondered if a story from only 1 (potentially biased) source should be trusted.  But while pro-choice politicians and activists such as the President spread this story to draw awareness to the realities of the recent ruling, right-wing media outlets sought to discredit it altogether. 

Dave Yost, Ohio’s anti-choice Attorney General, spoke out against the Indianapolis Star for even reporting this story and threatened to investigate the doctor that performed this “alleged” procedure. Politicians and right-wing media sources alike were quick to call the story a lie meant to promote the progressive agenda. South Dakotan governor Kristi Noem and Ohio congressman Jim Jordan (in a since-deleted Tweet) stepped up as well to speak out against this “fake news”.

Yost was quieted when, within 24 hours after his denouncement of the Star, the child’s rapist came forward and confessed to having raped her at least twice, providing sufficient evidence that this girl exists, was raped, and sought an abortion. 

There is, of course, no shame in rigorous, investigative journalism that is unwilling to report on a story until it has been properly sourced and is cautious of a single-source story that neatly serves the narrative of one side of a hot-button issue. There is, however, immense shame in calling the story   “too good to confirm” and a “fanciful tale” (Wall Street Journal), an “activist tale” in a now-edited headline (New York Post), and “the lies and deceit of abortionists” on cable TV (One America News). Behaving this way does not establish your reputation as a credible, inquisitive journalist; it only makes clear to a terrified 10-year-old girl, traumatized from a verified rape and recovering from a taxing medical procedure, that her pain does not matter. 

Now that there is clear evidence that this situation was not fabricated, one can only hope that causing this kind of harm in favor of “owning the libs” was worth it for the media outlets and elected officials who stood up bravely against a 10-year-old rape survivor in a hospital bed. 

Top Image: Charles Edward Miller, CC BY-SA 2.0 <https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-sa/2.0>, via Wikimedia Commons

 Aisha “Pinky” Cole bristles at labels. The 34-year-old says she’s not the typical entrepreneur. “Most people start businesses because they want to make money,” Cole explains. “I started Slutty Vegan because I cared about experiences and how people viewed the experiences I could create for them.” For Cole, that means vegan burgers with a side of community activism.

She started slinging her burgers—with cheeky names like the classic Fussy Hussy and bacon-topped One Night Stand, both slathered with Slut Sauce—on Instagram in 2018. Now she has a food truck and four “bangin’ plant-based” brick-and-mortar locations in the Atlanta area, with plans to expand to Athens, GA; Birmingham, AL; Baltimore, MD; and Brooklyn, NY.

But Cole’s politics go beyond the plate. She’s purposefully opened her restaurants in food deserts, and she created the Pinky Cole Foundation to support aspiring entrepreneurs of color in the hopes of bridging the generational wealth gap. She also uses her platform to motivate people to vote, get active in local politics, and yes, eat vegan food. “Now vegan is hip-hop. It’s urban. It’s cool. All the things you never thought it would be,” says Cole, whose burgers have been eaten by the likes of Megan Thee Stallion, Justin Timberlake, and Snoop Dogg. Cole’s food, which is infused with the ingredients of her Jamaican roots, is made with meat-eaters in mind, and Cole is quick to point out that 97 percent of Slutty Vegan’s visitors are omnivorous. “I ain’t mad at it because if I can get you through the door and get you to like vegan food, then I know the intention was met.”

Cole’s first cookbook, Eat Plants, Bitch: 91 Vegan Recipes That Will Blow Your Meat-Loving Mind, comes out this fall and includes recipes for plant-based comfort foods like egg rolls, cheesesteaks, and street corn. But Cole says the labels around the food are less important than the impact. “Labels separate us,” Cole explains. “Why can’t food just be good?” –Stephanie Ganz

Pinky’s Picks

Vitamix Blender

“I make my soups and smoothies in my Vitamix. I love to create my own sauces.”

Vegan Dairy Substitutes

Cole swears by I Can’t Believe It’s Not Butter’s vegan variety, Daiya Cheddar Style Shreds, Unsweetened Silk Almond Milk, Grace Coconut Milk, and of course, nutritional yeast to complete her vegan pantry. “I have a true vegan’s kitchen. I read the back of every box because I’m mindful of what I consume.”

Pimento Seeds

“I’m Jamaican, so I love pimento seeds, Jamaican peppers, and thyme, and I put garlic in literally everything.”

1. Vitamix E310 Blender, $299.95, vitamix.com

2. Williams and Sonoma OXO Spiralizer, $47.95, williams-sonoma.com

3. Grace Caribbean Coconut Milk, $8.26, amazon.com

4. Kingston Pimento Allspice, $4.50, kingstonspices.com

5. King Oyster Mushrooms, $17.95, amazon.com

6. Vegan – I Can’t Believe It’s Not Butter!, $3.98, walmart.com

7. Daiya Cheese Shreds, Cheddar Style, $5.79, daiyafoods.com

8. Slutty Vegan Chik’n Head, $16, sluttyveganatl.com

9. The Slutty Vegan Truck! Book starting at $700, https://sluttyveganatl.com/food-truck/

PHOTOS (header), sandwich, and slutty vegan bus: Slutty Vegan ATL

This article originally appeared in BUST’s Summer 2022 print edition. Subscribe today!

The Royal Treatment

Plant Kween Christopher Griffin shares their best tips for growth—Your Greenery’s, and Your Own 

No one exalts in the joys of plant parenthood like Christopher Griffin aka @plantkween. “When I water my green gurls, I make it a party! I blast music, I put on a fun outfit, I pour myself a lil’ cocktail,” they say. “It’s a whole entire mood.” And it’s infectious. They may have nearly 200 houseplants now, but a single Marble Queen Pothos, and the legacy of their garden-loving grandma, set this green thumb on their journey, one that’s as much about self-care as plant care. “Putting that love, care, and attention into my plants has enabled me to put that same amount of love, care, and attention into my own Black, queer, femme being,” Griffin writes in the intro of their first book,You Grow, Gurl! Plant Kween’s Lush Guide to Growing Your Garden (Harper Design), out now. Here, Griffin gives us their tips for nurturing your own indoor oasis, and nourishing yourself in the process. –Lisa Butterworth   

 1) Check the soil before watering, dahling. In the beginning of this journey, I sent a bunch of plants to that little botanical garden in the sky due to overwatering. So this kween learned to pay closer attention, allowing my green gurls to tell me what they need—and hunty they are a vocal bunch! Most houseplants only need water about every 7 to 10 days (in warmer months) or every 14 days (in colder months), but it can vary based on the type of green gurl she is, the kind of pot she’s in, the soil mixture—even the weather that week. Check the soil moisture of your green gurls every week by placing your finger two inches into the soil. If it’s damp, leave that kween be; she’s good. If it’s dry then she’s thirsty—give that kween a drink.

2) Wipe down those leaves, gurl. Plants are not furniture, so they should not be collecting dust, dahling! These leaves are a plant’s meal ticket, so removing any dust makes sure your green gurl catches as much sunlight as possible so she can do her thang—that good ol’ photosynthesis. A little damp cotton cloth with some cool water does the trick! 

3) Give your green gurls a spritz, hunty. Every morning, as I warm up my jasmine tea, I spritz some of my green gurls with a little misting bottle. It’s relaxing and my green gurls love it! The plants I spritz are epiphytes, which are plants that grow on top of other plants or trees, coexisting in the most harmonious, harmless way. Some examples include the staghorn fern, green gurls from the monstera family, mosses, orchids, and tillandsias. Spritzing the aerial roots of these kweens, and in the case of my staghorn fern, spritzing the shield frond and her leaves, mimics the rainfall they’re used to and keeps them looking lush. 

4) Check in with your green gurls. They’ll thank you. It’s a relaxing routine that I have come to love, especially when I’m feeling stressed. It gives me an opportunity to step away from technology, rest my voice, rest my mind, and really just get back to the basics—interacting with nature. This routine is also fabulous for your green gurls because it provides you with an opportunity to check and see if there is any new growth, any leaves that need pruning, any pests on their leaves that you need
to get rid of, if you need to rotate them to make sure they’re not leaning too far toward the sun, or perhaps it’s time for a little repotting because they need room to grow.

5) Water yourself and make this journey a fun one. I’ve learned so much about myself during this botanical adventure. I’ve learned how to better care for myself through caring for my plants. Am I drinking enough water? Is my body getting enough sunshine? Are my roots and foundation sturdy enough to support my new growth? I’ve realized that I am basically a houseplant with complex emotions.

If you are just starting out on this journey of lush greenery, I hope you are ready for a wonderful, viridescent ride. Caring for plants can be tedious and can seem like a chore if you treat it that way! Build a plant family that vibes with you—there is no green thumb, you simply have to match the plants to the level of care you can provide. I encourage you to go into this journey with a curious mind, eager to learn about the plants you are bringing into your space. Understand that you will have some plant fails (all plant parents do), but you learn from those mistakes and do better next time. And make it fun! 

Header photo: PHOEBE CHEONG

This article originally appeared in BUST’s Summer 2022 print edition. Subscribe today!

Midsummer marks the beginning of a new season. It occurs from June 19-25 (Midsummer’s Eve occurs this weekend), at the beginning of the summer solstice. This occurs when the sun is at its most vibrant and highest potency, making it a celebration of life and love.

Being that these days are the longest and fullest of the year, it’s a wonderful time to soak up the sun and breathe in life. You can charge your crystals and tarot cards under the sun to give them a boost of energy, as well as meditate outside to connect with the universe.

In many countries, Midsummer is a cherished tradition. People dance around the Maypole with friends and family, wear flower crowns to celebrate the circle of life, eat seasonal fruits and vegetables, and drink libations to celebrate the good times to come. Bonfires, parties, and positive vibes are a must fit this time honored tradition that’s spanned centuries.

This weekend, Bri Luna, the creative director and owner of The Hoodwitch is throwing a party with Harridan Vodka to celebrate Midsummer in the beautiful garden at Barely Disfigured in Cobble Hill, Brooklyn. There will be seasonal cocktails, tarot readings, and of course flower crown making with your favorite witch, Bri Luna (The Hoodwitch). Not only that, but she’ll also be casting a prosperity spell — so you definitely should come.

Get tickets here to secure your spot at this wonderful event on June 25, which also has an open bar for guests and the chance to mingle with the most magical people in NYC.

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If you’ve been baffled by the holes in the shelves your favorite tampons once inhabited, rest assured, you’re not losing it. Time Magazine reported earlier this month that due to supply chain issues caused by COVID-19, the United States is facing a national shortage of tampons. The prices of materials like cotton, which tampons are made of, have skyrocketed, making the tampon production process far more strenuous. There are some tampon makers, such as U by Kotex, who claim that they’ve not been affected by supply chain issues. Then there’s Procter and Gamble’s Tampax, which is struggling to get the materials necessary to meet demand. That’s a huge point of concern—Tampax’s challenges in acquiring raw materials inevitably affect the entire industry, because in many ways, Tampax is the entire industry. They alone held nearly ⅓ of the tampon industry’s global market share in 2020, and their iron grip has not loosened. Because Tampax is so widely used, any hit to them inevitably impacts a substantial portion of the 70% of menstruators in the US who use tampons.

Procter and Gamble has chosen to respond to the shortage by increasing prices—last week, Bloomberg reported that the average price of a pack of tampons has increased by 9.8%, while the average price of pads has increased by 8.3%. This is a deeply consequential decision, seeing as many unhoused Americans have few options for menstruation but the tampon. Reusable items like Diva Cups and period underwear may appear to be viable alternatives, but they require extensive cleanup to reduce the risk of infection. Menstrual Hygiene Day conducted interviews with homeless women about their periods in 2016, and revealed reusable products, though seemingly cost efficient, were an unrealistic solution for their interviewees, both sheltered and unsheltered, because of inconsistent access to “private cleaning facilities.”  They reported that many women in shelters fear the stigma of using communal resources to clean their menstrual products, while those who sleep on the streets often struggle to find any facility where they can clean themselves, much less their period underwear or Diva Cups. A tampon simply requires less cleaning from the user—once it’s dirty, you just throw it out. For many homeless, they are preferred even over pads, as tampons can be used without underwear. 

 

 

 

 

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These price increases will not be minor frustrations for many Americans. Already, they are greater than that—a lack of access to menstrual products has debilitated American women since long before the tampon shortage. According to The Journal of Global Health Reports, ⅔ of the 16.9 million low-income menstruators in the United States could not afford menstrual products last year. A study surveying 183 low income women on menstrual health found that nearly half were forced to choose between food and menstrual products from 2017 to 2018. 84% of teens surveyed in a 2019 study on menstrual health had missed or knew someone who missed school because they “did not have access to period products.” We are already dealing with a period poverty crisis in the United States. We know what the consequences are. Those who struggle to meet the high price often do not groan and begrudgingly pay the premium—they free-bleed so that they can afford to eat, they miss out on their education, they soil their clothes. Price increases force more into that position, where their lives are dictated by a process which they can’t control.

Menstrual hygiene nonprofits—such as Helping Women Period, which provides period products to menstruators at no cost—are an important method for reducing period poverty and helping low-income people better manage their periods. Now, even that looks disheartening. From January to June of 2021, over 445,000 tampons were donated by nonprofits—in 2022, just over 213,000 have been donated in the same timespan. This isn’t because the amount of tampons needed has halved in one year. Nonprofits simply have less access to tampons, no matter what the demand might be for the communities they serve. Such a decrease in free menstrual products will inevitably worsen period poverty—that in turn, will inevitably worsen outcomes for many, mostly women, whose school, home, and worklife may all be affected by the inability to hygienically manage their period. 

 

 

 

 

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Now, more than ever, it’s essential to support organizations like Helping Women Period. I Support the Girls is a great place to look if you have any unused period products, or even unused undergarments—they provide free period products and underwear to homeless people around the world. There’s also Period, which donates products to marginalized communities across the U.S. They run out of products quickly because there’s such high demand, so giving your unused products to them is a big help. You can also look right in your backyard—homeless shelters, especially women’s shelters, have a finite supply of menstrual products. Your local shelter likely accepts donations of unused pads and tampons with open arms. There are myriad places to go, because there are myriad people who need period products. That was true even before the tampon shortage, but it is truer now.

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Today, June 24, 2022, the United States Supreme Court overturned their decision on Roe v Wade, which  means that Americans have lost their Constitutional right to safe abortions, and 26 states are either definitely or likely to ban on abortion. 

But even before this decision came down, states that oppose abortion had made the process of going to a clinic as miserable and tedious as possible. Six states require an ultrasound before receiving an abortion, a glaringly obvious attempt to guilt patients into changing their minds about the procedure. And over half of US states require counseling before an abortion procedure, a process which does little more than waste a pregnant person’s time. 

If you want to avoid driving across your state just to be guilt-tripped, a medication abortion is your best bet. It’s the chosen procedure for over half of abortions performed in the United States, and it’s easy to see why:  by administering two pills at home, you save yourself the anguish of repeat trips to a clinic, which is especially inconvenient for those with limited access to abortion clinics in their state. 

Now, as Roe v. Wade takes its dying breaths, medication abortions are perhaps the biggest threat to states seeking to outlaw abortion entirely. Without Roe, states will be able to pass laws shutting down clinics and forbidding doctors from performing abortions. Medication abortions are a murkier area. The pills used for medication abortions—Mifeprex and Mifepristone—are FDA-approved, and states can’t pass laws that contradict the FDA. This is because the FDA is a federal organization, and the Constitution explicitly states that federal rules always trump state ones. That the courts will protect medication abortion isn’t a guarantee, but there is a legitimate, constitutional argument for it. Abortion pills, right now, are our best bet—but they’re still an imperfect solution.

In an ideal world, one could walk into their local Walgreens or CVS and pick up the pills as they do Tylenol or Advil. The reality is sobering. Those with easy access live in blue states, where abortion restrictions are unlikely to increase after Roe is overturned. But 32 states, most in the South and Midwest, require physician approval to purchase the abortion pill. Since the FDA only regulates the pill up until 10 weeks into the pregnancy, getting that seal of approval wastes precious time. 

That’s alongside the fact that a medication abortion is on average over 500 dollars, and insurance has become less likely to cover it. Someone living in poverty in an anti-choice state would struggle to have enough time to get physician approval and save enough money for a medication abortion. In the event that abortion pills do get protected by the courts, those who need them the most may be shut out. Bills mimicking the spirit of California’s SB-1142, which helps fund out of staters seeking an abortion, will be essential. That doesn’t cover the cost of traveling across state lines, but it could make abortion access less financially burdensome for some. 

Access to safe abortions will be significantly reduced in the post-Roe era. Anti-choice legislatures will fight hard to make sure that’s the case. That will lead to dangerous, often fatal consequences for those with limited resources. Medication abortions aren’t a cure-all solution—nothing, in a post-Roe world, can be. But if they can protect even one person from an unsafe abortion, they’re worth a fight.

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My neighbors probably hate me.

This morning I opened my front door, lit some incense, and grabbed some pots and pans. One would naturally assume I would start frying an egg for breakfast, but my intentions were quite different (much to my neighbor’s demise). Once I felt ready, I began to clang the metal pots together, creating a powerful noise that vibrated in my hands. It could have been my imagination, but the air felt cleaner. Maybe my ancestors were onto something; maybe this really does cleanse the atmosphere of evil spirits.

I’d heard something of this practice in passing, but it wasn’t until I watched a video from a fellow Christian witch on TikTok that I thought to do it. @srazzi97 is a Christian practitioner with over 19,000 followers that focuses on Slavic folk magic. Her videos are witty, charming, and insightful enough for me to incorporate her advice into my own practice. And if there’s anything I love to do, it’s banish evil spirits and annoy my neighbors at the same time.

Undoubtedly, the rise of witchcraft has entered mainstream society and it could be said that TikTok is responsible for it. The hashtag #witchcraft has over 9 billion views on the app, making it one of the most expansive online communities. The hashtag is full of spells that could help you find love, money, or success and – depending on your situation – even hexes or curses.

But it’s not just incantations that #WitchTok has to offer. There’s all sorts of magical advice being given – for free – to anyone who’s interested. #BabyWitch has a whopping 2.7 billion views, catering to witches who have just started out in their practice and in need of counsel from elder witches. A hugely popular request is information on crystals; which can be submerged in water (we wrote an article about bath rituals here!), how do you “charge” them, and how do you know which are real? Whatever your question may be, #BabyWitch probably has it covered.

I started off my personal journey with very little knowledge. #WitchTok helped me integrate into a digital community and receive tons of assistance when I felt completely lost and staring blankly at my crystals thinking, “What the hell do I do now?” But after over a year’s worth of esoteric knowledge under my belt, I can safely say that – while it’s important to do research on all platforms such as books – TikTok does have valuable knowledge.

I’ve compiled a list of people I watch on the daily as recommendations. 

@Srazzi97

@srazzie97 My boyfriend: “are you okay??” ?? #christianwitch #chaoswitch #kitchenwitch #slavicgirl #folkmagic #witchythings #witchyvibes #witchesoftiktok ♬ vibe for this year – joseph fagundes

Sarah is a Slovene-American Christian witch. She has a unique sense of style in today’s world, donning long skirts and Slavic-styled shawls, and it all adds to her mysticism.While I haven’t been following Sarah for long, I’m already obsessed with her channel due to my love for Slavic culture. She discusses the Baba Yaga archetype, kitchen witchery (cooking with a magical twist!), and interviews pagan gods through the use of tarot.

@linathejesuswitch

@linathejesuswitch Reply to @laurelmcfa Jesus has the sweetest personality. ? #christianwitch #witchypodcast #jesuswitch #dailywitchcraft #witchtips #witchesoftiktok ♬ original sound – lina oils astrology & Christ

It doesn’t take an elder witch to know that witchcraft has a long and complicated history, but Christian magic is a subject that tends to rub people the wrong way. Lina is a master when it comes to theology in Christian witchcraft, such as the Abrahamic Pantheon which are “-entities or deities that come from the Abrahamic texts and religions,” Lina says in one of her videos. Like me, she once belonged to the Evangelical community so her religious trauma is something myself and many others are able to identify with. By reflecting on this past life of hers, she’s able to offer support and guidance for those recovering from toxic Christianity – not just new witches. Lina also has a podcast called The Jesus Witch Podcast on Spotify so give it a listen!

Christian practitioners aren’t the only people I find myself drawn to. Even though I personally only worship Yahweh, I know that all cultures and practices are valuable to my growing as a witch. Here are some of my favorite witches that don’t necessarily follow the Christian god.

@ChaoticWitchAunt

@chaoticwitchaunt some (folk) witchy tips that i wish i knew at the beginning of my practice! (u don’t have to be a witch to do some of these ?) #folkmagic #folkwitch #practitioner #washurdoors ♬ Amas Veritas – Alan Silvestri

Frankie is arguably one of the most popular witches on TikTok. In fact, they may be one of the reasons WitchTok is so popular. Their follower count is a whopping 1.4 million and they just released a book called Spells for Change. Last year, I was a practicing Hellenistic witch (meaning I specifically worshiped the Greek gods) so I needed to find elder pagan witches to learn from. While Frankie didn’t teach me directly, their expansive knowledge is pretty legendary – they’ve been interviewed by numerous news outlets such as The Daily Mail or Nylon. Frankie works with Italian folk magic and they’re a firm devotee of Diana, the Roman goddess of animals. If you feel inclined to, go check out their book on Amazon!

@MaraCaitlin

@maraacaitlinn Kitchen Witchery ?? #celticwitch #kitchenwitchery #sundaybrunch #witchtips #witchesoftiktok #witchtok #babywitchtips #fairy #thefae ♬ Halloween, Celesta, scary, suspicious one minute – arachang

Mara is an excellent source for Fae study – meaning fairies. She schools people on fairies: what kinds there are (I had no idea there was more than one specific kind of fairy before her), what their temperaments are like, and what to gift them. Mara teaches us a whole new interpretation of what we always thought was tiny people with glittery wings. Mara is also a kitchen witch who devotes herself to the religion known as Wicca – a faith that revolves around the sacredness of nature (among a slew of other theologies). Mara’s videos show her as a friendly, sprite-like entity as she bakes with a twist of magic by using specific herbs depending on her intentions. For example, she’s baked cookies using lavender and lemon; lavender being used to promote joy and lemon to represent healing. Her role in the community is nothing to scoff at – the witchy mama has at least 148,000 followers and the number continues to grow. Mara has a shop in which she sells loose leaf tea and crystal infusers, too!

@TarotbyKylin

@tarotbykylin

 

♬ Will to Live – Jacob Yoffee

Something I really love about Kylin is her energy. She’s one of the most positive witches I’ve watched on TikTok and you can see it in all of her videos. While her channel is primarily tarot readings, she has a fun shop where you can buy crystal bracelets and oversized crystal towers. Kylin is a firm believer in gratitude and lightworking – an umbrella term that means using your gifts for good and spiritual growth. Sometimes we just need a pep-talk and Kylin is just the person for it.

@RisingHighPriestess

@risinghighpriestess Priestess Story time?#LeadWithLove #blackwitchesoftiktok #DontQuitYourDaydream #priestessstorytime #witchtok #tarotreader #tarotreading ♬ No Me Diga – Daphne Rubin-Vega & Stephanie Beatriz & Dascha Polanco & Leslie Grace & Melissa Barrera

Gabrielle tells it like it is even if it makes you uncomfortable – especially when it comes to astrology. Not only is Gabrielle hilarious, but her humbling translations of your “big three” signs – which are your sun, rising, and moon – can snap us back into reality.  For example, she once said that the top five signs that “do not forgive and forget” are Leo, Aries, Cancer, Virgo, and Capricorn. Gabrielle’s passion and dedication to this niche in witchcraft is her specialty; needless to say, I’ll take her word for it.

@TheGlamourWitchLA

@theglamourwitchla It’s Happening!?? This is one of my favorite OG spells and one of the most effective? Part Two is on the way???#witch #sugarbae ♬ Fashionable and retro HIPHOP BGM(881868) – Oren

Glamour magic is very real and Alexis Nicole Jackson is an embodiment of it; think of it like embedding magic in your makeup routine with incantations that suit your needs. With at least 90,000 followers, her channel is filled with videos on how you can take your style or beauty routine and infuse it with magic to benefit you. If I could describe Alexis in any way it would be that she’s versatile. Her shop is full of oils and candles to manifest whatever need be, taking an ancient art and making it accessible for modern women. Do you need money? She has a prosperity kit that contains a manifestation candle, oils, and a gemstone to help you out. Alexis also offers a class that can teach you to manifest money through magic and rituals.

@Livin_everyday44

@livin_everyday44 Quick lil energy cleanse ?? #singingbowlmeditation #singingbowl #meditation #energy ♬ original sound – myla

Myla popped up on my “for you page” last year when I was just starting out my spiritual journey. The first thing that grabbed my attention was the softness of their voice and how relaxing it was. I hadn’t heard a person sound that gentle since my grandmother when I was a child. Their videos range from tarot readings to the explanation of angel numbers (a repetition of numbers, usually in threes, that have been sent to you by higher beings). Sometimes, we need to hit the pause button in our life in order to reboot and sometimes that can mean surrounding yourself with content that’s gentle and affirming. Myla – being as uplifting as they are – is the perfect person for the job. 

@TempuraApples

@tempuraapples I use this to wipe down the frames and bases of outdoor doors. The spray has a shelf life of about 3 days #witchtok #manifestation #cleanse ♬ Sunny Day – Ted Fresco

Temperance Alden has made a name for herself in this community since before WitchTok. Because she is a generational witch – meaning that she grew up with folk magick as a child and learned it from her own family members – she has grown popular online for her sage wisdom and knowledge she shares on Twitter and her Podcast FolkCraft. Temperance was one of the very first witches I followed on every form of social media and I can’t  help but continue to gobble up every inch of knowledge she shares. She is also the author of Year of the Witch – a book that explores how witches can harness the seasons to their advantage. As a master in folk magick, her videos discuss oils and candle dressing, which is a process regarding how one can use candles in their practice regarding color theory – how green represents money and black represents protection. Temperance still uses TikTok but her preferred form of social media is Instagram where she goes by the username @wildwoman_witchcraft. 

@FairyTarotGoddess

@fairytarotgoddess Can you tell I just woke up? ? #witchtok #vvitchtok #witchtiktok #witchesoftiktok #dreams #luciddreaming #luciddreamingtips #dreamwalking #dreammagick #magick ♬ Dreamy – Elijah Lee

As a self-proclaimed “eclectic witch” (meaning she focuses on more than just one niche of witchcraft) FairyTarotGoddess stays true to her word. She dabbles in tarot cards and even Reiki. She discusses reincarnation and the Fae while also sharing her own experiences with the deities she works with! 

Sometimes, the greatest information a witch can receive is the personal experiences of fellow witches. This is why I believe WitchTok is a blessing to the modern practitioner. Happy spell-casting!

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Update: On June 24, 2022, the United States Supreme Court overturned their decision on Roe v Wade, which  means that Americans have lost their Constitutonal right to safe abortions, and 26 states are either definitely or likely to ban on abortion. 

On May 2nd in a leaked memo, it was reported that the Supreme Court intends to overturn Roe v. Wade, the historic 1973 decision that legalized abortion in the United States. Since then, we’ve mobilized, we’ve protested, and we’ve disseminated resources through every media outlet we can think of. But still, this feeling of stagnance mixed with rage is common for many, and for me, it’s deeply frustrating—I feel as if I’m vibrating with the restlessness, with the need to do something. But calling my local planned parenthood or offering up my living room floor on Facebook to people who may be traveling for abortions feels a bit hopeless and misguided. 

This is where Abortion Access Front (AAF) comes in. 

Founded in 2015, the Abortion Access Front (AAF) is “a team of comedians, writers, and producers that uses humor to destigmatize abortion and expose the extremist anti-choice forces working to destroy access to reproductive rights in all 50 states.” They create content that informs and captures their audience, while also emphasizing how these issues disproportionately affect the poor and people of color. Through its mission and programming, AAF intends to make abortion advocacy accessible and understandable, while also connecting people to a network of independent organizations that need resources. 

“We want to make sure that if and when Roe falls, we have a plan for the groups who are still doing the work getting that support and being connected to each other.”

Max Carwile, Director of Programs at AAF, is the founder of Tennessee Stories Project (an abortion storytelling campaign) and joined the team this past year. Carwile’s passion for abortion access and advocacy started when she got an abortion at 17, and now, she works for AAF working closely with independent clinics, and engaging guests for AAF programming. Though it is appalling, the Supreme Court leak is exactly what AAF prepares for. “The Supreme Court decision and everything that comes before that decision, be it marching or raising awareness, educating on the Supreme Court case itself—Abortion Access Front, we’re really focused on the what’s next, what happens after the decision, what will people need to know, because we want to make sure people are prepared,” said Carwile. “We want to make sure that if and when Roe falls, we have a plan for the groups who are still doing the work getting that support and being connected to each other.” This plan consists mostly of ensuring people are prepared to lend their time and skills to the right organizations by educating and providing resources. And AAF does this through their Feminist Buzzkills Live: The Podcast and programming like their Operation Save Abortion trainings or mass calls to action. 

Though the information is heavy, I could listen and learn without getting too discouraged. 

As Director of Programs, Carwile finds guests in the reproductive health rights and justice sphere for the Feminist Buzzkills Live: The Podcast. The dynamic and wonderfully passionate podcast makes us laugh, cry, and learn. Hosted by Lizz Winstead (Daily Show co-creator and founder of Abortion Access Front), Moji Alawode-el (writer, activist, marketing manager Abortion Access Front), and Marie Khan (Activist, volunteer coordinator Abortion Access Front), the podcast has episodes on Abstinence-Only sex-education, Fake Abortion clinics, and really, any anti-abortion legislation that comes to light. The episodes run an average of 40 minutes. The hosts inform the listeners while also cracking jokes, expressing disbelief, and dropping stats. Listening to Feminist Buzzkills Live gave me a wealth of information in a casual, unintimidating way— which, of course, is AAF’s goal. “With our signature blend of humor and fun, we want to make sure people not only know what’s going on but how they specifically can plug in,” Carwile said. The podcast breaks down information that is usually widespread and undecipherable like the words of politicians and experts and helped me digest news I could trust. It’s entertaining and keeps the everyday person informed. Though the information is heavy, I could listen and learn without getting too discouraged. 

“We know that this work can be really draining and upsetting. In order to carry on, we’ve got to be able to laugh, we’ve got to be able to find the humor in it. We feel it’s really important to point out how ridiculous [this is], as a way of trying to denormalize these attacks,” explains Carwile. 

On July 17th, Abortion Access Front is hosting an Operation Save Abortion virtual training. An “onboarding into the movement” as Carwile called it, is a “supercharged all-day training experience that will be live-streamed” to each and every person who registers. Starting at 11 am, the trainings will be an educational house party of sorts, teaching attendees how to protect abortion rights through volunteering, talking to politicians, and connecting people to resources. “We want to have this day-long training as sort of an orientation to the movement. So people can use that as a time to figure out where they specifically can fit in, instead of trial and error…” Carwile said. 

The training is for anyone who wants to get involved, and it’s free. There will be activities to do with friends, events to add to your calendar, and lots of information on how to best get involved. But that’s just the beginning. The main objective of the July 17th training is to educate people around the country and send them where their skills are most valuable. Anyone can get involved, as long as they have a computer and an internet connection. “After July 17, people have access to a whole sort of activism calendar of the ways they can plug in virtually or in-person in their community, and that’s where they kick off their work.” Through the Operation Save Abortion training, attendees will get access to a calendar of upcoming trainings, upcoming events, and a list of the exact groups that most need volunteers. Ultimately, the movement is most effective when everyone knows exactly what to do and the Operation Save Abortion Training allows for people to have direction and be more effective. 

If you’re having feelings of restless uncertainty, AAF can help you take action. Signing up for the Operation Save Abortion Training, spreading the word, and inviting your friends is a great way to do something tangible and truly helpful. AAF was made for this—get the information from the experts. You can sign up for the Operation Save Abortion Training here, subscribe to the newsletter here, and the Podcast can be found on Apple Podcasts or Spotify.

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Abortion Access Front

 What is a hot girl walk?

Walking is the fitness trend that is hardly a trend, but thanks to a 22-year-old Tiktok-er by the name of Mia Lind, the oldest exercise in the world is getting a rebrand. The Los Angeles native started going on what she called “hot girl walks” in 2021 as a way to put focus back on herself, instead of things outside of her control. “The way that I was living was focused on other people, full of anxiety, a bad relationship with food and a bad relationship with myself.” The hashtag #hotgirlwalk currently has 143.4M views on Tiktok, with videos of people on their daily hot girl walks whether that is on the street, treadmill, in a park or even a hot girl walk to get a coffee.  

@exactlyliketheothergirls Link in bio ? #hotgirlwalk #hotgirl75 #spotifypartner @Spotify #newyearnewyou ♬ original sound – Mia

According to Mia, to have a successful hot girl walk, you must think only of these three things 

1. What you’re grateful for

2. What goals you want to achieve 

3. How hot and confident you are

Taking a hot girl walk is easy, but certainly, no joke—Mia suggests a 4-mile trek, or about an hour of walking a day­, however, there isn’t a definitive distance, it can be however long you like. The hot girl walk can be done inside the gym on a treadmill or outside in nature, as a walk to your favorite coffee shop or even walking your dog. All you need are comfortable clothes and shoes and your favorite music or podcasts. The hot girl walk is similar to GirlTrek’s 21-day Black History Bootcamp, a walking meditation that includes relevant readings, playlists, meditation prompts to educate and inspire you while on a 30 minute walk. 

@emmaconnolly Eric most definitely understood the assignment beats and all #hotgirlwalk #hgw ♬ Did It On’em – Nicki Minaj

This is exactly the confidence and positivity the hot girl walk strives to build. The goal of the hot girl walk is to eliminate the pressures of working out and provide the perfect way to add exercise to your daily routine. Additionally, the hot girl walk is not just for women, it’s for everyone who wants to live a happier, healthier, and mindful life. 

What Are The Benefits Of Taking A Hot Girl Walk?

Healthline reports that “Walking at least 30 minutes a day, five days a week can reduce your risk of heart disease by about 19 percent. Another benefit of walking can be a boost in your immunity. One study tracked 1,000 adults during flu season. Those who walked at a moderate pace for 30 to 45 minutes a day had 43 percent fewer sick days and fewer upper respiratory tract infections overall.

Harvard Health Publishing says walking helps to ease joint pain and may provide relief for people living with arthritis. Walking five to six miles a week may also help prevent arthritis altogether. 

Walking also does wonders for your mental health ,and has been found to reduce bad moods, anxiety and depression. New reaseach states that walking can help you live longer and increase the quality of your life.

Alongside the hot girl walk, here are seven more ways to incorporate physical activity into your day. 

Put On Some Roller Blades And Skate The Town

Brooklyn-based skate queen Lola Star photographed by Lauren Silberman

Rollerskating has been found to be a great exercise to improve your strength, stability and overall endurance. By engaging your glutes, quads, hamstrings, and calves, skating is an effective form of exercise. Here’s a great guide for getting started.

Get A Mini Trampoline

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According to the Cleveland Clinic, jumping on a trampoline is good for increasing cardiovascular health as well as relieving stress. Jumping on a trampoline forces you to use all your leg muscles to counteract gravity and push you skywards, and is a great activity for strengthening bone and pelvic health. Also know as rebounding, this low-intensity exercise works your core, legs, bum, and back muscles.  

Consider A Standing Desk

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One recent study found that standing six hours per day helped participants to lose more weight. A small study found that standing, even a few minutes a day, helps improve overall blood circulation and reduces blood sugar. Standing for 30 minutes a day can reduce your risk of death by heart disease. 

Get On A Bike And Cycle For A While

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Biking is an aerobic exercise which means not only are you working out your legs and abdomen but you are also working out your heart, blood vessels and lungs. Known benefits of cycling include: reduced risk of stroke, heart attack, cancer, diabetes, and even depression. An environmentally friendly and easy past-time that reduces your carbon footprint, bike riding has been proven to help improve balance, posture, and coordination.And here are a couple of accessories to make your bike ride even more fun. 

Try Some Ten-Minute Exercises

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HIIT(High-intensity interval training) is an exercise that involves short periods of intense exercise (think burpees, running in place, jumping jacks) alternated with short recovery periods. The workouts may be short, but they pack a mighty punch, and often produce similiar results to more high-intensity workouts, in half the time. Besides burning a large amount of calories in a short period of time, HIIT also improves your oxygen consumption, and can reduce blood pressure and blood sugar levels.  

 Give Yourself A Massage With Balls

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Exercise biologist and mobility coach Alexandra Ellis gave BUST the lowdown on DIY back massages using tennis balls. Research says rolling out your muscles reduces tension and increases your range of motion. 

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The sphere of mental health has witnessed monumental advancements over the past many years. What spearheaded this change was the replacement of asylums with community-based mental health services in the 1960s, that helped foster the holistic well-being of people battling mental illnesses. Moreover, in 1949, May was established as the Mental Health Awareness Month to acknowledge the existence of mental health struggles and spread awareness about how one can emerge from them. And ever since then, we have come a long way in destigmatizing mental health to the point where we don’t have to shy away from occasional ‘mental health check-ins’, taking a ‘mental health break’, and most importantly seeking therapy. 

In the age of social media as a rapidly growing platform, there has been a remarkable rise in the number of people talking about mental health. Films and shows like Single Drunk Female, Tuca and Bertie, and This Is Us have done an excellent job in their portrayal of mental health battles, thereby transforming people’s notions about the same. Furthermore, open conversations about this topic have brought about tangible changes in the forms of psychological therapy, school-based mental health programmes, and workplace counselling. 

However, despite a revolutionary shift in the narrative surrounding mental health, countless people still yield to the stigma attached to this topic.  In many parts of our society, talking about mental illness is still looked down upon as a sign of weakness.  So much so that it discourages a lot of folks from seeking help. 

According to a report by the CDC, in 2020, 45,979 people died by committing suicide in the United States, making it the leading causes of mortality in the nation. This indicates that one person takes their own life every 11 minutes on average. Mental health issues can affect anybody irrespective of their income, race, sexual orietantion or gender. And celebrity suicides are a testimony to this fact. In the last few months, we have lost the Grammy-winning country music singer Naomi Judd, Toddlers and Tiaras star Kailia Posey, and former Miss USA Cheslie Kryst to suicide. As a mental health advocate, Naomi Judd was always vocal about her struggles with an aim to inspire people to do the same. In 2017, she told NBC about her severe depression, confessing to not getting off her couch for two years and socially isolating herself because of her mental illness. 

In recent times, quite a lot of celebrities and public figures have opened up about their mental health stories. Their advocacy has supported the masses in their battles against mental health problems as well as stirred up healthy and insightful discussions around the same.

As Mental Health Awareness Month comes to a close, here is a list of celebrities that have inspired us by sharing their mental health journeys.

1. Selena Gomez

 

 

 

 

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Selena’s battle with mental health struggles is probably not news to most of us. In her interactions with various magazines and news outlets, she has opened up about how living with the auto-immune disease lupus and her subsequent kidney transplant negatively affected her mental well-being. Moreover, in an interview with ELLE Magazine, the 29-year-old artist called her bipolar disorder diagnosis “freeing” because it explained why she had suffered from anxiety and depression for so many years. 

A passionate advocate for therapy, Selena considers it a life-changing experience. The singer consults her therapist five times a week, which has helped her learn how to be in control of her emotions.

Living a highly publicised life, the Rare Beauty founder is also outspoken about social media scrutiny’s impact on her mindset. In a recent interview with Good Morning America, Gomez credited her four-and-a-half year long social media break with helping her become more “present” and form stronger connections with people. 

Along with her mother Mandy Teefy and Daniella Pierson, Selena Gomez has launched an online mental fitness platform called Wondermind that aims to provide people with tangible tools to navigate their emotional journeys and help “destigmatise and democratise mental health.”

2. Sophie Turner

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 The Game of Thrones actress has spoken candidly about how she has “experienced mental illness firsthand.” There was a point when negative comments on social media triggered body image issues, ultimately contributing to her debilitating mental state. Having suffered from depression, Sophie admitted that her “biggest challenge” has been getting out of bed, stepping out of her house, and learning to love herself. 

In a recent interview with ELLE UK, the actress revealed her struggles with an eating disorder, which she considers to be an effect of social media. “I look at the comments on Instagram and think, ‘Oh, fuck. Everyone thinks this about me.’ It would completely consume me”, she said. Sophie credits her live-in therapist with preventing her from indulging in unhealthy eating habits. Although she continues to battle depression, regular therapy sessions have helped it become “manageable”. “I know what I have to do to get myself in a good headspace”, she said. 

3. Lizzo

 

 

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Much like Sophie Turner, Lizzo has also spoken about how social media negatively shaped her perception of what a healthy body image looks like, which affected her mental health. The lack of body diversity and not seeing people with plus-size figures in the media undeniably triggered her anxiety. “You want to look like those things and when you realise it’s a physical impossibility you start to think, ‘What the fuck is wrong with me?’,” she said. “I think that took a bigger toll on me, psychologically, growing up than what anyone could have said to me”, she told Vogue in 2019. 

In a conversation with Variety in 2022, the YITTY founder claimed that stardom cannot shield a person from mental health battles. “People become famous, and it’s like — my DNA didn’t change. Nothing changed about me. My anxiety didn’t go away. My depression didn’t go away”, she said.

The artist also confessed that she felt like a “burden” to her friends because of the lack of privacy in her new life. “It bummed me out, because you do lose a sense of your privacy and yourself, the old self. I’m good with it now. I’m fine. I’m young. I’m talented. I deserve the attention”, she continued. 

4. Willow Smith

 

 

 

 

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On The Yungblud Podcast in 2021, the 21-year-old singer spoke about how her May 2021 performance on The Tonight Show Starring Jimmy Fallon triggered some unfortunate memories of an anxiety attack she experienced right before her “Whip My Hair” live performance when she was a child. 

“I was doing the Jimmy Fallon performance and I had a flashback of being, like, 10 or 9 and, like, having an anxiety attack on set. “And basically feeling like everyone around me was just, ‘You’re just a brat… Why aren’t you grateful? You’re having an anxiety attack,’ but they didn’t see it as an anxiety attack. They saw it like a tantrum”, she said. 

The “Wait A Minute” singer also confessed to engaging in self-harm on her mother’s show Red Table Talk. Jada Pinkett-Smith and her grandmother “Gammie,” were completely unaware of this. “It was after that whole ‘Whip My Hair’ thing and I had just stopped doing singing lessons and I was kind of just in this gray area of, ‘Who am I? Do I have a purpose? Is there anything I can do besides this?'”, Willow explained. 

In an interview with Ebro Darden on Beats1 in 2019, she highlighted the importance of using your platform to be “vulnerable” and speaking up about mental health to “let people know that they’re not alone.” 

5. Demi Lovato

 

 

 

 

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Demi Lovato has always been a staunch promoter of mental health and therapy. 

On The Zane Lowe Show on Apple Music in 2021, the “Heart Attack” singer revealed that they have experienced “depression and suicidal ideation” since they were seven years old. In 2011, the former Disney star was diagnosed with bipolar disorder after a long battle with self-harm, substance abuse, and bulimia. 

In an interview with Women’s Health in 2021, Lovato admitted to experiencing “episodes of mania” that led to times when their mind “would go all over the place.”  They were ultimately thankful to receive the correct diagnosis for their mental illness. “I went into treatment and I was able to work with incredible doctors who helped me figure out that I was, in fact, bipolar. It was a great feeling to find out that there wasn’t anything wrong with me. I just had a mental illness”, they explained. 

Besides therapy, the singer also considers exercise a great way to maintain mental fitness. “I actually exercise as much as possible because there’s something that it does—it just helps”, they said. 

6. Annie Murphy

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Schitt’s Creek actress Annie Murphy has had her own share of struggles with mental health. In an interview with People, the star stated that she battled depression at the beginning of COVID-19. 

In a conversation with BUST, Murphy revealed that to take control of her mental health, she attends therapy once a week, uses anti-depressants, and spends time with her loved ones. Moreover, she also emphasizes the importance of initiating honest conversations about mental health. “The reason I want to be open about it is because I hope to do my small part in maybe making people feel like they’re less alone—to show that everyone deals with this, and it’s normal and OK to ask for help”, she said. 

7. Lady Gaga

 

 

 

 

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In Oprah and Prince Harry’s docuseries The Me You Can’t See, the 36-year-old popstar got candid about how her sexual assault, health issues, and self-harm led to her mental health problems. 

On the show, Gaga recalled her disturbing experience of being sexually assaulted by a music producer when she was just a 19-year-old. She admitted to receiving hospital treatment for physical pain a long while after the incident took place. The “Shallow” singer has also been diagnosed with PTSD (Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder) and fibromyalgia. 

Furthermore, the artist also got real about “one of the worst things” she has experienced – a psychotic break which left her body numb. 

The artist credits medication, her psychiatrist, and Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) for helping her recover from mental health issues.

8. Amy Schumer 

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In an interaction with The Hollywood Reporter, the forty-year-old comedian unveiled her “big secret”: her conflict with trichotillomania, a hair-pulling disorder that started when Amy was in grade school. 

“I really don’t want to have a big secret anymore. And I thought putting it in there would be good for me to alleviate some of my shame and maybe, hopefully, help others alleviate some of theirs, too”, Schumer explained. 

Schumer’s depression and anxiety were also fuelled because of toxic relationships, a complicated past with her mother, her father’s illness, and a painful battle with endometriosis.

9. Taraji P. Henson

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The Empire star has spoken about her past conflicts with anxiety, depression, and suicidal thoughts in an interview with Entertainment Tonight. 

“It’s very real. There are so many people, right now especially in this time that we’re dealing with in history, that they’re contemplating… Every day is a struggle. I found myself struggling with not knowing or just giving up”, she explained. 

The 51-year-old actress also added that we must not be “embarrassed” of our thoughts. ‘That is a real thought that you’re having in real time. Don’t shun it. It’s real. Deal with it”, Henson continued. 

As a woman of color who promotes therapy, the actress started a project that pushed for free “virtual therapy” for African-Americans affected by the pandemic. She spoke to BUST about the Boris Lawrence Henson Foundation, a charity named after her late father. The goal of this organisation is to lift the stigma around mental health and provide counselling and support to Black children. 

10. Terry Crews 

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The Brooklyn 99 star has not shied away from getting real about how his abusive childhood, sexual assault, toxic masculinity and addiction to pornography have impacted his mental health. 

In October 2017, Terry Crews opened up on Twitter about his traumatic experience of getting sexually assaulted by a Hollywood executive named Adam Venit. “This whole thing with Harvey Weinstein is giving me PTSD. Why? Because this kind of thing happened to ME”, he tweeted. 

Victimized by toxic masculinity, Crews revealed that his trauma was often invalidated by other men who said that a tough, robust and muscular guy like him could not get sexually abused. Subsequently, the actor filed a civil case against Venit and his company WME, which resulted in him resigning from the company and WME making changes to its sexual assault policy. Ever since then, Terry has been a passionate campaigner for the #MeToo movement and continues to lend his support to male survivors. 

When it comes to his porn addiction, Crews credits therapy for helping him overcome it.

11. Naomi Osaka

 

 

 

 

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In 2021, the Japanese tennis player withdrew from the French Open because she was mentally unwell.

In an Instagram post, Osaka revealed that she has suffered from “long bouts of depression” since the U.S. Open in 2018. “Anyone that has seen me at the tournaments will notice that I’m often wearing headphones as that helps dull my social anxiety”, she wrote. 

 

 

 

 

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Earlier, the athlete had also refused to partake in post-tournament news conferences during the French Open because the negative questions often take a toll on her mental health. Due to her unconventional decision, Ms. Osaka was fined $15,000 by the tournament referee and threatened with suspension by the leaders of the four Grand Slam tournaments. 

However, Osaka received love and support from her fans and notable people such as multiple Grand Slam winner Venus Williams, former tennis player Billie Jean King, and Michelle Obama who praised her for prioritising her mental well-being. 

Inspired by her mentors Kobe Bryant and Lebron James, Ms. Osaka has launched her own sports agency called Evolve with her agent Stuart Duguid. With this project, they aim to guide the next generation of athletes in brand collaborations, investments and building their own business. 

12. Prince Harry

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In The Me You Can’t See, Prince Harry’s mental health docuseries with Oprah, he shares his mental health journey to motivate others to seek help. 

While discussing the impact of his mother Princess Diana’s death on his life, Prince Harry said that he is disheartened that “there was no justice at all.” 

Harry also opened up about how he experiences panic attacks and anxiety in his 20s, and how the clicking and flashlights of cameras take a toll on his mental health by triggering past childhood traumas. 

To heal from the death of his mother, Harry revealed that he attended a special therapy program called EDMR, which helps treat PTSD.

13. Issa Rae

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In an episode of The Read in 2019, the Insecure actress emphasized the importance of going to therapy if you work in the entertainment industry. 

Issa discussed her struggle with the superwoman syndrome, a condition inherited from her mother and grandmother that discouraged the actress from opening up about her thoughts and emotions.

But to protect her emotional well-being, the 37-year-old star ultimately decided to seek therapy.  According to Rae, the main takeaway from her journey is that “nobody gives a f*ck about you.” She believes that once you enter Hollywood, you’re on your own. You need to look out for yourself and prioritise your mental health. 

14. Keke Palmer

 

 

 

 

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 In a 2018 campaign with the Child Mind Institute called #MyYoungerSelf, the Alice actress revealed that she has been suffering from anxiety and depression since her teenage years. 

Her advice to her younger self is to be more patient, and ultimately you will be able to find ways to be “more in tune with yourself” and understand possible triggers.  

Due to her mental illness, Palmer experienced self-doubt and often felt that something was wrong with her. But she learned how to remind herself that a lot of people experience similar struggles, and she is not alone. “We all have our trials and errors with different things in our lives”, she said. 

If you or anyone you know is suffering from a mental illness, remember that it is okay to seek help.  

1. National Suicide Prevention Helpline                                                                   

2. Crisis Text Line                                                                                             

3. Boris Lawrence Henson Foundation provides free mental health services to African American individuals

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Several times a year, messenger planet Mercury starts to slow down in the sky, creating annoyances amongst us earthlings, as communication and travel starts to go haywire. Yes, it’s that time of year again! Drama, arguments, and chaos abound: welcome to Mercury Retrograde.

Hours before Mercury starts its journey backwards, Venus — the planet of love and money who had been retrograde since the beginning of May to June shifts out of its rearward rotation, moving forward. This may cause complications in matters of the heart and finances. ATM’s may malfunction, checks may unexpectedly bounce, and we may implode on our significant others for not giving us enough attention.

This Mercury retrograde glides from the signs Gemini to Taurus. Moving from air to earth can make us feel emotionally overwhelmed. With such intensity, we all may experience temper tantrums as we feel rushed to express ourselves or out of breath trying to keep up with the pace we kept in Gemini. Remember, this is your cosmic time to revisit and revise the past and to heal, to transform your world if you want to take it.

While Mercury retrograde officially starts on May 10, the story begins on April 25, during the pre-retrograde phase, which is when the planet starts to move more slowly around the sun than earth. On June 18, the post-retrograde phase will  end, clearing up all the Mercurial mishaps. The planetary moonwalk brings some confusing information our way as secrets are revealed and exposed. Stay calm, because a few days later the missing links to who, what, when, and why are resolved.

May 19 brings clarity to the chaos, as Mercury retrograde and Jupiter align, creating a both sweet and rational time to discuss partnerships, contracts, and travel. The caveat is that May 25 brings Mercury retrograde and Pluto together, revealing a ton of drama as past secrets and clandestine matters may come pouring out from nowhere! You may accidentally receive a text or email which was not meant for you or hear information from a third party that will rock your world. Try to use your higher mind to understand and get the truth, before reacting today, we all may argue back defensively, spreading the Mercurial chaos. As Mercury backspins into Taurus on May 22, expect some more Mercurial tricks to flare up in your world. These may be the best days out of the retrograde, as intense energy fills our hearts and words with passionate declarations. Don’t expect to get out of this vibe when Mercury turns direct on June 3, as the post-retrograde period, which is often marked with even more miscommunications. Be sure to triple check your finances: make sure you’re paid in full from work, items purchased are returnable, triple check your travel itinerary, and look forward to re-exploring old relationships. Just be on the lookout for bumping into old flames or friends, which may cause a little bit of mutual jealousy.

This Mercury Retrograde will make you feel like a fish out of water, but try to keep your cool as information filters in and use the quiet in between storms to understand your emotions more deeply. You will survive and come out transformed with a whole new perspective!

How mercury retrograde will affect each Sun sign

Aries 

Although you love receiving all the best in life, it doesn’t mean that you like the limelight. Taking a public stance on a social matter and just cause will create buzz around you. But, you can and will shine through brightly as long as you courageously stand by your beliefs. Don’t back down. The more you believe in yourself, the easier it will be to know where you are headed and going in all areas of life. Only you have the power to make this happen, Aries. Use it wisely. 

Taurus 

By not paying attention to minor details and skipping out on the obscure facts of matters, you are actually creating bigger issues for yourself. Focus on the minutiae of situations and conversations in order to gain clarity on matters. Then, you will be able to make exact, educated, and analytical assessments in determining your next actions without it becoming messy. The more you lean into your emotions and thoughts, the easier it will be for you to make the necessary choices throughout this planetary retrograde. 

Gemini 

You like to have a set schedule— even though you are a free spirit. The caveat is that life has other plans for you. Meaning, you may not be able to stick to your daily regimen. Don’t freak out! Just learn to go with the flow and handle every situation day by day.  If you feel as though you need help in maintaining your appointments and obligations, then you may consider buying a desk calendar or setting up an app on your phone that reminds you of the errands and tasks that need to be taken care of. 

Cancer 

Your finances are a little out of whack, which means that you may have to ask a friend or family member for a small temporary loan. Before you accept their money, be sure that the terms of the loan are very clear to avoid arguments with them down the road. As long as you are clear that it may take you a while to repay them, then it is a good option for you to ask them for additional funding. If you feel uncomfortable, then you can always try to sell items that you create on the Internet for extra cash.

Leo 

Your friends are leaning too much on you and not reciprocating your needs. You are beginning to feel like you are giving too much to them at the moment and ask them for a little more attention than they are currently giving to you. Relationships are meant to be on equal footing, if yours aren’t then it’s time to make changes. Be honest with your feelings. Talk it out with all the people you love to ensure that there are no hard feelings and that you can find peace within. 

Virgo 

It’s time to take control of projects that have been left on the sidelines and back burner for quite some time. This retrograde will give you some time to repurpose ideas and make them better. You can flush out a few outdated notions and projects that you’ve been working on, but haven’t had the motivation or inspiration to complete. This will help you live more efficiently in the upcoming months and give you the chance to complete tasks on your to-do list. 

Libra 

You can be an emotional hoarder at times. After all, it’s important for you to be the life of the party and popular amongst your peer group. But, now it’s time to tie up the loose ends in your life and evolve past relationships that aren’t allowing you to showcase the best version of yourself. Let go of people who don’t need to be in your life anymore. Get closure from others, if you need to. More importantly, temporarily move on if you can’t commit to them at the moment.

Scorpio 

Take a step back and reassess your values. By rethinking your ideology, you’ll be able to make transformative changes in your personal life — some of which will rock your world for the better. Don’t be afraid to evolve with the times. Move forward, not backwards to avoid inner turmoil. Throughout the process of the four retrogrades, you will be able to connect with the truest and realest parts of yourself — but only if you allow yourself to heal the wounds within.

Sagittarius

Self-reflection can lead you towards comprehending the past, present, and future. Don’t be scared to get deep and real with matters and feelings that you haven’t allowed yourself to explore in years. Doing the hard work that is necessary to heal will allow you to reach emotional highs, rather than lows. Plus, you’ll be able to squash a lot of pain that you have pushed down within yourself. By the end of this transit, your heart should feel energetically lighter and open to new possibilities.

Capricorn 

Taking your power back starts with having control over finances (at least that’s what it means for you, as an earth sign who relishes in monetary success). Once you are in the driving seat of your bank account and formulate a budget that works for your lifestyle, you’ll be able to save a few pennies for a rainy day and create a sense of security for yourself. Being financially independent is freeing, as well as being able to treat yourself when you please from savings. 

Aquarius 

You are constantly giving your time, energy, and resources to others. Now, being cosmically tasked during this planetary retrograde to take back some of your power and put it all into yourself. Take 90% of the tender love and care that you give out to others and sprinkle it on your life to heighten your vibe and frequency. The moment you do this, you’ll feel cosmically able and willing to raise your confidence. It’ll give you the chance to see the light at the end of the tunnel.

Pisces

You have a few secrets that you absolutely don’t want to come out right now. Keeping your clandestine activities undercover will prove challenging, as one of the skeletons in your closet may accidentally come out. However, you can control the collateral damage it causes by admiring fault and moving on. The more you keep your indiscretions close to your heart, the lesser the odds are of them coming out. This will allow you to relax your anxiety and calm your sentiments instead of being fearful of the catastrophic results.

-Lisa Stardust 

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On May 14th, various reproductive justice, health, and rights organizations want us to mobilize across the country. Planned Parenthood, MoveOn, Women’s March, and other organizations are promoting the “‘Bans Off Our Bodies’ day of action” and calling for mass mobilization. 80% of Americans support access to abortion, and yet, the supreme court seems not to be on our side. We are the majority. We can pressure unjust lawmakers to respect the will of the people, just like the Green Wave movement in Latin America. The Green Wave, for those who may not know, is a movement taking place primarily in Argentina. Last year, thousands of women and girls came together, marching, campaigning, and wearing green (hence the name), which has now become synonymous with reproductive rights. 

New York is an Access State (a state where abortion access will be protected), and thus, there is an opportunity for New York to be a national example of what reproductive care can look like). There are also many grassroots organizations in New York working on the ground, and on May 14th, they’ll be presenting opportunities for volunteering, donating, calls to action, and ways to support the movement. If you don’t live in New York, other “anchor marches” will be taking place in Los Angeles, Chicago, and Washington, D.C. 

Saturday, May 14th, wear green, mobilize, and tell everyone you know.

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Turn any old piece of furniture into a total tile icon

Whether you’ve got a boring table or an ugly nightstand, a little mosaic-style tile and grout is an easy way to give just about any piece of furniture a brand-new look. And it’s way easier than the dramatic finish would have you believe. Tiles are available at just about any home-improvement store, but it’s worth a visit to your local independent tile shop—they typically have more interesting options and will often have leftover tiles from custom jobs that you can get on the cheap. All you’ve got to do is line ’em up. 

Supplies

Cloth

2″ x 2″ square tiles (typically sold in 12″ x 12″ sheets) 

Adhesive spreader

Tile adhesive

Sanded grout

Plastic container (for mixing grout)

Colored pigment (optional; we used Tbrand iron oxide pigment in Blue, $17.99, amazon.com)

Plastic gloves (optional)

Grout float 

Cellulose sponge

Bucket 

Unless otherwise noted, all supplies are available at hardware supply or home-improvement stores.

INSTRUCTIONS

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Wipe your piece of furniture down with a wet cloth to remove any dirt or stickiness. 

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Lay out your tile sheets on each surface you want to cover to measure how many you’ll need. Depending on the size of your surface, you may be able to simply set your tiles as full sheets, trimming as necessary, if the edge of the tiles sets the way you want it to. But more likely than not, you’ll want to cut your tiles and place them individually so you can control the spacing.  

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Use the adhesive spreader to smooth a thin layer of tile adhesive onto the area of the surface you’re going to tile first (start in one corner to make placement easier). You want enough adhesive for the tiles to stick, but not so much that it squishes up around the tiles. Line up your tiles with the surface’s edge and press them gently but firmly into the adhesive, eyeballing the space between tiles (A). (Placement doesn’t have to be perfect on the first try; you have some wiggle room as long as the adhesive is wet.) If the adhesive does come up through the spaces around the tiles, wipe it off with a wet cloth before it hardens. Once you have covered the entire surface, let it dry until fully set, or for 24 hours. 

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Once the adhesive is dry, it’s time to prepare your grout in the container. If you’re using pigment to make a custom grout color like we did, you’ll want to add it to your grout powder now. (We used about 50 grams of pigment for 3 pounds of grout. Start with small increments of pigment as color is easy to add, but difficult to remove.) Stir it up, then mix the grout by carefully following the package instructions.

B

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Using the adhesive spreader, scoop a decent amount of grout onto the tiled surface—you want enough to fill in the cracks between each tile, all the way to the original surface of your furniture piece. Spread the grout all over the tiles, using the spreader to push it into each crack. You can also use your fingers in places where you want to push it deeper, or if you need to fill a gap (B).

C

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Once you’ve filled each space with grout, use a tile float to go over the tiled surface; this will even out the grout between your tiles. Hold the tile float at about a 60-degree angle and move it across the surface at a diagonal (so as not to accidentally remove any grout from between the tiles) to swipe off excess grout (C). 

D

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After you’ve used the tile float on the entire tiled surface, let the grout set for about 5 to 10 minutes. Then you’ll want to wipe off any excess grout that’s left. Fill your bucket with water, dip your sponge into it, and wring it out completely. Use the sponge to wipe off the face of the tiles, running it flat over the surface while being careful not to pull grout out from between the tiles (D). Repeat until you’ve rinsed nearly all of the excess grout off. For a final rinse, dip your sponge in a bucket of clean water, wring out entirely, and wipe off the surface one more time, holding the sponge at about a 60-degree angle and wiping diagonally in overlapping strokes. When one edge of the sponge gets dirty, flip it over to use a clean edge. Repeat, using only clean edges, until the surface is clean and the faces of the tiles are grout-free. Let the grout dry until it’s fully set, or for 24 hours, then your piece of furniture is ready to use! –Jessica Darakjian 

FLORAL DESIGN: BRANDON KHÔI NGUYEN

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 This article originally appeared in BUST’s Spring 2022 print edition. Subscribe today!

The first eclipses of 2022 occur on April 30 at 4:28 PM ET in Taurus and May 16 in Scorpio at 12:15 AM ET. This set of eclipses will help us glow and grow in the upcoming months, as well as pushing us to take responsibility and accountability for our actions in order to evolve. We may change our paths or see matters in a different light, as we are being cosmically gifted with knowledge which will help us become the people we always wanted to be. The flip side is that we may become too power hungry and more business minded as a result. 

The Solar Eclipse on April 30 in Taurus 

A solar eclipse occurs when the Sun, Moon, and Earth are all aligned in the sky. During this time, the Moon is very close to the ecliptic plane. This particular one is a partial solar eclipse. Not all of the Sun will be obscured by the Moon’s shadow. The light from the Sun won’t be visible on Earth and we will literally be in the dark for the duration of the eclipse. Without the Sun, we can’t see situations clearly and confusion will ensue as a result. 

This solar eclipse is an ideal time to manifest money or to get a jumpstart on making realistic decisions in love. We can use this cosmic opportunity as a chance to bring our dreams into reality by using pragmatism and realism. We can also put an end to family and personal squabbles now and move forward in a nice direction with those we love. 

Being that the Sun and Moon are aligning in Taurus, we look to see what their planetary ruler Venus is doing on that day. Luckily, Venus is making an auspicious aspect to Jupiter in Pisces (their favorite placements). We can expect to feel positive, creative, artistic, kind hearted, tender, and loving throughout the day — also to be given these sentiments by others.

The Total Lunar Eclipse on May 15 in Scorpio  

A lunar eclipse occurs when the Moon moves close to the Earth’s shadow during a Full Moon, after the Sun, Moon, and Earth are in exact alignment in the sky. The Moon retracts an orange tinge from the reflection of the Sun in the Earth’s atmosphere, making it a beautiful and magical cosmic phenomenon.

Lunar eclipses bring matters to light in unpredictable ways. Therefore, the only way to prepare for them is to expect the unexpected. Oftentimes, they shake up relationships and situations that need to be augmented and changed, with the hopes of supplementing a better outcome for the future in its place. They allow us to see into our lives and make improvements — even if we don’t want to, the universe will do so for us.